(Closed) Gap between Ceremony and Reception: What to do???

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It looks like you aren’t getting married until 2012, so you certainly have some time. Is there any way you could push the ceremony forward a bit? Perhaps start it at 4 instead?

Whatever you do, don’t hold people at the church while you take pictures. I went to a wedding where a couple did this and a bunch of people were so frustrated they didn’t even go to the reception. Put yourself in their shoes: Would you want to wait around for two hours while someone took pictures?

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Only keep the people you need for picture taking-members of the bridal party and any family you want in group pictures.

Designate someone to be at your home to greet guests who arrive early. Perhaps have a punch or something to offer them as refreshment, but otherwise let your gusets entertain themselves for a couple of hours.

It’s a great opportunity to go for a beverage, socialize with people they haven’t seen for a while.

It is not your responsibility to entertain them every single minute of that day.

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@ms.charming: Oh, okay. Sounds lovely! I agree with PP that you don’t need to have fun and games supplied for every second of the day. If many of your guests will be out of town guests, compile a list of fun things to do or nice places to go that would only take about two hours. This is their time to explore the town a bit. You could also have brief refreshments provided if you want to, but only if it’s in your budget!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Maybe provide a list of places close to your home where the guests could stop over between the ceremony and the reception.  This is an understated way of you providing guidance without taking full responsibility for every minute of their day.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Most of the weddings I have been to have that lag in between the ceremony and the reception.  We usually found a bar to go hang out at or go get some Portillo’s, which has become my wedding day food!

Have you thought about taking pictures before the wedding ceremony?  I am still unsure if I want to as I want there to be that moment when I come down the aisle and my Fiance sees me but talk to your photographer about doing “first look” photos which we may still do.  Our photographer explained to me too that this way your make-up and hair are still fresh for the close up shots of the bride/groom/bridal party.  And you don’t have a long time between ceremony and reception.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Can you up the reception? I just think 2 1/2 hrs is a long time.  There is usually a cocktail hour, but who wants to sit around that long.  You don’t have to entertain your guests every minute, but you invite them so you have to be conscious of their needs.  Also, if you can’t, atleast have someone for-warn them, say hey we’re going to have a long cocktail hour at my house so please take your time getting there and know we will be there in about 2 hrs.  I have been to weddings where all the guests just sit around when the party is going to get started.  Eventually some bail.  So just be aware. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

If you don’t want your guests to arrive at your home before you do, perhaps you can plan for them to have refreshments at the church (ie:  punch and cookies, cheese plate etc.) in the church’s fellowship hall or outside if the weather is nice.  Or, if you want cocktails (or don’t want an additional expense) pick a designated restaurant/bar that is between the church and your house and work it out with that establishment that your guests will be having a “layover” at their establishment.  Maybe you could even negotiate happy hour prices for your guests since you will be sending 50-60 customers their way.  Your guests can hang out and mingle while you take pics.  Then everyone can arrive at your home at the designated time.  

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