Post # 1
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Sugar bee
I’m sure some Bees with non-diamond e-rings can relate…
Just spent the last half hour arguing with my mom (who is an independent jeweler!!) over my choice of a non-diamond engagement ring. Her main points:
“Diamond is the ultimate symbol of marriage” (because of good marketing)
“Other stones can be worn by anybody for any reason or occasion” (uh, so can diamonds)
“As long as you’ll be happy with it and it’s what you really want, and as long as you aren’t choosing it because of affordability, then I’m happy for you.”
I’m sorry, what? I’ve never been set on a diamond engagement ring. I wanted a clear stone (Moissanite… I can picture her heart attack now!) because I was concerned with it matching my clothes, but I decided it was more important that the ring match my personality. The affordability is a bonus, but not the main reason. And even if it were, SO WHAT?
End rant.
ETA: I’m not at all anti-diamond. The matching wedding band that I want actually has diamonds. I just don’t see why anything other than a diamond center stone is so frowned upon.
Post # 3
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Busy bee
I love that your name is regina phalange. friends <3
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
@cantonbride: Haha, thanks! Best show ever!
Post # 5
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Busy bee
Well, I personally am all about the diamond in mine but I LOVE seeing other rings that don’t have the traditional diamond for a center stone. I think they’re unique and gorgeous! I’m just really really picky about things matching, so I know I would get tired of a colored stone eventually. 😉
Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
@Regina Phalange: Everyone has an opinion. It’s annoying.
Like if you get a diamond it’s either too big or too small or too gaudy or the wrong shape yadda yadda.
People need to mind their own business.
Post # 7
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Blushing bee
Unfortunately moms can be like that….it’s so annoying. Just remember, in her mind, she thinks that she’s trying to do what’s best for you, even though she sounds totally nuts to you right now. My sister once told me that my mom is the only person in the entire world who thinks more about what’s best for me than I do myself. It sucks that she’s being a drag about your choice of ring (which is TOTALLY your call by the way), but try to remember it’s coming from a good place.
It’s actually kind of funny because my mom thinks that my 2 carat diamond ring is ridiculous and she doesn’t understand why anyone would want “flashy” jewelry. I guess none of us can win!
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
@chippybee: My sister once told me that my mom is the only person in the entire world who thinks more about what’s best for me than I do myself.
How sweet. Made me want to cry and call my mom. I didn’t because she’d annoy the crap out of me, talking about what she thinks is best for me! LOL
Post # 10
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Busy bee
HA, affordability is one of the BEST reasons to not buy a diamond! Why would your mom frown upon that?
Post # 11
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Blushing bee
@Regina Phalange: Your moms a jewler and you dont like diamonds… I love that!!
I think non diamonds will become more common as time goes on as people begin to realise why diamonds are symbolic of marrige:) (Marketing!!)
i love the look of engagement rings in general. No matter which stone you go with it has to be something that YOU love.
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
The game of rings cannot be won.
If you get a diamond, you eat babies.
If you get a moissanite, you’re a cheap faker.
If you get a small diamond, he doesn’t love you.
If you get a big diamond, you’re materialistic.
If you get a colored gemstone, you’re just doing it wrong because only a clear stone could possible symbolize true love.
Post # 13
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Blushing bee
@honeybee1999: As a mom, I LOVE this! LOL!
Post # 14
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Helper bee
@Jabberwocky: +1! Oh my goodness what a funny way to put it!
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
That’s annoying, but you just have to ignore it and not let it influence your decision. She’ll forget all about it (your ring) after the wedding, but you have to wear it forever.
