(Closed) Gamer Rage

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

My Fiance is HORRIBLY incredibly addicted to Destiny right now. His whole life revolves around it. We actually just got into an argument about how I felt like he cared more about the game than me! I definitely do not think you are overreacting. I’m in the same boat. I don’t really have any helpful advice, but here’s a sympathy *hug* I know how you feel and how frustrating it is! 

Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I feel you so bad!!! 

My fiance is the same, when he dies, he punches the couch, punches the controller, on occasion has made his hand bleed. I never fear for myself but its so frustrating sitting there seeing him freak out.  We get into agruments about his gaming, i want him to do it less, but he really doesnt like his job, so its his release, it brings him joy, he usually does better when he plays with friends so i encourage that. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Bellagio, Las Vegas

Peaceoutboyscout:  Destiny is also my FI’s addiction. I was interested in it before, but it just reminds me of Halo…and I got sick of Halo. ๐Ÿ™ But yes, mine spends his evenings with Destiny. Luckily, we have two Xbox consoles now. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee

My husband and I both game, and some of our gaming interests overlap, luckily.

However, he plays DoTA II and I it turns him into an immature 12-year old who just yells ridiculous obscenities into the headset.

Our computers are set up in the same room and I’ve been playing Dragon Age Inquisition lately. Several times I have turned to him and asked, “Do I need to move my computer to another room? Seriously, stop being so loud!”

Post # 6
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Worker bee

Peaceoutboyscout:  indycolts3990:  oh my God, just listening to my Fi play destiny right now, actually think he’s obsessed lol. The worst thing is that it’s my own fault as I got him a ps4 as an engagement present ๐Ÿ™

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

My husband plays Hearthstone, it’s definitely a competitive game. My husband gets pretty miffed when he loses, too. If I were you I’d tell him that he needs to find a way to properly vent his anger, as it’s not healthy. It’s completely normal to get upset or get frustrated, but hitting things over Hearthstone is overreacting.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Same here…no advice but Fiance is a big gammer and gets so frustrated with the other online players. He gets so upset when they aren’t part of the team/raid and they didn’t do their what they were supposed to do. We actually just had a talk yesterday about him playing less games and us doing more things together. ((((hugs))))

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Im sorry..lmao hearthstone is making your so rage..hahahaha.  

Destony is fun. Ya even I rage a bit over destiny. More so over the frigging lag I get.  

Ok the Rager in my house is my son and just like your so op, he is the mildest calmest person  I know.  It’s really wierd seeing him rage over games (For him it’s cod, I cringe when I know a new cod is coming because I know he’s going to rage for a am few weeks. ) I have no advice, I offer my son the remote to shove up his butt sometimes …that usually makes him stop and laugh.  

As for the pp arguing about time spent together vs games, have you thought about playing with him? Fi and u play all games together (except right now he is into gta and I think it looks seriously boring..but he tries every day to please join him) it doesn’t even matter that I suck, we have loads of fun together.  It’s so fun doing missions together, or even killing eachother.

 

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

I hear you loud and clear. Darling Husband is beyond addicted and so are all his sisters so I’m the odd man errrr woman out! We’ve had multiple arguments about it but in the end I’m kinda just letting it go. If I absolutely need him or just want some time with him,  I ask him and he’s been better about obliging. I don’t care as long he goes to work when he’s supposed to and it doesn’t interfere too much with life. Sometimes I wish for a power outage though {chuckle} 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

indycolts3990:  That’s the first thing I said when he started playing it! It’s like halo, with different aliens lol. I literally hate Destiny so much now.

rubysoho80:  SHUT UP SO DID I! lolol. I got a ring, he got a PS4. Sometimes I feel like I want to throw it out the window and say “it’s MY PS4 anyway!!!”

Hi, my name is peaceoutboyscout and I’m jealous of a video game. 

Post # 12
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Worker bee

 

Peaceoutboyscout:  haha great minds ๐Ÿ™‚ yeah although now I’m kinda wishing I had gone the more traditional route and gotten him a watch or something lol. 

Oh well, at least we got the sparkly rings out of it ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

janellephant:  My Fiance is both addicted to Destiny and Hearthstone. He gets all butthurt sometimes but doesn’t insanely yell,…usually lol. I understand getting all pissed off though. When I used to PvP in Warcraft I’d go all apeshit crazy when I’d get ass-raped by rogues and such. I imagine that losing in Hearthstone is similar! I’m too busy playing FFXIV anyway! I’m always trying to get him to come back and play with me! Maybe next update! 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

I personally don’t understand gaming. I used to play a little bit in college, but it was mostly just a here or there type of thing. So I don’t really understand the mindset of how people can play for hours and hours and continue long after it’s started to make them “rage”.

That being so, I DO think your Fiance needs to take your concerns into account. How does gaming relax him if it gets him so riled up, and subsequently makes you feel stressed and anxious as well? I don’t think that’s fair and he needs to be open to a compromise. How often does he play? Is it a daily thing? I don’t think you should delete the game or anything drastic, but if he’s gaming for long hours, perhaps he needs to make it fair to you by having a time limit as to how much he spends on it. You offered to take him out and he doesn’t want to, well what else does he like to do that relaxes him? If he has nothing else that’s actually healthy, maybe it’s time for you two to explore new things that are just as enjoyable but doesn’t result in him yelling and hitting things.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

TwinkleBoss:  Well said Twinkle. I think I’ll follow this advice for myself.

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