Gave back the ring

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
710 posts
Busy bee

@Shesaidyes:  (Hugs) So sorry this is happening. But from what you’ve written you’ve made the right choice. Take good care of you in the next days & weeks! Have friends and family take your mind of things! Enjoy life!

Post # 4
3151 posts
Sugar bee

I’m so sorry OP. I hope things work out for you (whether that is staying with him or moving on to a different relationship with someone who wants more of the same things). 

Good luck!

Post # 5
46 posts
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m sorry that you have had to experience such a heartache. It sounds like you made the right decision though, and I think you’re smart to get counselling as I think this will be a big hurdle you both, as a couple and individuals, will have to jump over. My best wishes go out to you and I hope you pull through ok. make sure though that he’s worth giving up the “marriage idea” for, as you don’t want to regret that you didn’t go out and find someone who was the marrying type. 

Post # 7
3429 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Shesaidyes:  Hugs to you. your post made me sad. Sounds like you know what you’re doing Though I’d love to know what he said when you gave the ring back. Don’t give up on your dream! I hope counseling will help you get through this:) With any luck you may be posting on the bee again soon!

Post # 8
3469 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

awww girl I’m so sorry! You are doing the right thing though. I assure you that you will find happiness, whether it be with a person or just a new found hobby until the right one comes along! You value yourself and your life and that is a GREAT thing. Don’t let anyone ever tell you otherwise. If you dont value and respect yourself you can never expect it from anyone else. ((HUGS))

Post # 9
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Oh I’m sorry 🙁 Try to move on and enjoy your life.

good luck!

Post # 10
2534 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

You sound like a wonderful person to be staying with the man you love, even though he’s shown that he’s not ready for marriage. I hope he is someday – maybe this will be food for thought for him! It’s a huge decision on your part, and it sure says a lot about you – you’ve got a hell of a lot more commitment than many married couples! 

I wish you two a lifetime of happiness together if you stick with each other.
If not – I wish you happiness and an abundance of amazing people in your life!

Post # 11
11273 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Shesaidyes:  i’m sorry that you are going through this.  is marriage something that you really wanted or is the relationship itself more important than a piece of paper? 

what do you truly want? 

i hope that you don’t become resentful about waiting and then just “teased”. 

i wish you luck with everything.  you don’t have to leave the bee just b/c you are not planning a wedding.  we are also here to chat with when you are having a bad day.

Post # 12
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am really sorry to hear this. You must feel devastated.  I applaud your guts to give the ring back (knowing that marriage is not really what he wants).  I hope you are able to either find peace with your decision to stay with him or strength to move on and find someone new (I’m not implying that you are not strong for staying with him–I just know it would take major strenght to move on).  

Good luck and consider staying on the bee for support.

Post # 13
988 posts
Busy bee

Oh, I’m sorry he let you down like this. For what it’s worth, I think you made the right decision. Good luck!

Post # 15
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m so sorry to hear, but you have to be true to yourself and what you want in your life. The way you feel is not awful or mean, it’s the way you feel and you have no reason to apologize for the way that you feel.

What’s most important is that you take care of yourself and do whatever you feel will help you.  The tan line will fade and if you feel that right now you need that distance than by all means take it.  By continually putting off the date he was taking his distance so you take yours.

My thoughts are with you.

Post # 16
596 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Shesaidyes:  ::hugs:: …but can I say…am glad I saw you post that you were angry. After reading the first post, that was my first thought. You appeared to be so okay with everything. I hope you figure out what you want – whether it be in the relationship or out of it. Good luck, hun!

Leave a comment

Find Amazing Vendors