Post # 1
I know it is traditional for a bouquet and garter toss. I get the bouquet toss and the meaning behind that, but what is the purpose of the garter? Is it the same as the bouquet (next people in line to get married) or something else?
Are you doing this tradition or skipping it?
Post # 3
@h_annas: I don’t really know what the reason is but I’m skipping both. First, there’s not enough single women to make the bouquet toss entertaining plus as I guest when I was single I LOATHED being forced up there. Ugh awful and awkward! And the garter.. Well Fiance can go all up under my dress when the wedding is over behind closed doors but nobody has to see that! 🙂
Post # 4
I didn’t care about what the traditions were behind it. I just remembered how uncomfortable and awkward I felt at every wedding I attended where people pushed and forced me and other unwilling participants up to catch the bouquet. When it came to our wedding, DH and I were adamant about not including either.
Post # 5
I am absolutely skipping the garter and want to skip the bouquet toss too, but for some reason my mom wants me to keep that part. But it’s not her wedding so ultimately the choice is up to me and my SO, so I think we’ll end up skipping the bouquet too:)
Post # 6
@h_annas the garter toss is for the single men to catch. It’s just like the bouquet toss.
Post # 7
I do not like the whole garter deal….and I always tried to hide when it came time for the bouguet toss because I didn’t want some strange guy putting a garter on my leg!!
We will do something…but different. I am thinking a scavenger hunt for each. How much fun would that be???
Post # 8
I’m a relatively untraditional person, but we’re doing both.
Where I live, it’s tradition that after the groom throws the garter, the single guy who catches it puts it on the leg of the girl who caught the bouqet.
Superstition says that the futher up the leg the garter goes, the more years of luck the bride and groom will have. (At most weddings I’ve been to, the guys keep it really classy/respectful, especially if he doesnt know the girl).
Apparently a lot of people are shocked and grossed out by the idea, but it’s all in good fun. Everyone loves it around here!
Post # 9
We’re doing the bouquet toss, but not the garter toss. The garter I’m wearing belongs to my mom, and she wore it on her wedding day. Since I don’t want to wear two, it’s a no-go for tossing.
I got a look though when I said I’m getting a specific bouquet just for tossing… It’s smaller, and way cheaper. I want to give the original bouquet to my mom to keep (until it dies.. because well… its fresh flowers). She didn’t seem too thrilled with that plan, so maybe I will just toss the original bouquet.
Post # 10
I’ve seen that! The last time, the girl was laughing so hard, and she intentionally was playing it up trying to make it difficult for the guy. (They were both good friends). It was funny to watch 🙂
Post # 11
were skipping it, mainly because the toss never turns out pretty and it’s awkward having him go up your dress.. lol I did see another post on here today about a ‘last couple standing’ song where the couples start dancing and whoever’s been married the longest stays on the floor and eventually take the bouquet we may do this. so cute 🙂
Post # 12
My mom feels the same way! I am definitely skipping the garter. I really, really want to skip the bouquet toss too because I hate being put on the spot with it, so I think in the end there will be none. That was why I posted this, I wanted to see what others thought about it and why/if there was a reason it is a wedding tradition.
Post # 13
We did both the garter and bouquet toss, and we give away scratch off lottery tickets as the “prize” for whoever caught them. We did not have the the guy who caught the garter put it on the girl’s leg that caught the bouquet. The pictures from the garter toss are HILARIOUS. The guys at our wedding got super into it. For the bouquet toss, well, I guess I had too many cocktails bc I definitely hit the maid of honor HARD in the face. After I “tossed it” there were gasps and then the DJ said “looks like the bride is a softball player”.