(Closed) Garters: Yes? No? Maybe?

posted 5 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Will/Did you wear a garter?
    Yes : (35 votes)
    39 %
    No : (48 votes)
    54 %
    Maybe - explain below? : (6 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 31
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I wore one, because when the hell else am I going to wear a garter?

    but he removed it in private, and didn’t toss it.

    Post # 32
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I don’t know if we will do a garter toss.  I don’t really want to, but my boyfriend does.  

    Besides the weirdness of the tradition, I really hate garters because they serve literally no purpose.  I really don’t like things that don’t serve a purpose.  Back in the day when people actually wore garter belts and they held up stockings, they served a purpose.  Now they are just an uncomfortable stretchy piece of material that is useless.  I also don’t particularly find them sexy.  Now, if they were thigh highs or something, then those can be sexy.  But a random piece of elastic lace that exists for no reason is not sexy in my opinion. 

    If we do end up doing the tradition, I definitely wouldn’t be wearing the garter all day.  Because I hate them.  Obviously, haha. 

    Post # 33
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    493 posts
    Helper bee

    We aren’t doing a garter toss.  I don’t want to wear one, and he doesn’t mind.  

    Post # 34
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    103 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I feel like it’s cheap, trashy, and tacky. I don’t want to do it, however I know everyone will give me crap for breaking with “tradition” and not doing it. However, I want to be a classy bride…and I don’t think I could handle sitting in a chair with my fiance going up my huge ballroom wedding dress as my dad stands to the side with his eyes bulging out at the scene before him. 

    So probably not, unless people guilt trip me into it.

    Post # 35
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    1066 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    We will be doing the garter and bouquet tosses! We are pretty young and have lots of young friends attending who will get a laugh out of it. I’ve never minded doing the toss in the past I think it’s fun as long as no one takes it too seriously.  

    Considering families used to take part in traditions such as trying to undress the bridal couple or dragging them to the matrimonial bed, I don’t think it’s an issue.  We are married! I think they’ll know we will be doing the dirty.

    heh, we’ve lived together for 4 years so I’m sure something so tame won’t be a shock 😛

    Post # 36
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    Helper bee

    My SO didn’t even know it was a thing, and when I asked him if he’d do it, his reactiong was “WHAT? I’m not doing that in front of my mum!” haha. We’ve since then decided on only a guest list of 15, so definitely not doing it, as I think it’d be extremely weird at such a small function and all family.

    Post # 37
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    1184 posts
    Bumble bee

    Absolutely no way. I dislike being the centre of attention so I’ve reluctantly agreed to speeches but no garter or bouquet toss 

    Even if I didn’t mind the attention, I’d feel very awkward about it. It’s one (of many) wedding traditions that I dislike. 

    Post # 38
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    92 posts
    Worker bee

    I have to say I’m surprised at how many are not for the garter toss. We are doing it as well the bouquet toss. We will have quite a bit of family there but at the same time quite a few friends who aren’t married. Most are in relationships but they are game to play too. I made my garter and tossing garter, and for a funny time I’m sticking toys tools in mine for my Fiance to pull out (he’s a mechanic). 

    Post # 39
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I didn’t wear a garter and didnt miss as it at all!

    Post # 40
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    If you’re not comfortable wearing one, don’t do it. Not everyone sticks to every tradition. I wore one though because I thought it added a fun touch to the wedding.

    Post # 41
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    446 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I’m wearing one, but just for my fiance. It won’t be taken off or tossed.

    Post # 42
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    1111 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    tolkenbee:  haha yes I’ve always wondered how that works in a mermaid lol 

    Post # 43
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    We’re not doing a garter toss- we also have mostly family coming! I am wearing a mermaid dress so it would be difficult to wear one but I might wear one if I can find one that doesn’t show through the dress!

    Post # 44
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    kkskidder:  I’m with you. I’m kind of surprised how everyone seems horrified to do this in front of your family. Couples are having sex and living together before getting married all the time these days. Its not like you’re dancing on a stripper pole or showing everyone your underwear. Even if you are a virgin everyone knows that’s ending really soon. 

    If you have a really tight mermaid dress I could see the logistical side of option out, but for the life of me I don’t see it as some dirty, perverted moment. Maybe I’ve just never witness any of these so-called awkward ones everyone else has. And with all etiquette police on here saying you need to give everyone a plus 1 or you’re a rude host, you should have plenty of single/not married people there to not feel embarrassed. 

    A lot of people seem to be playing this newlywed game with bride and groom dolls or shoes and I think that’s a total buzz kill and waste of time. Bouquet/garter toss can be done within 5 minutes and its just more lighthearted than some people make it out to be. 

    Post # 45
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I was not thrilled about it, mainly because I don’t want to do it in front of my dad! It is however SO customary where we are getting married, that as a part of the game, it almost becomes like a favor because there is usually money in the garter or a gift card or something like that for the guy that gets it. Fiance said he wanted to do it because it is part of the latin culture and we are going to go with it but I’ll probably DIE seating there. That said, I’ve seen it done in very classy ways with the groom not necessarily going under the dress but just merely taking the garter from the -almost knee- leg with his hand. 

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