Post # 1
Here is my issue, I want to have a traditional catholic wedding, the only thing is that the only time that weddings are celebrated at my parish is at 3 pm and my reception is starting at 6.
I hate to think that I will have such a large gap between my ceremony and my reception. I know that we will be taking pictures so that means that the mass would be from 3-4 and then pictures until 5pm. But my guests aren’t going to stand around and wait for pictures so what will they do from 4-6? I would say I could start the reception earlier, but I am having an outdoor wedding in South Texas. The temperature will probably be in the high 90s at 4 or 5!
What do I do, especially for the out of town guests? Any ideas??
Post # 3
Is there something that they could do? Some kind of events or something? I never know what to do during breaks.
Post # 4
Are you having a cocktail hour? That would help with some of the gap.
Post # 5
Is there a cocktail hour already included in your plan? If not maybe you can add something in??
Post # 6
I am not aware of any events in the city in May.
Their will be a cocktail hour, but it is starting at 6 or 6:30 (haven’t really decided yet). Like I mentioned, I don’t want to have a cocktail hour outdoors so early because the heat is unbearable. And the venue does not have an indoor option.
Post # 7
We are doing the same thing, but our gap is 3 hours. Fact is that most weddings I’ve been to, there is a gap. One had a 2-hour long cocktail hour, which was awful, the rest, you either get together with a group and go out for a few drinks, or you go home for a bit. No big deal.
I went to a wedding two years ago where the wedding was at 11 and the reception was at 6. They had lunch at their house after, people went and hung out there w/ drinks & food while they took pictures (for 6 hours, yes, they took 6 hours of pictures) after lunch I went home for a bit, changed & we went to the reception at 6.
Last year, we had all of our friends over to our house in between. Some people grabbed something to eat, some came to hang out.. it was a good time, and no one complained about the gap…
Didn’t bother me, sort of the norm with most weddings I’ve been to.
Post # 8
I went to Catholic wedding last year that had the exact same kind of gap that you’re having. Honestly, everyone just randomly decided what they wanted to do to kill time. When everyone congregated outside of the church after the ceremony, it seemed like the groups that each knew each other figured something out on their own.
For instance, we knew there was a bar/hang-out place near the reception area so we got drinks and caught up with one another before the reception started at 6. It seemed like everyone else had the same idea b/c I noticed other people and families out and about in the same area as well.
Don’t worry about it too much, people can figure out what to do during that time period. They understand and dno’t expect to be completely entertained at every moment that day. 🙂
Post # 9
We’re doing exactly the same thing. Church at 3p cocktail hr at 6p – I agree with Ella – most people nowadays expect some sort of gap.
Remember too that if you’re having a full Catholic mass, it’ll probably take you past 4pm, then the receiving line and pictures, etc. it’ll probably take you to about 4:30-5p, so it’s not too bad. Most people can entertain themselves. If you wanted to do something for them though – is there a hotel you’re using? Can you get a conference room or other area where people could chill out for a while?
Post # 10
I think the lunch idea sounds like an excellent idea, except it’s not a very long gap that I am having.
I think I just really feel obligated to accommodate the out of town guests. I feel like I need to find something for them to do.
I’m sure not too many people will go to the ceremony anyway, so it’s not that many people that I would have to tend to.
Post # 11
Our wedding is near a cultural center of our city.. art museum, natural history museum, botanical gardens, hitsorical society w/ air and aviation museum… and we are 15 mins from the rock hall, and everything else downtown. If they are really looking for something to do, there are tons of places to go. I have all that info on my wedding webiste too (although NO ONE looks at it…)
What I was going to do was have my mom sponser a get together at our house.. appetizers and drinks & a bonfire… but we decided to skip it.
Post # 12
Can you include a list of restaurants/shops/activities nearby to occupy guests or have a shuttle available to return guests back to their hotel? Maybe include this info in the wedding invitation/website. If I was a guest I would like to know beforehand to plan what to do during the gap.
Post # 13
Yea. There are a lot of shops in the area and I will include some info when I send out the invitation. I am going to make sure and make arrangements at a hotel nearby so they can go back and rest before the reception if they choose.
Post # 14
Most weddings i’ve been too have gaps as well.
At my sister’s wedding my cousin offered people to come to her place. Some did that and some just did there own thing or went back to the hotel. I’m sure if there are kids they would appreciate a little break. I would go home and have a nap haha.
Post # 15
Thanks everyone. I’m not very familiar with weddings because I’ve only been to one in the last couple of years. And in my hometown they used to have weddings during Saturday mass times, so it didn’t have to be scheduled around mass.
I’m sure once it gets closer to the date and I finalize my mass time, I will start thinking about it a little more.
I just have such an anxious personality that I want to have all the details figured out already!
Post # 16
I would just make sure that you let guests know ahead of time that there will be a gap and have a “things to do in the area” list for them to decide what they want to do. I know a few people that’ll go have gone back to their hotel and taken a nap before the reception to relax or “rest up” for a night of partying.