(Closed) Gahhh!!! Wedding planning! (Rant)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
4 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014

Welcome to the tiny budget club!


The way companies exploit people who are planning a wedding is insane! Before I found my wedding venue I had such a hard time finding a reasonably priced, but pretty, venue that was less than £5-7k (I live in London). I was so excited to be engaged and threw myself into the early planning stages with some enthusiasm and excitement, but my spirits were swiftly crushed after I realised quite how expensive things would cost.

With regards to invitations, I’m making my own, because there is no way I’m forking out more money for things that I can do myself. Same goes for the flowers. I want a simple bouquet of one type of flower, so the day before the wedding I’ll be heading to the flower market to pick them.

And don’t even get me started on the price of dresses! I’m trying to stay positive, because at the end of the day, those things are very small in comparison to the womderful memories we’ll be creating with our soulmates, but, I’m still hoping I might win the lottery within the year!



Post # 4
723 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

haha I hear you. I feel the same way. My Future Mother-In-Law is also the type that wants a huge wedding but isn’t really helping out…yet she complains about EVERYTHING! Have you checked out Michaels for wedding invitations? You can get them on sale 10$ for 40 invitations if you’re lucky (we got them at this price) or even try making your own??

As for joining in on the rant….i have NO idea how people think its ok to charge so much money for FLOWERS ,….. maybe its because im not a flower person but im not spending thousands on them! no way! argh wheres that money tree when you need one!

Post # 5
723 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@dmarie4:  +1 about the dress too…my goodness dresses are expensive!!! I;m looking for second hand ones at this point!

Post # 6
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Sweet_Tea:  Rant away; it is frustrating!  I have lots of great ideas for cutting your budget but still having a nice wedding.

For example, I used the $17 for $70 Vistaprint Groupon deal and only ended up paying $27 on my invitations and save the dates ($10 for shipping.)  They turned out great and were a great budget saver!

Post # 7
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Sweet_Tea:  Where in FL are you getting married?  If you are getting married in the middle keys, I can send you some of my vendor info.

With regards to the “wedding mark-up” – I suggest asking the vendor, point blank, why the “wedding version” is more.  If they can’t give you a good reason, then move on to the next one! 

That being said, after getting married, I am glad I paid for what I paid for.  On my wedding day, there were a lot of minor things that needed attention.  And all those vendors that I paid $$ – they were the ones to deal with it and “make it right.”  I worried about nothing.  I just said “get it done” and it was taken care of.  I realized afterwards that I paid the “extra money” because my vendors worked their buts off to make sure my day went well and I did not have to worry about anything.  Just something to keep in mind.  

Also – you have some time….if you are getting frustrated, take a few days off!  When wedding planning got the best of me (and we have all been there), I simply put it away for a week, a month, whatever, until I felt up to the challenge again.


Post # 8
242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

oh preach!!! we are running into the same problems. I’d love to run away to vegas and get married by Elvis – but FMIL’s only child and BABBBBYYYYY is getting married so we need to throw a expensive ass 5 hour party for everyone she has ever met.  i hate planning this wedding. haha

Post # 9
322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m sorry ๐Ÿ™ it can be tough

May I suggest this website for invites? I’ve found them to be cheaper than vista print, and who really needs a more stressful DIY when these are about the same price? 

These are the ones I picked out 


I am just doing cake and champagne, trying to keep it all under 5k (I do live in a rather poor area…)

Post # 11
5 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

Totally understand what you are going through!  We live in Los Angeles, so everything is even more expensive.  When we first got engaged, I did research over 30 venues in the LA area.  Just for the reception part, it ranges from low $100 to mid $200 per guest.  Again…just for reception!  It was ridiculous.  We were able to rent a place overlooking the ocean.  The great part about it is that we were able to provide our own caterer and bring in alcohol.  We were able to find a very affortable caterer and alcohol will be from Costco!  Saved us soooo much money.

As for invitations, I got them from Michael’s on clearance.  They were pretty and only 30 for only $10!  You can always use 40% coupno for regular priced items there too.

I am doing as much diy as possible.  There’s a lot of wedding diy websites and youtube too.  I am making my own centerpieces, wedding favors, etc.  Just google search and you will likely find what you need online for cheaper. 

As for wedding dress, I was able to find the dress I like on ebay for less than 1/2 of what the store wanted.  It was “last year’s model” so they were getting rid of inventory online.  New with tag for $600.  Great deal.  You can probably find a lot of people selling dresses online.  My suggstion is to get a new one without alternation.  As for bridesmaid dresses, I suggest going into a department store and buying something off the rack.  (Macy’s, BCBG, Nordstrom, etc.)  Cheaper and great return policy!

Good luck!

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