(Closed) Gay Best Friend at Bachelorette Party?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Should we invite my gay best friend to the bachelorette party?
    No, everyone understands that bachelorette parties are for the ladies : (9 votes)
    8 %
    Yes, this is about having a night out with your closest friends! : (66 votes)
    62 %
    Ask him if he wants to be invited! : (31 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 3
    159 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @sunsetchristy:  Why not just ask him? Some gay men may be all about it while others would prefer to stick to boys club activities. If you don’t want to ask (because, I don’t know, it is a surprise?), then I say invite him.

    Post # 4
    248 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @sunsetchristy:  One of my best friends from middle school is gay and he is a groomsman in my wedding. I could NOT imagine him not being in all of our professional photos with our bridal party…I was so glad when he said yes to being a groomsman (I was actually surprised at how happy he was that I asked). He will absolutely be invited to the bachelorette party, which he has already shown so much excitement for. He will also be invited to the bachelor party, and although he knows most of the guys going, I’m not sure he will attend that.

    I think you shoud invite him! He’s one of your best friends and I’m sure he’d love to be there!

    Post # 5
    119 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    One of my wife’s BFFs is a guy and he went to her bachelorette. She could not have imagined it without him and everyone had a wonderful time. If he is important to you, invite him! Crush those gender stereotypes!

    Post # 7
    1659 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I asked my gay best friend if he’d want to be invited to bachelorette/shower and he said no. Just ask him, the courtesy invite for the bachelor party might be enough!

    Post # 8
    663 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My gay Brother-In-Law was invited and went to my Bachlorette party! He said he was more comfortable going to my last night out than his brother’s LOL My wonderful Mother-In-Law went too. We had a wonderful time 🙂

    Post # 9
    2951 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 1998

    Definitely invite him but let him know that it’s his call to come or not. 

    Let him know all the details of what you are doing so he knows. 

    I think if you didn’t invite him his feelings could be hurt. Not worth that happening.

    Post # 10
    516 posts
    Busy bee

    I voted that he should be invited.

    I don’t quite understand how asking him if he wants to be invited is different than just inviting him. 

    Why not just invite him, and privately tell him that you definitely want him to be there, but won’t be offended if he’s not comfortable coming?

    I WISH I had a fun gay bestie to bring places!




    Post # 11
    510 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Two of my best friends are gay, but they are still men and it is a girls’ night so they wouldn’t want to come! I also think they might be offended if i invite them just because they are gay and not my other straight guy friends. So unless you have decided to invite your straight male friends too then I wouldn’t.  

    However if you think they would want to be there then just ask him (I voted “ask” as you know him best).

    Post # 12
    1880 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    My friends are pretty evenly split between girls and guys, so my guest list is too (in fact, it is exactly half girls and half guys). All are straight. There may be male strippers involved. No one cares. Of my RSVPs (the invitation was out yesterday), so far 4 are guys and 4 are girls (5 if you include meeeee).

    Post # 13
    7977 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    Why not? Especially if none of your activities are obviously “female only”? I’m debating this as well, because I’d love to invite my male friends, brother, and male cousins to my hen, but I obviously don’t want them to come if we end up doing burlesque classes, or ariel silk classes, or something. Anything even remotely raunchy should be single gender only, IMO… much more comfortable that way. On the other hand, if it’s a matter of zoo, meal, and pub crawl (I suggested a fancy dress pub crawl to my Maid/Matron of Honor as one option) then they seem like perfectly suitable co-ed activities to me.

    Post # 14
    407 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I think it’s fine to invite him and if he declines the invitation, he declines – leave it up to him. My gay best friend and his partner were the only guys at my Retro Housewife themed bridal shower and they fit in beatifully (it wasn’t awkward or anything) and they both even won prizes from the shower games, haha. 

    Post # 15
    1408 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I work in pediatrics which tends to have a high gay male population. lol. We always throw bachelorette parties for the ladies we work with – and our gay boys are always invited! In fact, we wouldnt have it any other way. Theyre so much fun!!

    Post # 16
    264 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Lake Taghkanic State Park

    I think you should invite him! My gay best friend is my man of honor and he’ll definitely be at mine. It seems like you’re going for something pretty casual and I’m sure the girls won’t mind especially if a good amount of them know him.

    If you’re worried that it won’t be an exciting enough party for him, then maybe just explain what you’re going to be doing and ask him if he’d be interested in going, then there’s your answer. 🙂

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