Garter Toss & Bouquet

posted 2 months ago in Traditions
Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We skipped both, after a certain age it’s an insult to your single friends. 🙄

Post # 17
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Honey bee

We’ve been married 40 years and I didn’t toss anything. Neither of my daughters tossed anything, nor have couples in their social circle. The last time I saw a bouquet tossed – about 5 years ago, no one went out on the dance floor to participate and it dropped on the floor. A woman sitting at a table next to the dance floor picked it up.

The last time I saw a garter tosed was about 15 years ago. It was at an elegant wedding, at a swanky hotel. The band played “The Stripper” and everyone was rolling their eyes. Some activities should be left to die-off.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We did both. DH crawled to me to take the garter off. So funny!! 

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I’m not doing either but I’ve been to enough weddings that have only done bouquet.

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Like someone else has mentioned, I think you can skip the garter toss and not have to replace it with anything else, and you can skip the bouquet toss if you wanted to. I agree that depending on the group of people, its sometimes awkward to participate in both. 

 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee

I remember being horrified the first time I saw a garter toss.  

I find the bouquet toss kind of sexist and silly so we are omitting both.

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m not doing either – I have hated in the past specifically getting called out by brides on the mic “I know you’re single, get on the dance floor!” and being forced to participate in the toss. So humiliating!

The last wedding I went to just did a bouquet toss (no garter) and made it unisex – they asked for ALL the single people to come participate. The guys found it novel and fun and participated along with the ladies, and I thought that was the best ‘toss’ I’d seen at a wedding. 

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Gardens at Old Town Helotes

We are skipping both the garter and bouquet toss. It’s very awkward for everyone… I’d much rather be out dancing with our guests anyway! 

Post # 24
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Newbee

We did boquet toss but skipped the garter, I don’t think anyone cared or noticed. 

Post # 25
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Worker bee

 I’m doing a bouquet toss, no garter toss, IMO the garter toss is trashy lol ( and uncomfortable to some people)

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

I don’t want to do either one. Most of my girl friends are already married and there’s no way in hell I’m going to let my new husband feel me up to get my garter in front of my family. 

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

We didn’t do either! All the other traditions we did, but not those 2.

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

If I am honest, I haven’t been to a wedding in years that did a garter toss OR a bouquet toss.. maybe it’s just my friend circle but everyone I know omitted the tosses and auctioned off the garter instead. It sounds money grabby, and honest I feel like it is – but it’s a social norm where I live. 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

ditch it. 

I find them extremely awkward and cringeworthy. 

Post # 30
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Lola's Trailer Park

I didn’t want to do them but DH did. So, I gave and we did it. I’m glad I did in the end because the pictures of DH retrieving my garter are some of my favorites from the whole wedding. We look like we’re having a blast.

Also, we invited everyone to participate in the catching portion whether married/single/male/female. Anyone who wanted to join in was welcomed. We had a few guys trying to catch the bouquet and a few girls trying to catch the garter, it ended up being fun.

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