- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I called my Granny this morning to wish her a happy birthday. Talk soon turned to wedding plans. This is what I SHOULD have said.
Yes, I know the wedding is still six months away. To YOU , it’s six months. I understand why you don’t want to commit to it yet. I know, you want to go to Hawaii. I’m sorry my wedding plans are causing so much trouble. I promise this will be the only wedding I ever have.
To ME, it’s HOLY WTF WE HAVE LESS THAN SIX MONTHS TO GET a restaurant, invites, a final guest list, a dress for ME, Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, shoes, hair, makeup, photog, cake, diy my jars, order favors (beach fans/beer coozies! I <3 it), make a few Out of Town bags with beachy things, lose 40 pounds, etc.
** On a more less chaotic note, the Destination Wedding place will also serve as our family moon, and it is booked and halfway paid for. AAHHHH. And our STD cards should be here tomorrow. A little late, but whatever.
We are trying to fit ALL that into the next six months WHILE fixing/working on our new (50 year old) house, going about our day to day life, looking for a job, and getting adjusted to a new state/school/climate/people here 450 miles away in Tupelo.
Yes, I know, it would be easier if we just got married in Lexington, KY, where everyone (you) lives. However, please understand my frustration. We just moved here. Fiance just took a new job a few months ago. Noone that we know lives here. We are 7 hours away from Lexington. Venues are booked at this late date. Photogs are booked. Catering was WAY expensive. I made a choice. Destination Wedding with 10 or less people and a nice vacation, or a super expensive wedding 7 hours away and go home the next day. Well, I’m 33 years old AND WE are footing this entire bill. So my little fam and I decided on a vacation.
This “small, kind of like we’re gonna elope but our parents,daughter, and dog will be there” wedding turned into a full blown Destination Wedding with his ENTIRE FAMILY coming, and my parents. My family (lukewarm from the start) has shot the idea down completely. I can’t feel too bad, since they didn’t want to come to the wedding when it was being planned in THEIR hometown. (You mean you’re having it at 6:30 pm? That means I have to leave my house by 5 to get there….) So, YES, I AM having my wedding at the beach, in South Florida, barefoot, and I may actually wear WHITE even though you say I cannot because #1 I’m fat, thank you for pointing that out #2, I have a daughter #3 Fiance and I live together #4 I’m 33 years old. Yes, my dog is going. No, I can not “just put her in a kennel”. She is 12 years old and anxious. She does not kennel well. And maybe she wants to go on a vacation while she still can. Maybe I want her at the wedding.
Just wanted to vent. Why can’t people be positive and see the good in things?