- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
So I’m having my dress made by a dressmaker, which means I have to buy the fabric myself. Not to mention the fact that I wouldn’t have been possible to buy the dress I wanted off the rack. I’m plus size and I want to wear dress that is a non-bridal colour (dark blue) but that has a bridal structure to it (proper boning in it like a wedding dress)… and that costs less than $1500 in the ridiculously expensive Australian bridal market… in other words a dress that doesn’t exist.
I know because of my body shape that I basically have to wear a dress with at least a slight a-line shape (which I don’t mind) but I also wanted a dress with somewhat of a 1930s feel with draping and beading. My inspiration was the two Tadashi Shoji dresses worn by Octavia Spencer, and a bunch of deco style dresses from various blogs:
My dressmaker advised me to get the structure I need for the dress to flatter me, along with somewhat of the drapy flow that 1930s dresses have, I should go for a duchess satin under layer with a chiffon/georgette or charmeuse top layer. I loved charmeuse but it’s too shiny for me, so that left me with chiffon.
I’ve been looking at fabrics for several weeks now and it’s coming up to the deadline because the dress needs to get start being made in early June. And I just started to have enough of driving all over Sydney looking at fabrics and negotiating slightly crazy Vietnamese fabric shops (they’re awesome, but nuts as well), so last Saturday I just went “stuff it” and bought the satin and a chiffon in a colour that was close enough to what I wanted. It has quite a shimmery feel to it, so it looks a bit purply depending on what light is shining on it, which I like.
But the problem is, I don’t really like chiffon. I like it on other dresses, it just wasn’t what i would have chosen for myself. To me it is more of a bridemaids fabric and doesn’t have a real luxury feel to it. I’m already thinking that there’ll be certain people who will think I look like the mother of the bride rather than the bride (as I’m 38, I’m no spring chicken any more) and this is just adding to it.
And now I’ve become obsessed with this dress. It’s not that I’m going to buy it – I mean it’s white, I hate white on me – and even if I did want to buy it it’s too late anyway. But look at the fabric. That is the look of the fabric I want.
So now I’m thinking of going shopping AGAIN and looking for dark blue silk or a blend with a matte finish to it. But I’ve just spent $300 on the other fabric and I don’t have much money at the moment. I can’t really afford another $300 worth to spend on silk. I don’t even know that I’d be able to find it, and even if I did I’d be far too indecisive about the colour and would have to do several full laps around Sydney getting progressively more cranky before I made my mind up. I don’t know if it would work with the dress. It would probably crumple heaps. Why am I doing this?
Can somebody talk some sense into me please?