Post # 31
I feel like there are definitely ways to make it fun and not uncomfortable. Like wearing the garter low, playing funny music rather than something sexual, putting money on it (great idea to the PP that suggested it!!), etc. I just don’t know. I think it might be more fun to play games or just let the guests dance and not interrupt the party. I definitely would open it up to everybody instead of just unmarried people if we choose to do it. I hardly have any unmarried people coming!
Post # 32
I am not doing it. I do find it tacky, and think it was just put in place to have single men not feel “left out” because the ladies get the bouquet toss. I am not doing that either. The only single women there will be little kids and widowed women, who I know will not want to participate. Instead, we are doing an “anniversary dance”. All the married couples will be on the dance floor, and they will count back (1 year, 5 or less, 10 etc.) The last couple standing will get the bouquet and a bottle of wine. Should be sweet since I have two couples married more than 50 years.
Post # 33
Tacky! I won’t be doing that or the bouquet toss (and if I can talk Fiance into it, no first dance either, I would feel so awkward dancing while a room full of people watched Fiance and I stare at each other and sway around for 3 1/2 minutes while some lame song plays). I think the only thing we’ll be doing is cutting the cake (but not feeding it to each other, no thank you to that).
Post # 35
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
Tacky, tacky, tacky!! Did not do a garter toss at my wedding. I wasn’t going to wear one at all, but my mum bought me one as a surprise.
Post # 36
I haven’t been to a wedding where there was a garter toss. We aren’t doing one either – not my cup of tea. I doubt I will be doing a bouquet toss either because the majority of our friends are married. We are probably going to do an anniversary dance instead.
Post # 37
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
I’m personally uncomfortable with it … That being said, a lot of people have a lot of fun with it. If someone really does not want to see it, they will turn away or something. Do what makes you happy. Don’t skip on it just because others are uncomfortable, likewise don’t do it just because people are pressuring you if you are uncomfortable 🙂
Post # 38
Fiance and I aren’t doing tosses, I want to keep my boquet (silk flowers) and garter. I will be wearing a garter for her sake, though 😉
Post # 39
Neither, I just think they are outdated.
Post # 40
There are tackier vs. “less tacky” ways to do the garter toss. I’ve seen a groom go head-first up the skirt to retrieve the garter with his teeth — I consider that one ranking up there with smashing cake into each other’s faces. However, quickly and discreetly pulling the garter off from around the knee is a lot less tacky.
Post # 42
I definitely think there’s a right way and a wrong way to do it. I personally think it’s hilarious!
we are a young couple (early 20’s) and I think that makes it a big difference. Same with the bouquet toss. Ibe already had several single friends mention their excitement for the bouquet toss and few of my friends arent single so I won’t need any herders! if any older single women don’t wish to participate of course that’s up to them.
i certainly don’t think it’s any tackier than many other slightly embarrassing old traditions, but there’s no need to up the tacky by putting some stripper song on and pretending to have wandering fingers, or using teeth.
that said, knowing Fiance hell probably try to use his teeth. Ugh I think that’s awkward but what the hey, I’m marrying this man, faults and all!