Post # 1
Ive been reading a lot about wedding traditions. One that I was reading a lot about was the bouquet and garter toss.
Personally I love the senitments of good luck that go along with catching these items at a wedding. I do not love so much the idea that these two individuals are going to “end up together (at least for the night)” and requiring they dance together, or him to put the garter on her.
Beyond that, there will be almost no single men or women at our wedding, making these events… difficult.
I did find some information related to a “break-away bouquet” and fell in love with the idea of attaching good fortunes or wishes and would likely include all of the women at the reception to take part in the toss.
I have not, however, been able to think of or find inspiration for something that would be for all of the men. I know that i dont “have to” replace the garter toss, but I personally want to. I considered a garter with a gift card, but its not quite as… ideal as the breakaway bouquet.
Have you any ideas that might work?
Post # 3
What about a grooms cake with cake charms? Grooms cakes are a southern tradition where you have a separate cake made for the groom often reflecting his likes, maybe school colors, favorite sports team, hobby etc. Cake charms are little silver Charms tied to a ribbon. They are placed between layers of the cake with the ribbon hanging out. Then the cake is frosted. The ribbon is pulled and a charm comes out. Usually each charm has a meaning like good luck, prosperity, stability, wealth etc.
Post # 4
Thats an interesting idea! Although we were planning on having his groomscake for the rehersal dinner, So i am not sure how we would manage it for the reception.
Post # 5
@linsoid: I’m with you here, and I’m a guy. Fiance and I agree – we want to have the bouqet toss. In the same way it’s always done.
We also agree – we both hate the garter toss.
Finally, we also agree – we want a substitute that is virtually the same. We just think it would be unbalanced otherwise, plus we’re kinda viewing it as “my” moment in the reception.
We thought of having me toss one of those silly little nerf footballs or something like that, though we’re not thrilled with that idea and it’s obviously conflicting in style with the boquet.
It’s funny, this seems to be an area where MANY people are searching for options but no one is finding them…lol
Post # 6
Being an older couple with few single guests, we skipped the bouquet and garter altogether. We did a anniversary dance where all couples were invited on the dance floor. As the song played, the DJ asked anyone married less a year to leave the floor, then less than 5 years, etc. Until it was just us and the couple who had been married the longest. I gave the wife the toss bouquet and we switched partners with them for the last couple seconds of the song. This worked very well and our guests loved it. Stole the idea from another Bee:)
Post # 7
@Georgia Bee: What an awesome idea! I love that. I’m gonna talk to the Fiance about possibly doing that at the reception.
Does anyone have any other ideas for a garter toss/bouquet toss alternative? My Fiance doesn’t feel comfortable going up my dress to grab my garter knowing my Dad will see, lol. Also, I will have no single ladies at the wedding, so therefore no one to toss my bouquet to.
Post # 8
bump! More ideas please bees!
Post # 10
@linsoid: I found out the hard way that many people have different traditions. My new brother-in-law caught the garter. Their family had a tradition that you keep the garter until you marry, then return it. Needless to say, by the time he finally married at 40 he had lost it. If I had known that tradition I would have swapped it out with a substitute instead of using the nice one I actually wore that had an engraved heard dangling from it.
So, to keep hubby from having to dive for it, why don’t you just have an extra he can use?
You could give the bouquet to your oldest grandmother.
Post # 11
@Georgia Bee: That’s such a cute idea!