(Closed) Garter and tossing of the bouquet, outdated?

posted 11 years ago in Rhode Island
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

We did both.  I just thought they were traditional and fun. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We didn’t do either one.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I think it depends on the age of your guests.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We didn’t do it, either. I do think age may have something to do with it – I’m an older bride and the vast majority of my guests were already married, which made it less fitting for us in particular.

Personally, I never liked the bouquet toss, even as a single guest. For me, it has to do with the meaning behind the tradition – i.e., the implication/assumption that women are so eager or desperate to get married that they would “fight” to win a bouquet. And on the flip side, that all men care about is seeing a little leg! LOL Also, I’ve been to weddings where the bouquet literally fell on the floor because no one reached for it. So it just wasn’t for me.

But I can totally understand how for some brides/grooms it’s just a fun thing to do, and their guest enjoy it immensely, so do what you like!

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t think we’ll be doing either one. As a single girl, I never enjoyed the insanity of the bouquet toss (the jumping women, the dives, the pushing and shoving – no thanks, I just sat them out). While I get the tradition element, I’ve been to weddings without it done and it didn’t seem that anyone noticed or missed it.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I wouldn’t use the term “outdated.” I’d rather say….not for everyone?

They had it at the last wedding we attended. That said, we’re not doing them (even though we ARE young) because we personally find them really awkward and embarassing. That’s all.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Well I had a couple friends who really wanted to catch the bouquet so I did it! If it wasn’t traditional and ‘expected’ we probably wouldn’t have!

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I read an article on the knot about this. There was a crazy age split. It said 70% of brides 25 years or younger do it and 70% of brides 26 years or older don’t do it. There was also a North and South percentage and don’t remember the exact percentage but Southern brides also have a higher percentage of doing it.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I sort of hate the traditions and we won’t be doing them. Instead, we’ll be having an anniversary dance. MUCH less awkward and almost everyone can be involved instead of just the singles, which we have like 5 of. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We are not doing either. I think it’s creepy to have my husband’s face up my dress in front of our family and friends. I find the bouquet toss an odd mixture of desperation and humiliation. Just not for us! That said, I know a lot of people see it as tradition.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Duplicate.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I would never call it out-dated or trashy, but we did neither.  Our youngest guests were in their late 20s.  We’ve done it time and time again and it’s not as fun the 20th time (especially if you’re the only person still single.) But I totally looked forward to it when I was younger.

I “passed” my toss bouquet to one of my single bridesmaids (privately).

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

we are not doing the toss of boquet or the garter. Instead we are giving the oldest married couple a pair of a rhinetsone 8X10 pic frame its engraved where there is God happiness and love will follow

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We had more single young guys than women as I’m older than my husband and most of my friends are married, so we just did the garter toss. We had fun doing it so who cares if people think it’s outdated.

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