(Closed) GASP! My invitations don’t match my wedding colors! Total faux pas?

posted 10 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Do invitations need to match the wedding colors?

    Yes! Go out and look for invitations in your colors of navy and ivory

    No, a mix and match of colors is fine

    Who cares? No one cares if the invitations match the wedding colors

  • Post # 17
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    I’ve yet to see anyone at a reception waving the invites around to compare them to the colors.  I think you’re fine unless it really bugs you personally.  I wouldn’t change anything in anticipation that your guests will notice, which I think is pretty unlikely.

    Post # 18
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    You’re totally fine. There’s no rule saying everything has to be matchy-matchy. Besides noone’s going to remember what your invitations looked like by the time the wedding comes around.

    Post # 19
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I don’t think its a big deal. I rarely pay attention to see if invitation colors match the wedding colors. As long as you are happy with them I don’t see a problem with it.  Heck, I really like some invites that dont really match our wedding colors but I can’t seem to find ones I like in out colors. I may do the same thing!

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Aright, here’s the fact:

    Tradition says that you need to match your invitations with your wedding (hence the BMs reaction)

    But, the present time says you can do whatever you really want because its your party and you can cry if you want to.  🙂  lol

    If you’re content with it, you can leave them as is.  If you’re hardcore on tradition, change them.  But, really, its what makes you happy.  These guests should feel honored to get an invite to share this day with you. 

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    The idea of the need to “match” invitation colors with other colors in the wedding – in fact the idea of having “wedding colors” at all is a completely modern invention.

    Having colors in your invitation at all used to be considered tacky until relatively recently. Plain ecru or white paper – those were the only “correct” choices. Nowadays there are more options. The only requirement for an invitation is that it convey to guests where they are supposed to be, when, and an approximation of the formality of the event so that they can guess at the proper attire.

    I guarantee you that in the years before weddings became a billion dollar industry dedicated to sucking as much money out of people as possible, there were very few brides-to-be running around trying to match all the colors. And nobody noticed or cared! Lately I’ve seen a lot of the more sophisticated brides skipping the “wedding colors” concept entirely which is a bit of a return to tradition. I think it makes the event look a lot more grown up and less like a prom or a children’s birthday party when it’s less matchy-matchy. If any guests notice or care about the navy blue they are very odd people indeed.

    Post # 22
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

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    @njm1313:  Yeah but honestly I think that bit about matching it to the wedding, isn’t meaning matching it to the wedding COLORS but moreso to the TONE of the wedding.  I.E. is it casual or formal, etc.

    Post # 23
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

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    @Magdalena: Thank you for wording so well what I was thinking!

    Post # 24
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

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    @meliss: 🙂

    Post # 25
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    we just did our save the dates, and they match our invites- everything is green and yellow- its a garden party. so it totally matches our wedding, but at the event everything will be white with different shades of blue and pops of red- not the same at all. like you, i had to get over the fact that they’re totally different-

    i decided i don’t really care.  and i don’t want everything to be matchymatchy in terms of color- i just want it all to have the same feeling- fun, outdoors, romantic, whimsical, etc. 

     

    like @mjm1313 said- its your party!

    Post # 26
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I know this is an old thread, but I wanted to see if anyone thinks differently now. I didn’t even have a theme when we got our STDs and invitations. I just picked something that both Fiance and I liked and could agree on. Then, after I chose the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and had a color, we kind of formed a theme around that. So my invites definitely don’t match the “theme” we ended up with. Is that weird? No one will notice but me, right?

    Post # 27
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    @veggie_rachel:  Nah, nobody will notice but you. I’ve noticed after the fact when invitations DO match the theme if it’s obviously stated, but I have never, ever thought about whether they DON’T match, and I’m someone who loves invitations and really pays attention to the details on them. I can’t imagine someone bringing the invitation with them, and then holding it up to compare it to everything on your wedding day (although that would be kind of hilarious).

    Post # 28
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    Buzzing bee

    I won’t be having wedding colors per say (having a wildflower themed wedding, so there will be lots of different pops of color), and my invitations are navy and a light coral color. They don’t match and I don’t care!

    Post # 29
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Since you don’t care, and you already have them, don’t worry about it. Just use them. Maybe add a navy ribbon or something to tie it together. Or don’t.  

    I don’t think they have to match really, but they probably shouldn’t be total opposites. If you said your colors were hot pink, silver, and black and then told me you had orange fall themed invitations, that might be weird. Navy and another shade of blue? No big deal.

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