Post # 1
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
Hi all! This probably seems like a silly question, but it just occured to me. Who keeps the garter after a wedding? It’s thrown to a bunch of guys, isn’t it? I’m currently looking around for one and have found some pretty ones on Etsy. They range in price from $20-$65. I don’t really feel comfortable spending $65 on a garter that’s just going to be tossed away. I can’t imagine the guy would keep it. What have you ladies done?
Post # 3
Some brides get a toss garter and a nice keepsake garter. That’s what I did. So whoever catches the (cheaper) toss garter keeps it and you can keep your nice fancy garter from etsy! 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
@MrsFairyBee: Do you wear both and your husband only pulls one off?
Post # 5
@Christy42213: Yes, that’s what I did at least. Put the toss garter below the fancy one so it’s the first to come off. The fancy one can come off later 😉
Post # 6
I purchased 2. I only wore 1 and had it thrown, kept the other at home as a keepsake.
My garter kept falling down anyway :
Post # 7
I’ll have 2. One is the toss that I’m ordering off Etsy and the other is my mothers (old, borrowed, blue).
Fiance will toss the etsy one and whomever catches it will put it on the leg of the girl who catches my bouquet.
Post # 8
ehhh, really?! I was hoping I could just ask for it back! what does a guy want with some married woman’s garter anyway?
I am wearing my mum’s which she has saved from her wedding 32 years ago… I couldn’t care less about garters, I think it’s the most unimportant boring detail, but my whole life whenever we’ve been at weddings and the garter toss happens, she announces ‘I’ve STILL got my garter… I’m saving it for [me] to wear!’ … so, it seems like a big deal to her. She asked me awhile ago whether she should make me another one for Fiance to throw because she doesn’t want hers to get lost, and I laughed and said we wouldn’t need 2! ugh why does she care so much about a garter?!
the weird thing is I am wearing the necklace that she wore to her wedding, and she doesn’t seem to care about that at all, and I have also designed my dress in the same (unusual) fabric and very similar style to her wedding dress, but she keeps hinting that I should try it without sleeves (that’s what makes it so similar). I am wearing two very obvious things that tie my wedding look to hers and the thing she cares about most is a bit of elastic and ribbon around my leg underneath the dress?
Post # 9
In my experience the bride wears 2. One is usually nicer/more expensive than the other and the bride keeps this one. The second one is cheaper and this is the one that the groom removes and then tosses to the single guys.
Then the guy who caught the garter puts it on the leg of the girl who caught the bouqet and she keeps the garter (or it just gets thrown away).
^ I mentioned this last part on another post once and people were all grossed out but I don’t know why. It’s totally acceptable/traditional where I live. lol You don’t have to get all gross/weird about it. It’s all good fun.
Post # 10
Generally, whomever catches the garter gets to keep it, just like whomever catches the bouquet gets to keep it.
A bride will wear 2 garters — a special one to keep, and a cheapie to throw.
I am wearing a garter but I won’t be throwing a garter. there just aren’t enough “eligable men” in our wedding. Same with the bouquet. No tossing here!
Post # 11
I will be wearing a garter and not tossing it! We decided against the garter toss and the bouquet toss too.
Post # 12
I don’t think I’ll be doing a garter toss because we’re having a very small wedding, and most of the guests are already married. If I was doing a garter toss, I would have two. One to keep and one to throw.
Post # 13
@polkadotgirl: You should definitely wear two, or skip the garter toss entirely. It would be very awkward to ask for it back. I think it’s cute that your mom is so excited. I’m not sure how old you or she is, but if she’s over 45 or so, it might have been a bit of naughty risque fun and she’s eager for you to join the club of mature married women who are “allowed” to be sexy.
Also, I see a few posts that say the man puts it on the leg of the woman who catches the bouquet, and SHE gets to keep it. But that doesn’t seem fair to me — she gets the bouquet AND the garter? I prefer the tradition that they each keep what they caught.
Post # 14
I think some people buy a less expensive one to toss, like others have suggested, and keep a nicer one for the bride/groom.
Post # 15
My garter came in a 2 piece set. I will also be getting a separate toss bouquet to throw.
Post # 16
Like the others say, a garter is like a bouquet. The person who catches it keeps it. Just like with the bouquet toss, where some brides buy a cheap bouquet to toss in addition to their real bouquet, some brides also buy a cheap garter to toss. Many garters also come in two pieces, like the one in the picture above.