Gemstone engagement ring looks like a play ring to others (RANT)

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 76
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

rose162 :  I read your whole post before I scrolled to see the picture and I had this image in my head and then I saw your ring and I was BLOWN AWAY! That stone is gorgeous and there is nothing “play” about it. I think that is a ring to be proud of! Stand up for yourself, your FH and this beauty!!

Post # 77
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

That’s an impressive sapphire! It has a beautiful color and a great size too! 

I got engaged with a 6.5 mm round padparadscha sapphire solitaire and dealt with a lot of similar comments. Lots of accusations of Darling Husband being “cheap” or assuming that I wasn’t really engaged or married as I was wearing a “fashion ring”.

 There’s no point in arguing with stupid people so I just got to the point where I would say, “I hear what you’re saying” and change the subject. 

FWIW, smart people who aren’t assholes easily identified my ring as an e-ring and asked about the stone, saying it was interesting, beautiful, etc. 

Post # 78
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

rose162 :  I also have a pear sapphire engagement ring. I get comments all the time like,”Oh, once you decide to upgrade…” and “oh! that’s an engagement ring!” It’s a carat equivalent with two over a half carat diamonds on the side. I won’t lie and say that it doesn’t get to me sometimes. Sometimes I wish that I had a more conventional ring, but my fiance designed mine, and I never felt like diamonds were my thing. Most of the time I love my ring because it is a truly beautiful sapphire. It’s a beautiful cornflower blue in the light and a clear royal blue when it isn’t bright out. A jeweler once came into my work and raved about my sapphire in terms of it’s color and cut. Some people get it and some just don’t. I could have a diamond ring and sometimes wish that I did, but there hasn’t been a day yet where I haven’t stared at my ring for a long time. 

Post # 79
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Busy bee

handlecat :  I think we’ll need to see a picture of that! Sounds soooo good!

Post # 83
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Bumble Beekeeper

 

Wow, making snide remarks about other people’s budgets goes beyond classless. That’s just gauche. As is telling someone they need to add a halo on their ring if they want other people’s approval. Gauche and basic!

Post # 86
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Honestly OP, ignore them. They’re probably jealous of your stunning ring! I think you’ve just been a bit unlucky with your family on this one – I know loads of people (in UK where it’s more common) with gemstone rings (myself included) who haven’t had any comments like this.

No-one has ever questioned whether I’m engaged or not. I can’t imagine many people would look at your lovely ring on your ring finger and not think ‘engaged’. They’re just being silly, keep yawning at your family and change the subject until they get the message.

Post # 87
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Busy bee

eirlys :  I agree, the attitude is unfortunate. It’s weird how there’s this big push towards diamonds as ERs in North America because in fact in some places even gemstone/diamonds rings aren’t even the norm. My mother got engaged with a decorative gold band and so did all her cousins. I have been noticing that people are slowly going back to appreciating gemstone rings as engagement rings. There are at least 2 members in my family who have been proposed to with gemstone rings, and nobody batted an eyelid.

Post # 87
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: City Hall

I definitely wouldn’t switch it out…especially if I loved it.

Post # 84
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery

I think it’s gorgeous. And as long as it was put on your hand with the intention of marriage, then it’s a “real” engagement ring. 

Post # 85
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

rose162 :  I rarely comment on ring threads and this thread is old(ER) but… holy 💩💩 this is the most gorgeous pear beauty I’ve ever seen. I’m literally obsessed with it. 

Post # 86
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

This is beautiful! 

Post # 87
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2018

rose162 :  don’t worry about what other people say! I know that’s easier said than done, but at the end of the day if you’re happy, that’s all that matters! Also, this is one of the most stunning rings I have EVER seen. Nothing “play ring” like about it!! So stunning 

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