Post # 17
Ughhhh I think both the bouquet and garter tosses are humiliating. I refuse to participate in them. The DJ at FI’s cousin’s wedding kept calling Fiance to the dancefloor for the garter toss, announcing that “if [he] isn’t married, [he’s] single!” Um, no. Fiance had NO desire to go up there for it, and we ended up walking away for a while. And then the groom’s brother had to put it garter on the bride’s sister. Gross. Weird. Gross. No.
Post # 18
I am so not a fan of the boquet/garter toss. I agree with vorpalette, I’m not married but BF and I have been together for four and a half years – we’re certainly not single. I also don’t want his head up my dress in front of an audience!
Post # 19
Gross. I didn’t have the BT/GT at my wedding, and I am so glad that I can never again be badgered into participating. I HATE those traditions.
Post # 20
@asianyoushi: I couldn’t agree more!!! I don’t know when the garter toss became so….nasty!!! I will be having a toss, but that is ALL! No putting it back on the girl who catches the bouquet, no totally embarassing moments for people who aren’t involved with each other…none of that!!! Just a toss, maybe a dance…no more no less…. I think the rest of it is disgusting!!!
Post # 21
I feel your annoyance. I can’t stand this tradition and it won’t be at my wedding.
Post # 22
I definitely don’t see anything redeeming in this tradition. I think the bouquet toss can just be a fun tradition if done on its own, but the garter is crossing a line, IMO.
Post # 23
I LIKE THE GARTER TOSS!
I don’t see an issue with it……
Post # 24
Ugh I agree. I really despise these traditions. They wernt at my weddimg and thank goodness my friends have all skipped them at theirs too. The bouquet toss makes single girls feel even worse and the whole garter business issoo bawdy. Ugh.
Post # 25
Ugh I hate the idea of this :/ just seems (sorry) tacky. I don’t get it at all.
Post # 26
I was at a wedding where they did this they tried to get the guy to put out on with his teeth but he refused. Were doing this at our wedding too but the traditional way not wiyh teeth lol
Post # 27
In the past year and a half I’ve been to about 50 weddings and this isn’t uncommon. Occasionally the bride and groom will forgo the entire bouquet/ garter toss part of the evening, but I don’t think I’ve been to even one where the garter was tossed and the recipient didn’t put the garter on the lady who caught the boquet. I think the idea is that it’s late in the evening, everyone’s drunk and rowdy, and it’s a silly activity. Everyone yells “do it with your teeth!” or “put it higher!!” Sure, it’s embarassing, but it isn’t anything worth dwelling over.
Post # 28
thanks everyone! i knew i would get the support i needed here 🙂 i personally think its (sorry) trashy and completely embarrasing.. it may be funny to watch but it’s not so funny when people are laughing at your expense.. especially when there are grandparents etc present! this tradition will def not be at my wedding! i was absolutely appauled when girls were screaming put it on with your teeth and when they blind folded him one girl start “carressing” his head…i really am not sure how I kept my cool! thank god my boyfriend was with me on this one.. i’m over it now but that is def the last time ill participate in any sort of those activities.. hopefully he’ll put a ring on it soon so i won’t have to worry anymore! 🙂 haha
Post # 29
I’m not going to lie, what your “friends” did is not traditional. It’s kind of gross.
We did the BT/GT at our wedding and it was a lot of fun. A couple caught both and had a lot of fun with it. They’re married now which makes me smile :o)
Post # 30
I am definitely NOT doing the garter toss. Fiance would probably jump right back out there and try to get it back. LOL
Post # 31
Huh? we did both and that is NOT how it went. My DH took the garter off me, and tossed it to the single guys. One of his GM’s caught it.
I tossed my bouquet to the single ladies. My personal attendant caught it after wrestling it from the Girlfriend of the Groomsmen who caught the garter. And that was it. No dancing with each other, putting the garter back on, pictures – nothing. I also didn’t drag people onto the floor who didn’t want to partake.
It’s funny though – the Groomsmen proposed to his girlfriend the next weekend, and the personal attendant got engaged a few weeks ago. So maybe it did bring them a little luck 😉
ETA: I should add that that’s the way I’ve seen it done at EVERY wedding I’ve been to. Never have I seen the putting it on the girl who caught the bouquet – that would skeeve me out!