(Closed) Garter or No Garter? Please Help!

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You know your friends and family better than we do. The garter removal and toss doesn’t have to be disrespectful. Just before the time comes, you can lower your garter on your leg.Your Darling Husband can behave like a gentleman  and not go diving under your skirt.

Post # 4
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

we’re not religious and not comfortable doing it. I’ve seen plenty of religious weddings do it though. It depends on your comfort level.  If other people don’t like it they don’t have to watch.

Post # 5
Hostess
23602 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s totally up to you and how comfortable you are doing the garter! 🙂

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@julies1949:  +1

Garter toss only gets inappropriate if the groom hams it up. You don’t have to be raunchy if you don’t want to. I think it is a super fun tradition, and I’m definitely doing it!

Post # 7
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7694 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

You can put the garter on your calf instead of your thigh so hubby is not digging way up in your dress, and tell the DJ no stripper music. 

Post # 8
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2448 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My planner said she often holds a garter to give to the groom, instead of having him taking it off of the bride. It keeps things much more tasteful, especially if you’re having a black tie type affair.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

It is completely up to you.

My mother’s side of the family is Menonite and would completely frown upon this, but we’re doing it because I want to and we’re going to have fun with it.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church

Several of my Christian friends have their Darling Husband go up the dress with their hands instead of their head and it’s much more tasteful for the friends and family present. We were in limbo ourselves over what we’d do and we ended up not doing anything at all because our wedding was in mid-July and it was a SUPER HOT day (upwards of 37 C) and we were all sweaty. It would not have been a pleasant experience for either of us nor for the person who caught the garter.

Post # 12
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1724 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

I’m buying a garter just to toss. It’s never going to be on my leg. I’m not religious (our families are), but I’m just not comfortable with something suggestive at my wedding, and neither is my fiance. You don’t HAVE to go along with tradition at every step of the way. And hey, throwing the garter without having it pulled off is still in homage to the entire practice.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

The retrieval of the garter does not have to be suggestive/inappropriate.

As long as your husband doesn’t stick his head up your dress or wipe his mouth afterwards, you should be fine.

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

There will be a garter – but it will never be on my leg. It’s just going to be used in the garter toss. I’m not comfortable with my husband getting under my dress in front of all of our families.

Post # 15
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458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Honestly youre going to be wearing so many undergarments that it won’t feel innapropriate. My garter was right near my knee and Darling Husband didn’t need to stick his head under my skirt, just his hand. I think it may have been raunchy back in the days when women didn’t show their ankles, but now days, it’s not even suggestive!

Post # 16
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776 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m not religious and I’m not doing it either. To be frank, I would prefer if the only time my Fiance went under my dress was in private! 

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