(Closed) Gemstone engagement ring looks like a play ring to others (RANT)

posted 4 years ago in Engagement
Post # 46
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Buzzing bee

The notion that every engaged female (or MALE for that matter) on earth MUST have a white stone in his or her betrothal jewelry absolutely wearies me.

How on earth have we become so addicted to this idea, and why has conformity to some absurdly arbitrary fashion become so excruciatingly entrenched, that a beautiful, simply elegant, dignified ring as OP’s should be subject of negative criticism by anyone?

BET IT WILL BE AMAZING WITH YOUR WEDDING BAND OP, SHOULD YOU DECIDE TO HAVE ONE.

Post # 47
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Bee Keeper

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rose162 :  that is gorgeous!!!  Ignore the haters.  Sapphire is quite a strong stone.  The stone I had was not the strongest so it wasn’t a forever stone so I did eventually upgrade but I don’t think your choice is a play ring at all.  Do they know Kate Middleton sports a gorgeous sapphire???

Post # 48
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Helper bee

Your ring is gorgeous- the color is amazing. Sapphires like that are very, very rare. I’d flat out tell your family they’re being rude with their comments and that you didn’t ask for their advice. 

Post # 49
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Helper bee

Tbh, until I came on this forum, although I knew most people had diamonds, I didn’t realise you were supposed to. I know lots of people with gemstones. The most beautiful engagement ring I ever saw was a sapphire.

 

Yours is a real beauty. Don’t replace her! So elegant, chic, and stylish. And looks like a good size stone to me – whatever people say about Di havibg a HUGE sapphire…

Post # 51
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Bumble bee

Your ring is beautiful and not costume-y at all. Your fiance picked it out because he knew you super well and knew that you love pears and blue colors. He knew exactly how to make you happy when he asked you to marry him. And that ring, that perfectly embodies your aesthetic, is a symbol of his love for you and his desire to spend his life with you. Why would you want anything different as an engagement ring?

My engagement ring is an onyx. It’s much softer than a sapphire or a diamond but the color of it and the ruby side stones means something important to me. You don’t have to worry about scratches because your stone is hard, but I do. I haven’t seen any yet, but when they inevitably appear, I plan on thinking about them as marks of the long love and time passed in marriage. Every scratch a reminder of how often I wear my ring and how long we’ve been together.

So, in summary, your family are being assholes. Your engagement ring is beautiful and it’s just as valid as one with a diamond. My mother got engaged with a ring similar to this one.

Image result for russian gold signet filigree ring

She hasn’t worn this ring since she replaced it with her wedding band and she replaced that wedding band with a new one that fit (once the old one was cut off) and had some little stones on it when my dad’s ring broke and needed to be replaced. She and my father will celebrate their 28th anniversary in less than a month. My grandmother didn’t get an engagement ring. And her husband lost his wedding band at work. He didn’t have a wedding band for ~30 years until baby me found one in a sandbox. The owner never showed up for it and it fit him perfectly, so he’s worn it since then. My grandparents have been married for 55 years. My aunt hasn’t worn her wedding ring in years because it doesn’t fit now that she’s lost weight and she and her husband have been married for 30-something years. So clearly the ring has nothing to do with the validity of your relationship.

Post # 52
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

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sweatergal007 :  its very tricky to photograph, it’s quite a vivid purple which tends to make it look blue when I photograph it. Here is one I just took on my hand, and a more true to colour one from the jewellery before my partner picked it up.

Post # 54
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Your ring is gorgeous and looks beautiful in your hand.  As for others’ opinions, you need to make a point of ignoring the backhanded comments and never compromise on what you love just to appease others.  This will happen with other decisions you make, so it’s important for others to realize when their opinion is truly irrelevant.

Post # 55
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2018

omg that ring is STUNNING! Everyone has different taste and will want something different! Doesn’t make anyone’s better than the other.

Post # 56
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Blushing bee

Your ring is gorgeous!

So sorry to hear that you are getting negative reactions. I have a sapphire RHR and times when I have worn it on my left hand due to swelling, people ask when I got engaged or tell me congrats.. so know that not everyone has the reaction your family is having. I would hope they care enough about your feelings to respect your decision even if they don’t agree with it.

Post # 57
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Bumble bee

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darlinglilred :  This is beautiful! Do you have a picture from the side so we can see the details on the band?

Post # 59
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Busy bee

It looks beautiful and definitely doesn’t look like a play ring. It certainly look like an engagement ring to me. Congrats bee

Post # 60
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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rose162 :  Fellow sapphire bee here. Your ring is incredibly classy and it’s very obvious that is your engagement ring. Don’t second guess your choice for rude people.

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