Post # 1
I am planning my wedding with my fiance. The pulling off the garter is something you usually see at weddings, and something I would like to have in mine. Except I come from a very Christian family with very Christian friends. Is it appropriate to incorperate this into my wedding? Keep in mind I am 19 and my fiance is 22, I don’t know if this will make any difference. I just do not want to offend or upset my friends and family because I would like to have a cute traditional wedding including these kinds of little things.
Post # 3
You know your friends and family better than we do. The garter removal and toss doesn’t have to be disrespectful. Just before the time comes, you can lower your garter on your leg.Your DH can behave like a gentleman and not go diving under your skirt.
Post # 4
we’re not religious and not comfortable doing it. I’ve seen plenty of religious weddings do it though. It depends on your comfort level. If other people don’t like it they don’t have to watch.
Post # 5
It’s totally up to you and how comfortable you are doing the garter! 🙂
Post # 6
Garter toss only gets inappropriate if the groom hams it up. You don’t have to be raunchy if you don’t want to. I think it is a super fun tradition, and I’m definitely doing it!
Post # 7
You can put the garter on your calf instead of your thigh so hubby is not digging way up in your dress, and tell the DJ no stripper music.
Post # 8
My planner said she often holds a garter to give to the groom, instead of having him taking it off of the bride. It keeps things much more tasteful, especially if you’re having a black tie type affair.
Post # 9
It is completely up to you.
My mother’s side of the family is Menonite and would completely frown upon this, but we’re doing it because I want to and we’re going to have fun with it.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
Several of my Christian friends have their DH go up the dress with their hands instead of their head and it’s much more tasteful for the friends and family present. We were in limbo ourselves over what we’d do and we ended up not doing anything at all because our wedding was in mid-July and it was a SUPER HOT day (upwards of 37 C) and we were all sweaty. It would not have been a pleasant experience for either of us nor for the person who caught the garter.
Post # 11
Thanks for the opinions. 🙂 It really helps having other peoples opinions on these kinds of things. I think I will incorperate it because my fiance is a gentleman and he wouldn’t be inappropriate.
Post # 12
I’m buying a garter just to toss. It’s never going to be on my leg. I’m not religious (our families are), but I’m just not comfortable with something suggestive at my wedding, and neither is my fiance. You don’t HAVE to go along with tradition at every step of the way. And hey, throwing the garter without having it pulled off is still in homage to the entire practice.
Post # 13
The retrieval of the garter does not have to be suggestive/inappropriate.
As long as your husband doesn’t stick his head up your dress or wipe his mouth afterwards, you should be fine.
Post # 14
There will be a garter – but it will never be on my leg. It’s just going to be used in the garter toss. I’m not comfortable with my husband getting under my dress in front of all of our families.
Post # 15
Honestly youre going to be wearing so many undergarments that it won’t feel innapropriate. My garter was right near my knee and DH didn’t need to stick his head under my skirt, just his hand. I think it may have been raunchy back in the days when women didn’t show their ankles, but now days, it’s not even suggestive!
Post # 16
I’m not religious and I’m not doing it either. To be frank, I would prefer if the only time my Fiance went under my dress was in private!