Post # 1
One of the most amazing people in the world, aside from my Boyfriend or Best Friend and a handful of my friends, is my ex. I know you weren’t expecting that!
So I get a phone call yesterday, X is getting engaged in June! I am sincerely happy for him, because she seems wonderful and he is genuinely happy. But my reaction? “Wow, that’s so SOON!”
And my reaction to my own BF? We’re not engaged quick enough! Isn’t it funny how you can see the difference? I think “June” is too soon for my ex, but I can’t wait for my own engagement.
So I am a little saddened. Life is going on, we’re ‘growing up’.
Post # 3
*hugs* One of the hardest days EVER was finding out the guy I was totally head over heels about freshman year of college was married with a baby that had been born THE DAY BEFORE! They got married when she was 7 months pregnant but oh man, I was so upset. It doesn’t help that a) I had found out the guy I had just broken up with started dating someone else b) my college tried to tell that I hadn’t graduated c) ALL I was in Hawaii. Worst. Trip. Ever. Isn’t it weird to realize that we’re all moving on and growing up and eventually we won’t even give them a second though? It’s all so fluid!
Post # 4
We were just talking about this in another post.
My situation is different. My ex left a bad taste in my mouth and we have been broken up for 5.5 years and he has only been in one relationship which has been for a year and they are married. I have been with my Boyfriend or Best Friend for 4.5 years and we are not engaged. LIFE IS SO UNFAIR sometimes.
Post # 5
Ouch, that does hurt. I’m glad you’re not devastated. If he’s happy and you’re happy, its all good! Still feels like a gut check though huh?
Post # 6
My SO found receipts for wedding purchases his ex made about three months after their divorce was finalized. He seemed pretty glib about it, but I was FURIOUS. Because of what it implied about the divorce, and how fast it happened, and the fact that she was going to spend piles of money on a wedding with her affair while he struggled to stay financially afloat during the short sale.
It’s all water under the bridge, I suppose. My ex has a new underage girlfriend every few weeks! But such is life.
Anyway, I’m glad you’re both happy. That’s all that matters in the end: are you happy with your choice? If so, awesome. 🙂
Post # 7
Definitely a gut check. While I am incredibly happy for him…. wow. I managed to avoid a bad mood around my Boyfriend or Best Friend last night, but ended up having a dream that made me ridiculously insecure this morning.
Life goes on… I don’t know that I’d care about my other ex’s, but the implications of this is that we’ll naturally have to step back from our friendship which probably makes me the saddest. I lost a part of me.
Post # 8
When I found out my ex was married it was way after the fact, like a couple years. I wasn’t surprised or upset, maybe a little shocked, but mostly angry that our mutual friends intentionally kept it a secret from me.
Post # 9
I just found out that my ex got his on & off again gf (of less than 1 year) pregnant! I was so sad for him because I know she’s not right for him, but he’s the kind of guy who’s going to marry her & take care of her.
He text messaged me at 1 am saying “I think I’m in some trouble…” and then he spilled the beans. It felt like a kick in the gut. I don’t really know why though b/c we’ve been friends since we broke up & there are zero feelings there….
I can totally relate taco! It’s just surreal 🙂
Post # 10
I think you’re handling this well!
I dated a guy for 3.5 years, we broke up and he started dating someone else immediately. They were married less than a year and a half later. I knew that I didn’t want to be with him and by this time I know that hubby was “the one” but it still really bothered me that they got married so quickly, especially since she was the “rebound girl” in my mind.
(BTW, I’m not trying to offend anyone who married a guy after 1.5 years, my feelings at the time were pissy b/c of a history with the girl! 🙂
Post # 11
My ex is married and his wife is preggers. I feel really weird about it. Like, OMG i can’t BELIEEEEVE you got over me! LOLOL j/k…
Post # 12
I also found out after they get engaged he’s moving to the east coast! Thank you girls, I feel better knowing I’m not the ONLY ONE who went through this.
I’m going to seriously lay off any marriage talk though. I suppose seeing the perspective of “too soon” for X was enough for me to really back off on the Boyfriend or Best Friend.
Post # 13
It sounds awful, but I would have totally been upset if my ex was engaged before me, lol. so childish but true. He’s engaged now, but only recently and I’ve been engaged since Feb. small victory. you take em where you can.
Post # 14
I feel your pain. In the same three day stretch, I got engaged, and both of the guys I dated in college got engaged too. It was pretty unsettling!
Post # 15
I’m super close to my ex too!! I actually refer to him as my other BFF! I’d feel the same way if he got engaged, more in the over protective way. I want him to be happy and find a great girl! So I could see how that might hurt! Sorry, hopefully yours will come soon!
Post # 16
I haven’t had this happen to me, but @lolaj — it reminds me of When Harry Met Sally and she’s freaking out because “he’s not supposed to marry the *rebound girl*!!!”
It’s super crummy ((hugs))