@MissMonie DH’s whole life is one big phase! He’s a hardcore gamer, plays around 3 hours on an average weekday, and can sometimes play for 8-10 hours on a day off if not interrupted.
Fortunately, even though I’m dreadful at games myself, I have a working knowledge of the material and the industry and don’t mind it most of the time – sometimes I even enjoy it since we have about 75% similar taste in games. (I’m bored or annoyed by a lot of first person war shooters with no plot, but he doesn’t really play a lot of those, he likes narrative games with interesting stories we can share. I have legitimately cried at certain games, like it was a movie!)
I love how his hobby keeps him at home with me – I don’t think I could be with a car enthusiast or an outdoorsman who spent so much time away – and gives us something we can always talk about.
I love that he engages with it on a meta level and is the first to admit the problematic nature of a lot of games and studios, even ones he likes.
I love how he is frugal, always happy to “acquire” games in a “less expensive” way, and when he does buy, he usually waits for sales and discounts and plays every game to 100%, making it a fairly inexpensive hobby.
I love how it gives him a way to keep in touch and spend time with his friends and family even though we live on the other side of the world from them.
He is mostly considerate, if I ask to, say, marathon a show we like on the big TV one day, he’ll forego his game time for awhile to indulge me if he didn’t have anything planned with his brother. (I know how hard it can be to coordinate time zones.) And most games, at most times, he’s happy to chat with me while he plays as long as it’s not a serious discussion.
Now, there ARE times when he gets a little overexcited and can be loud/harsh at the TV and it gets to me a bit when it becomes excessive. But he’s open to hearing when he’s crossed a line and making an effort to calm down, or I’ll just go relax in the other room until things have been soothed.
But for the most part, I have few complaints and couldn’t be happier to be married to a gamer. 🙂 Also makes gifting holidays pretty easy too!