Post # 1
I am so upset my whole family thinks my enegagment ring looks like a play ring. Just becasue its not a white gemstone or diamond. Its hard to put aside what other poeple think especially my family but ultimatly I am the one whos going to be wearing my enegement ring every day. I knew since i was very young I didnt want a diamond and I wanted a pear cut ring. My Fiance got me a pear cut blue sapphire and I love it! But after hearing what my family had to say it just feel like they dogged me, my Fiance and our choice. Why does majority of poeple think that only a diamond is considerable for an engement ring. “what about princess kate middleton and diana?” I asked. thier rebuttle was her sapphire is huge and surounded by huge diamonds. So now I am asking my self when i go out do poeple even see this as an enegemnt ring? a promise ring? a play ring? Now I am thinking about getting a white sapphire ring that looks exactly like my engagment ring.
Have any other women out there with gemstone engagment rings get similair recations?
Show me your ring too!!
Post # 2
Well. I love it and don’t see the play part. But regardless I would just stand up for yourself and your ring. Just say you don’t agree and that you love it.
Post # 3
😍😍😍 your ring is beautiful! Try not to care about what others think. In my circle that’s definitely an engagement ring. It’s even more sophisticated and fancy than a lot I have seen.
Post # 4
I also have a sapphire engagement ring. I’ve never gotten a negative comment about it. Your family just sounds like judgemental assholes.
Post # 5
I have to agree with your family. I think if you had a halo of diamonds around it, even a very thin halo would work, it would look much nicer and achieve the “engaged” look that you’re after.
Post # 6
I personally love it. I adore sapphire rings, they’re so classy! Ignore what people are saying. You can’t make everyone happy and you shouldn’t try to, it’s YOUR ring and it only matters if you like it!
Post # 7
Whenever people put you down about it, I’d just stare at them and bluntly say “that was rude”. Maybe add a comment about “I thought marriage was about being with the person you love for the rest of your life, not about materialistic things…”
But, I’m an asshole, so maybe you wouldn’t want to go there.
Post # 8
As a fellow owner of a blue sapphire, your ring is making me swoon. It’s a beauty! The depth of colour is BEAUTIFUL. And that shape is so lovely. It’s a stunner!!
I can’t believe how rude the people in your life are being!
Don’t waste your breath educating them about all the beautiful sapphire engagements in the world. The next time somebody makes a comment on your ring, say something like this:
“What a rude thing to say, disparaging another person’s jewellry. I’m embarassed for you.”
And then refuse to engage. Change the subect.
If they persist in spouting their rude views, leave the room / hang up the phone.
Do not engage!
Then go look at some of the sapphire threads on this board to cheer yourself up. You are in good company here.
Post # 9
what even is a play ring? if you wore a twist tie on your ring finger people would assume it was a sign of relationship status. people are just really conditioned to think diamond = engagement…and some people are dicks. youre experiencing the intersection of those two groups. 🙁
Post # 10
Thank you ladies for all the support.
I have never got any compliments on any of my gemstone rings that I occasionally swap out my enegagmnt ring for.
The one time I did get a compliment on a ring it was a cheapy CZ work ring that I bought for $5.
Post # 11
I think your ring is gorgeous. Like I’m actually swooning over it. I don’t usually comment on ring threads because most engagement rings look roughly the same to me, but damn yours is unique, elegant, and CLASSY…I can’t imagine calling it costumey. WTF. I feel like your fam has pretty low brow taste if they think that looks costumey. Seriously. Yeah you could bling it out with a halo and shit but then it would start to look rather basic, IMO.
Anyway I guarantee you that for every judgy gauche mofo telling you they dont like your ring, there are people like me who are hardcore lusting after it.
Post # 12
Another sapphire lover here–just ignore them. Gemstones have been used as engagement rings throughout history and are currently trending. Diamonds are a blip on the radar.
Post # 13
I wanted a pink sapphire ring as my engagement ring and got the same criticism. I was told it looked like costume jewelry. MyFI ended up getting me a diamond with pink sapphire side stones. I love my ring but I still long for a pink sapphire ring. In the next year I plan on getting a right hand ring that is pink sapphire. Your ring is absolutely beautiful! Don’t listen to the haters.
Post # 14
rose162 : Your ring is gorgeous and the only way I’d think it wasn’t an engagement ring is if you wore it on your right hand.
Post # 15
I ran into this problem a couple of times myself. I have an Emerald cut Padparadscha (a special type of peach) Sapphire with no halo, just like yours. Like you, I never wanted a diamond. I had done a research project on the diamond cartel in high school and my mind was made up.
My mom was the first one. She was perplexed by the stone and asked me one “Soooo, it’s not a diamond? I’m jsut used to seeing diamonds for engagement rings…” I was like “Welcome to the 21st century”. I rolled my eyes so hard. I thought I was going to pass out. Another one of my friends was like “Well, it’s definitely different…” She could have come right out and said she hated it lol. The last time was on this facebook group I’m on. This woman said that it was a statement piece! I think that was the most offensive one.
What I’ve started doing is educating people on the truth behind the diamond industry. People can’t help their ignorance. If you can help them understand the rationale behind your decision, they’re more likely not to do the same to the next person they come across with a truly traditional ring, like we have.
Your ring is beautiful. If people don’t see it now, they will soon because gemstone egagement rings are making a HUGE comeback. Just wait for them to feel foolish.