(Closed) garter toss.. WHY

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
7384 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ughhhh I think both the bouquet and garter tosses are humiliating. I refuse to participate in them. The DJ at FI’s cousin’s wedding kept calling Fiance to the dancefloor for the garter toss, announcing that “if [he] isn’t married, [he’s] single!” Um, no. Fiance had NO desire to go up there for it, and we ended up walking away for a while. And then the groom’s brother had to put it garter on the bride’s sister. Gross. Weird. Gross. No.

Post # 18
2604 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I am so not a fan of the boquet/garter toss. I agree with vorpalette, I’m not married but BF and I have been together for four and a half years – we’re certainly not single. I also don’t want his head up my dress in front of an audience!

Post # 19
3214 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Gross.  I didn’t have the BT/GT at my wedding, and I am so glad that I can never again be badgered into participating. I HATE those traditions.

Post # 20
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@asianyoushi:  I couldn’t agree more!!! I don’t know when the garter toss became so….nasty!!!  I will be having a toss, but that is ALL!  No putting it back on the girl who catches the bouquet, no totally embarassing moments for people who aren’t involved with each other…none of that!!!  Just a toss, maybe a dance…no more no less…. I think the rest of it is disgusting!!!

Post # 21
772 posts
Busy bee

I feel your annoyance. I can’t stand this tradition and it won’t be at my wedding. 

Post # 22
2969 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I definitely don’t see anything redeeming in this tradition. I think the bouquet toss can just be a fun tradition if done on its own, but the garter is crossing a line, IMO.

Post # 23
189 posts
Blushing bee


I don’t see an issue with it……

Post # 24
1929 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

Ugh I agree. I really despise these traditions. They wernt at my weddimg and thank goodness my friends have all skipped them at theirs too.  The bouquet toss makes single girls feel even worse and the whole garter business issoo bawdy. Ugh.

Post # 25
592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Ugh I hate the idea of this :/ just seems (sorry) tacky. I don’t get it at all.

Post # 26
6414 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I was at a wedding where they did this they tried to get the guy to put out on with his teeth but he refused. Were doing this at our wedding too but the traditional way not wiyh teeth lol

Post # 27
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

In the past year and a half I’ve been to about 50 weddings and this isn’t uncommon. Occasionally the bride and groom will forgo the entire bouquet/ garter toss part of the evening, but I don’t think I’ve been to even one where the garter was tossed and the recipient didn’t put the garter on the lady who caught the boquet. I think the idea is that it’s late in the evening, everyone’s drunk and rowdy, and it’s a silly activity. Everyone yells “do it with your teeth!” or “put it higher!!” Sure, it’s embarassing, but it isn’t anything worth dwelling over.

Post # 29
4005 posts
Honey bee

I’m not going to lie, what your “friends” did is not traditional. It’s kind of gross.

We did the BT/GT at our wedding and it was a lot of fun. A couple caught both and had a lot of fun with it. They’re married now which makes me smile :o) 

Post # 30
918 posts
Busy bee

I am definitely NOT doing the garter toss. Fiance would probably jump right back out there and try to get it back. LOL

Post # 31
3282 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1993

Huh? we did both and that is NOT how it went. My DH took the garter off me, and tossed it to the single guys. One of his GM’s caught it.

I tossed my bouquet to the single ladies. My personal attendant caught it after wrestling it from the Girlfriend of the Groomsmen who caught the garter. And that was it. No dancing with each other, putting the garter back on, pictures – nothing. I also didn’t drag people onto the floor who didn’t want to partake.


It’s funny though – the Groomsmen proposed to his girlfriend the next weekend, and the personal attendant got engaged a few weeks ago. So maybe it did bring them a little luck 😉


ETA: I should add that that’s the way I’ve seen it done at EVERY wedding I’ve been to. Never have I seen the putting it on the girl who caught the bouquet – that would skeeve me out!

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