(Closed) Gap between ceremony and reception, is it that much of an issue?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@breadandbutterflies:  So really it’s a 2-2.5 hour gap?  What do you think people should do between then?

Is this a Catholic wedding?  I hear that’s typical.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think it makes it better that you are providing refreshments, but it does kind of suck to wait around, especially if you are not from the area and don’t know of any alternatives locations to go if you don’t want to stay and wait.  There’s not a whole lot you can do, though, so I would just try to figure out something to keep them occupied.  I don’t know what theme or season your wedding is, but is there some sort of activity you could plan for that time?

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

It does seem a *little* big to me to be honest, but thankfully you are being considerate to provide food the entire gap.  Hopefully people will think of it like you mentioned “a day to relax and be with loved ones.”  That’s a great way to put it. If there’s nothing you can do, then there’s nothing you can do!

I forgot to ask are the ceremony and reception locations in diffferent/same places?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m having a 2 hour gap between my ceremony and reception (having a Catholic wedding).  Honestly, it’s not ideal, but your guests will fine ways to entertain themselves.  It’ll be just fine (though I’m sure a few people will end up skipping the ceremony and only attend the reception).  It is really helpful you are providing refreshments and a place to mingle during the gap.

Post # 8
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7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I think that’s too much time. Could you do pictures before the ceremony so the gap is smaller? 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it’s ok since you are providing food/refreshments the entire time. It’s certainly not ideal, but IMO this makes it tolerable. I would be prepared for a lot of people either coming in late (closer to the reception time) or leaving after the ceremony and skipping the reception though. Most people don’t want to spend this amount of time with essentially nothing to do. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Pffft honestly do you care what other people think? I wouldn’t and don’t. You have to remember that this is YOUR day no one elses!.

I’m not Catholic. The gap between my ceremony and reception is almost 4 hours!. What will nmy guests do between the ceremony and reception. To be honest i really don’t care!.

It’s my day and i’ll have it the way i want it, end of story. Either come or dont!. All of my guests are ok with it and if they aren’t none of them have voiced their opinion. Saying that most of them know me very well and already know what my answer to that would be.

Your doing way more than i am by providing refreshments and snacks. They honestly have no reason to complain in my eyes!.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s really just that 3:30 to 5:00 period that’s a “gap,” since having cocktails for 1.5 hours is totally normal/nice. So fine, it’s not ideal, but people can figure out what to do with themselves. It sounds like you can’t change it, and you’ve done a lot to accommodate everyone, so…no biggie. 

 

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Well, because we had our ceremony at the same location as our reception, we had ZERO gap, and Darling Husband and I literally had to miss our entire hors d’oeuvres hour and about half of our reception taking pics. (We had planned to do most pics before the wedding, but traffic delays and other issues foiled that plan.) We never even had a chance to go around and greet our guests, and I was terribly upset about this for a very long time. So, for what it’s worth, I think you’ll end up being happy that you have a gap, and it sounds as if you are taking excellent care of your guests during the entire time.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Gaps, religious or not, make me want to kill myself.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

I do think you should do your best to minimize guest discomfort.  I would really try to move the ceremony later.  Yes there are snacks and drinks, but for guests who aren’t part of your immidiate family they may not know as many it is very long.

At events such as these I tend to have an expiry date.  I am good for say 5 hours.  If 2.5 hours of that is eaten up by gap, I will probably end up leaving the reception early.  I suspect many guests may also operate in a similar way.   Espeically, guests who are older, ill, or not social butterflies.

If there is truly nothing to be done, then there is nothing to be done.  In which case you will just have to live with it.

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