(Closed) Gemstone engagement ring looks like a play ring to others (RANT)

posted 4 years ago in Engagement
Post # 16
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Helper bee

Its GORGEOUS! I love it! I would just say “A sapphire was ‘good enough’ for princess Diana and Princess Kate and Princess Eugenie, I guess Im just royalty.”

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - Finger Lakes, NY

I don’t have a ring or anything yet, but I told a friend I want a purple center stone because I know I’d be in love with it every day of my life, plus it’d be a sign that my boyfriend truly knows me and respects my desires and first love (anything purple, basically). She was like “wtf, why would you not want a white diamond?!” Umm, because I prefer something sparkly and purple.

Her ring is a white diamond and it is very beautiful and I’m glad she loves it as much as she does – she actually made me try it on, lol – but yeah. I’ve already gotten this kind of reaction and I don’t even have a ring yet.

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I also have a sapphire engagement ring, purple sapphire, and while there is a halo, even a diamond one, it is black diamonds so does not in any way look like a traditional e-ring. However, I have been extremely fortunate in the week we have been engaged to have gotten so many compliments on the ring, all my closest friends, and family understanding that the ring is very me where something more traditional would not have been.

I did have one person, a former sorority sister, make disdainful comments about my “common” ring wondering why my Fiance couldn’t get me a diamond and my response to her was that the actual rarity of a diamond is much less than many other gemstones and that the value we attribute to diamonds is largely a social construction. I also politely reminded her that diamonds as “the engagement ring choice” only happened in the late 1940’s because of a public relations campaign. 

I think your ring looks lovely on your hand, and definitely looks like an engagement ring. If anything you should be pleased that you have something a bit different than the average and something that is you, not what society things you should have.

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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rose162 :  I think your ring looks elegant and is drool-worthy! I love pears. I have an appreciation for all kinds of gemstones and diamonds and I hate when people turn their noses up at anything other than a white diamond (despite my engagement ring being just that). My husband is old-fashioned, so to him, a diamond was the only way to go. But it’s all just marketing and there’s nothing wrong for wearing the ring that makes you happy. I hope that you don’t let outside opinions change the way you feel because your ring is a stunner! 

Post # 22
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Busy bee

I guess this may also depend on where you’re from. In my circle/area, you rarely see someone with a gemstone e-ring. In fact, I only know one person that has one. My ex husband, before we were engaged/married, would buy me gemstone rings (mainly sapphires) that I had to wear on my left hand ring finger. No one ever assumed it was an e-ring, no matter how many diamonds were on it. 

I wouldn’t say your ring looks like a play ring though. It’s beautiful. 

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

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samael :  Hi bee, this is direct sunlight while on a plane lol so she looks super vibrant. She’s actually a pretty pastel peach tone in person.

 

 

Post # 24
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Bee Keeper

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rose162 :  Oooh thats pretty deep blue sapphire! Where have they been? The Duchess has a sapphire. Princesd Diana had a sapphire. Tell them “it’s a precious stone fools!”

 

 

Post # 25
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Busy bee

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catthebee37 :  I feel exactly the same way!

After my Fiance gave me a sapphire engagement ring, he told me that some of his colleagues tried to change his mind and said “She’s going to be disappointed it’s not a diamond”.

His response was “You must not know her very well. I do.”

I treasure my ring, not just because it’s beautiful, but because he knows me so well to know it’s what I wanted. It’s a constant sign that he pays attention to what I like and enjoy, from the small things to how I take my coffee or when I get my hair trimmed, to the big things like my taste in jewels.

PS: in 1982 “The Atlantic” published a great article about how the popularity of diamonds for engagement rings was a trend completely manipulated by De Beers. It’s a great read.

Link to article: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/1982/02/have-you-ever-tried-to-sell-a-diamond/304575/

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Your ring is gorgeous and your family should keep their rude opinions to themselves. Nobody is going to look at your hand and think, “oh poor dear, she doesn’t have a real engagement ring.” Everyone with any knowledge of fine jewelry knows sapphires are timeless and valuable. 

Post # 28
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Bumble bee

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samael :  Thank you!  I called Sri Lanka to find one of these and had my hopes and dreams crushed because I was told that sapphires aren’t cut in step cuts because they “lose their luster” (#lies).  When I found this one in NYC, I sent a picture to the guy I was speaking with in Sri Lanka and he told me that if I didn’t get it and someone else bought it, that I would NEVER find another one. And that’s how Princess Peach came to be lol

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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rose162 :  Your ring is breathtaking!  I adore sapphires and yours is exquisite.  Please don’t let anyone steal your joy.   

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - Finger Lakes, NY

 

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samael :  YES! I actually explained a lot of that to my boyfriend when he said he thought I was joking with him about not wanting a diamond. I have a strong distaste for the diamond industry thanks in part to De Beers and their clever advertising. Plus I just don’t care for them.

I did discover that Moissanite comes in purple today, though, and given that I’ve been battling myself on if I want a Moissanite or a purple sapphire lately, this seems like a possible and very exciting solution. But we shall see because we haven’t even gone ring shopping yet and it could be a week or it could be six months before we actually do.

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