Post # 1
i just need to vent… im waiting.. semi patiently/impatiently.. we went to a wedding this weekend.. i happened to be the Maid/Matron of Honor.. lucky me! haha.. all was fine i was doing really well but i really didnt want to be a part of the whole bouquet/garter toss.. mainly bc i hate the garter toss.. but of course i was pulled to the dance floor and the flowers came right to me! luckily i moved out of the way and someone else caught them. Then the garter was tossed and my SO caught it! People were screaming put it on with your teeth! and when he didn’t (thank god bc i may have fainted!) they tied his hands behind his back and blind folded him! i was seriously mortified and we left shortly after and now i never want to see any of these ppl ever again! Now people are posting all these pictures on facebook.. UGH is this really a normal tradition!?!?!
Post # 3
sadly, this is a normal tradition.
a tradition you will not see at my wedding.
Post # 4
thats not normal…. the GROOM pulls the garter off the BRIDE with his teeth. he sling shots it backwards and the single guys try to catch it. the lady who catches the bouquet and the guy who gets the garter do a dance together.
Post # 5
This post churns my stomache- I would be VERY upset too! How distateful.
Post # 6
This is part of the reason that I literally hide during the bouquet toss. So uncomfortable!
Post # 7
.. oh and they pulled me up to the dance floor to make me watch! and asked if i was okay with it and when i said no they didnt care! my poor boyfriend.. this will def not be at my wedding
@Pearberry: i have felt sick all day just thinking about it! thats why i came to the bee i knew i couldnt be alone in my feelings
that sounds so much more reasonable!
i tried to hide.. the bride found me 🙁
Post # 8
Oh wow I have never been to a wedding that does the second half of the bouquet/garter toss. It’s always just been a girl catches the bouquet, a guy catches the garter, they get a picture with the bride a groom holding the bouquet/garter. These people are supposedly “next” to get married…but not to each other. I actually purposefully aimed my bouquet at my friend who had just gotten engaged. I definitely would not have done this if the guy who caught the garter was supposed to put it on her with his teeth! haha
That is a pretty tacky tradition
Post # 9
wait, he had to put the garter on the girl who caught the bouquet? Is that what you’re saying?
Thats soooo awkward!
I’m glad we skipped the garter thing all together. I don’t want my whole family seeing my husband pulling lingerie off of me.
Post # 10
Ugh. That’s so awkward. Soooo awkward. 🙁
We will NOT be doing any of that traditional stuff at our wedding, especially not the second part you mentioned! I’ve never even heard of that.
Post # 11
@asianyoushi: Nope, it’s totally the normal tradition for the guy who catches the garter to put it on the girl who catches the bouquet.
And like MichiganBride2012, it was a tradition not seen at my wedding!
Post # 12
We had this, the guy just put it on her leg though, this is how I have seen it at other weddings as well.
I thought it would be far more embarrasing than it was (getting the garter removed myself). It was actually hysterical and I am really glad I did it. The pictures were also great. I also don’t have a very traditional crowd or family. (Picture by Scott David)
Post # 13
@ my sister’s wedding I caught the bouquet, and the man who caught the garter did put it on my leg but not with his teeth!!
Post # 14
Ugh…I’ve never understood the garter thing. NOT going to happen at my wedding!
Post # 15
I’ve never even heard of the second part… I just thought they caught it, smiled, and said “cheese!” At least, that’s how it’ll go at my wedding. Hopefully someone will try to catch it anyway lol… with my FI’s friends, those bachelors may all run off in diff directions to avoid the wedding bug.
Post # 16
Blaah! How vulgar!
At my cousin’s wedding, they pretty much did this whole thing– though nobody was pulled against their will onto the dance floor to participate. That’s not right– I don’t blame you for never wanting to see those people again!!
I definitely agree that these traditions can be done in an exceedingly tacky way (my cousin’s wedding was EXTREMELY tacky through and through, IMO. . . though maybe I’m being too judgemental). I’ve always liked the IDEA of the bouquet toss, but if you’re not interested in getting married, it’s a pretty annoying thing to have to participate in! As for the garter. . . I get the symbolism and all that, but eeeeewww. It’s pretty gross.
They shouldn’t have insisted that you participate if you really, really didn’t want to. Ugh.