Garter toss yes or no?

posted 5 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: Did/will you have a garter toss at your wedding?
    Yes : (58 votes)
    27 %
    No : (150 votes)
    70 %
    Other : (7 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We didn’t have either the bouquet or the garter toss.  They both seem creepy and sexist.  We skipped them all together and I don’t think anyone missed anything. 

    Post # 4
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    1116 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    FI and are slightly older and there aren’t going to be that many single people at our wedding soooooo we are doing a bouquet toss but I am having all the ladies out for the toss and then we are skipping the garter all together and my FI is throwing a soft (stuffed) softball to all the guys.  We met while playing softball so it fits “us”.  And whomever catches the bouquet and the softball gets a prize pack with stuff that is related to us… some gift cards and other things we like/use a lot.

    Post # 5
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    7978 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We’re doing the bouquet toss but not the garter toss. I just feel weird about it and really awkward, and that’s not the way I want to feel on my wedding day lol. My mom and FMIL were both mad I didn’t want to though, for whatever reason.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    It’s always the most awkward and creepy moment at the wedding. If I wanted to have a man go up my skirt and then throw off my underware in public, I’d be a stripper (and making good money for it). 

    Post # 7
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    338 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I was okay with doing a garter toss, but when I explained it to my mom (who was born and raised in Iran, moved to the states in her mid-20s, so, from a different culture), she was mortified. “He has to stick his head under your skirt??? No way you’re doing that in front of your grandmother” I thought it would be cute and awkward for everyone involved. I love cute and awkward. Guess I’m not though! haha. I’m not too heartbroken about it though. Seems like nobody really likes it anyway.

    Post # 8
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    1755 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Earlier this year I went to a wedding where they had a garter toss, but the DJ announced that the groom had removed it privately before the reception and he tossed it without having to rummage under the bride’s skirts.  We’re skipping the garter toss, but I think that they did it was a tasteful alternative.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I hate the whole tradition (bouquet and garter) so nope, we didn’t do them. We had an anniversary dance instead and it was a definite crowd pleaser. 

    Post # 11
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    83 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We skipped the garter and boquet toss at our wedding, I always find them to be the most awkward part of the wedding reception!

    Post # 12
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    1015 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We’re doing both. I think if done tastefully it’s a cute tradition. We have talked about it and I have made it clear that I don’t want him taking forever down there, and nothing is to be removed with teeth. Yuck.

    Post # 13
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    3668 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    So awkward!!! I really don’t want his head up my dress in front of my friends and family. I hate the bouquet toss, too.

    Post # 14
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    3887 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Several years ago I was a bridesmaid for a friend who did a garter toss.  I ended up catching the bouquet, much to my horror, and having to climb onto a stage and have my girl-pal’s garter put on my leg by the guy who’d caught it— who just happened to be another good friend of mine.  Awwwwwkward!  It was really an unpleasant experience and not one I’d want to inflict on any of my guests!

    Post # 15
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    4607 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I’m not doing the bouquet or garter toss. It’s just not my style.

    Post # 16
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    9484 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    No, I won’t doing one.  It’s a small and intimate backyard wedding.  Most of our guests will be engaged or already married.

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