Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
Distancing yourself is probably for the best. If she demands an opinion, ask her questions instead of giving her answers. For example:
Bride: I’m scared of staining my dress!
Nona: Well, what are you afraid of staining it with?
Bride: What did you do for ______?
Nona: Well, what are your thoughts on ______?
Talk her into answering her own questions. If she blows up anyway, use a calm voice and say, “I do not like being yelled at. If you don’t want help, don’t ask for my opinion.”
Post # 18
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Bee Keeper
Thanks ladies, I’m being held hostage by a wedding that’s 14 months away!! If I’m not a falling down drunk by the end of this, it will be because of you!
Post # 19
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Sugar bee
I think 3 weeks inwhat’s where I hit the ” ohhhhhh fuccccckk, there is sooooooo much too dooooooo! Woooooooe Is meee!!!!! Ahhhh!” portion of the engagement. ( yes, i said woe and drew out my syllabuls)
Tell her to take a break from planning and do FUN things. She might chill then.
Post # 20
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Bee Keeper
am I the only one picturing white satin hanging from the antlers?
Post # 21
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Bee Keeper
OH GAWD the ANTLERS! You guys just don’t understand…sitting at a table trying to eat and being distracted by the thought of the wagon wheel/antler chandelier above you falling down and impaling three people and blinding two while simultaneously scarring the children that were too short to be hit for life….
Post # 22
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Bee Keeper
@Nona99: here are some helpful antler ideas
antler cake
antler headdress
you’re welcome! so very welcome!
Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
@GroovyHippieChick: Stupid antlers….I actually HATE elk too, I know they look all majestic and wild on tv, but when you go out to get the paper and accidentally trigger a stampede through your driveway because you slammed the door, they kind of start to look like rats..with hooves…and in a herd situation they’re panic ridden creepy apholstered cattle….
Post # 24
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Blushing bee
OMG Nona… you are hilarious. I am at work. I think people think I’m crazy now. I hope things get better with your sister. She’s being a crazy bridezilla right now. I would recommend distancing yourself. If she isn’t going to take your help kindly, she doesn’t deserve it.
“sitting at a table trying to eat and being distracted by the thought of the wagon wheel/antler chandelier above you falling down and impaling three people and blinding two while simultaneously scarring the children that were too short to be hit for life”
I lost it reading that. Horrible picture…hilariously written.
Maybe you could write a novel or a screen play about your sister the bridezilla if things continue this way and make millions.
Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
I actually do a lot of playwriting, and I did base one of the characters on her in a New Year’s Eve one act that was produced here in Denver two years ago…brought the freaking house down!
She and I are exactly opposite, which is why we work so well together, and I think sometimes when she asks for my help it is because she’s overwhelmed, and then I come in and get it all in a pile and sort through the a,b &c’s of it, it looks so easy that she’s a little embarassed…My talents and hers could not be more different, but the fact is that we dovetail nicely…and right now I would imagine that she’s determined to have this her way, and a little possessive of the entire event…no one is going to steal her spotlight, and I would never dream of doing that…I’m a classically trained actor, I’ve had my time on stage, time and time again, this is her show and if I have to vent about her garbage on this forum for the next year so that she can have it, I will…I love her that much.
She’s a late bloomer, which I think makes her all the more charming and sweet, an incredibly kind and generous person who has never failed me, and she has waited so very long to find someone that would love her the way she loves them…as a family we all want this for her.
So I know it’s going to work out fine, I’m just half crazy, I have a lot on my plate because it’s how I like it, and if someone asks me to do something, I do it efficiently with the information provided…I would imagine I could be more patient with her, I’m a linear thinker who takes things at face valule, and sometimes I just can’t care about how she must be feeling because to me, emotion is a side effect of action, consequence and perception…if you feel bad, take a look at the events preceeding said feeling and revise accordingly.
On the up shot, at least the ladies got a laugh at all of this and I live for laughs!
Post # 26
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Worker bee
Hahaha! Oh my gosh people are looking at me funny at work. I just could not stop laughing at this!
I’m so sorry- I don’t actually have any advice beyond what’s already been said, but I did want to thank you all for a good laugh 🙂
Post # 27
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Bee Keeper
And I do blog…but I can’t blog about her because she follows it….
http://beulahthegossip.wordpress.com/2012/02/09/the-valentines-day-massacre-of-2009/
If you like my style…The Valentine’s Day Massacre of 2009 should make you wet your pants…and it’s a true story…
Post # 28
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Honey bee
I think once the hoopla of being newly engaged wears off, she’ll calm down. So you’re both alright. She could be worse.
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