Gemstone engagement ring looks like a play ring to others (RANT)

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 31
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Busy bee

I am not with your family. You shouldn’t have to feel the need to put a halo of diamonds around your beautiful ring simply to appease someone else.

The next time they mention it, you should give them a little history lesson. Gemstones were traditionally used in engagement rings prior to the very successful DeBeers diamond marketing campaign. Sapphire have one of the most popular stones for engagement rings for centuries, even before diamonds became the gem of choice. 

Also gemstone engagement rings are making a comeback! You can laugh in their face years later.

Post # 32
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

rose162 : personally anytime I see any ring on the ring finger I assume it’s an engagment or wedding ring. I’m so sorry your having to deal with families negativity. It sucks and we should totally be able to get the type of ring WE want. I originally wanted a blue sapphire ring but got turned off by my moms negative comments so I looked into white sapphires to “fit expectations” and found out about Moissanite and got that instead. I absolutely LOVE my moissy but part of me wishes I had stuck to what I originally wanted and not cared about looking traditional. Nowadays post wedding  I wear a plain Tungsten band by itself it’s screams married in my opinion so idk anymore. 

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - Southampton, UK

Your ring is gorgeous! And you don’t need a halo or anything to”make” it an engagement ring. It already IS an engagement ring! Your family is being incredibly rude. Ignore them and be happy with your beautiful ring.

 

I have a ruby, myself, and I can tell a lot of people aren’t sure what to make of it. I have had a few people tell me they love that it’s something different. In any case, it’s my ring and I love it. That’s what matters.

Post # 34
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

rose162 :  also I certainly don’t think you should have to but if you want to get them off your back you could wear a CZ ring in the mean time and just not tell them because they will probably tune there nose up to that and you don’t need to negativity. Then once your married or on your wedding day out the sapphire back on 🤷🏾‍♀️. Once your married no one can dispute your engagment not being “real” because it obviously was.

Post # 35
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Worker bee

Your ring is absolutely stunning!

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

withluv :  You are seriously one of the most negative bees on this entire forum. 

rose162 :  OP, you don’t have to add any diamonds to your setting or switch or your stone for a clear stone to make it an “engagement ring.” It’s a beautiful stone and it looks awesome on your finger. Take the assholes opinions with a grain of salt and appreciate that you have a freaking gorgeous colored stone. 

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

That’s a gorgeous ring and yes, I agree with most everyone here that your family is being judgemental and rude!

I have a sapphire engagement ring and I’ve always known I wanted a sapphire.  My mom has a sapphire engagement ring, and sapphires are actually RARE and interesting and beautiful.

Diamonds are actually super common – they are just compressed carbon.  Soot and graphite are also carbon.  The only reason diamonds are so sought after is because of a highly successful marketing campaign in the 40’s that convinced generations of young men that the only way they could convey their love was with a diamond and a huge cartel choking the supply of diamonds so that they stay expensive and lucrative.

My fiance said that finding a good sapphire was MUCH harder than finding a good diamond.

Also, my sapphire is magical and GLOWS in the right light – it’s like it has its own light source.  Sapphires are amazing.

Post # 38
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Your ring is absolutely beautiful! It’s delicate and stand-out at the same time. Please, please don’t alter it in any way. It’s truly lovely. 

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Your ring is gorgeous!!! It certainly doesn’t look like a play ring or a promise ring! That sapphire has lovely, deep color and it a substantial size. Do not listen to your family. I have some relatives who wear ruby e-rings and I think they are gorgeous. Your family is out of touch if they think an e-ring has to be a diamond. Wear it with pride!! 

Post # 40
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Busy bee

I LOVE your ring. Love it. I think most bees agree, any ring on that finger is considered an engagemet ring. It’s more normal, than it ever has been, to have a different color or gemstone! Rock it girl, and forget what they have to say!

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I can’t believe the bee that said a halo would make your ENGAGEMENT RING look more like an engagement ring. Wtf. Wow.. how dare anyone judge your ring. It’s yours! Who cares what they think! and wtf does a halo have to do with a “real” engagement ring? Lol.. 

OP, your ring is beautiful. Ignore your rude family! And anyone else that agrees with your rude family. 

Post # 43
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

holy moly that’s gorgeous

ETA: if your ring is a play ring then so is Diana’s / Kate Middleton’s

Post # 45
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Blushing bee

It is stunning. I am not a fan of Sapphires, or pear cut, and I am getting ring envy here. It is absolutely perfect! My response to my family would be something like, “Don’t like it, don’t wear it. You all know we are getting married, so get over yourselves, and freaking smile and be happy for us.” 

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