Post # 46
awww. what a wonderful post to read. I thought your original post was new and it was so sad to read you had invested so much time…but as you indicate there is a light at the end of the tunnel and it’s heartwarming to hear of the positive!
Post # 47
That is so horrible. I feel so sad for you.
Yes! Believe it! There is life after this. I found support in my counselor, my friends and yes, reading a select few self-help books. As far as finding a new partner, the book “Love Factually” really helped me understand what I was looking for, what I shouldn’t and what I can really expect in order to have a comitted relationship. I also totally nixed the Bride-porn for a long time. It was breaking my heart.
Please take care of yourself! You can get through this.
Post # 48
Thank you everyone for the outpouring of support and kindness!
Really, you are all so lovely.
When it was happening, I didnt think I was being brave or strong. At the time I was just heartbroken and trying to get through an awful time with some dignity. But I guess, with some distance I realize I can take better care of myself and do the right thing for my happiness than I thought.
I really do hope someone in a similar situation as I was in will find hope in my story. Because, I was greatly in doubt at the time. And now I feel so positive and grateful. I feel stronger than ever!
Post # 49
I think you’re wonderful, self-aware and courageous for your decision. You’ve made the move to enable your future self to become happy. That takes a massive amount of bravery and upheaval. It will be so difficult while you heal but it will be worth it.
One of my dearest friends went through a failed marriage, three children with two partners and a couple of long-term relationships that just didn’t work out. She did what you did and ended her last relationship with a man whom she loved because she knew it wasn’t going forward. She knew she deserved more. She was 42 and a couple of years later she found the love of her life. It may have taken a long time for them to find each other but they’re both too happy to care about that. I wish you the same happiness. Take care and keep your chin up. X
ETA: I’m sorry, I didn’t notice this was an old post! I’m so very happy that you’re over your struggle and that you’ve found a decent man. There is always hope, thank you for sharing the wonderful news 🙂
Post # 50
Well said. I too hope someone finds your story who needs to hear it. Here’s hoping it comes up on Google searches about dragging feet and endless pushing back of wedding dates!
Post # 51
What a wonderful update. You are right, relationships take effort but healthy relationships do not demand so much struggle. Many of us learn this through experience as you did, and also learn as you did sometimes the hardest endings bring the most amazing new beginnings. I hope a few bees in your situation read your post and update and take some time to reflect on their own situations. Best wishes to you – it is clear from your update that whatever happens with your current romantic relationship, you have already gone far with the most important relationship – the one with yourself.
Post # 52
Best update I’ve read thus far 🙂 You sound like an amazing woman. Wishing you well!
Post # 53
PERFECT! YES! Thanks for summing in three sentences that which took me years to learn.