(Closed) Gemstone ring judgment (rant)

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
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742 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

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@Luayne:  Agreed.

It also suggests choosing a less pricey option is bad. We spent way less than we could have afforded. 

Post # 33
Hostess
7547 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I hate it when people say “As long as you’re happy, I’m happy.” When they obviously aren’t! If they were happy for you, they wouldn’t be judging! 

Post # 34
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646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

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@Jabberwocky:  lol.

it’s amazing i haven’t heard any negative comments about my small diamond yet, but if i would, the commenters would be eaten instead of babies.

OP, don’t let anyone influence you. gemstones are beautiful, and even though i’m in love with my diamond e-ring, i’m still gonna get a (stand-in?) gemstone wedding set someday. 

Post # 35
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418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If a sapphire is good enough for the British royal family, I think they are good enough for me! DeBeers put up a hell of a good campaign but I would much rather have something beautiful and affordable and take the rest of the money that would have been spent on compressed carbon and add it to the savings for a down payment on a house. Just my opinion. The e-ring I am desperately hoping SO goes with is a sapphire with diamond halo for $225 and it is gooorgeeeoouss. Keep on truckin’, sister. There are more of us out here who agree with you than you think 🙂

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

Many people will never know the difference. I had a huge issue with the ethics of diamonds, and I wanted a color stone. I love my E-Ring I dont care what anyone else thinks. Frankly most people thought the purple sapphire was some sort of odd diamond anyway or an amethyst but to me it doesnt matter what they think. I look at my hand I see love I see the people I love not what those people think. I see a man who loved me enough to make a life with me and make my dream ring come true.

Post # 37
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304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’ve never wanted a diamond. When I was a little girl, I told my mother this, and she said I’d change my mind. When I was 16, I told mom again, and she actually got upset. She said that I deserved a nice diamond and whoever I marry better get me one! A few years later, she saw the movie Blood Diamond, called me and said, “Okay. I understand.” Which was strange because I’d never really explained *why* I didn’t want a diamond. I’ve never really gone on about diamond related conflicts to her, (she has one, so why should I?) so I thought it strange that this was the reason for her ‘understanding’. I’m an artist, so I’ve always known my wedding rings would be colorful. This is the main impetus for my decision. (If I’d wanted a diamond, I’d have gotten one- albeit certainly a certified conflict free one). Nevertheless, that movie convinced her that it was okay for me to not have a diamond. 

I think overtime your mom will accept it. She’ll have to, really!

Post # 38
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1373 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion

As Jabberwocky so aptly put it, there is always going to be someone who has a problem with your ring. I’m not quite sure why that is, as it seems like a silly think to judge a person for,but it happens. If you love your ring and it symbolizes your love, then you are one lucky lady no matter what someone else may or may not like or say about it.

Post # 39
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862 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Regina Phalange:  Even if you WERE choosing your stone because of affordability, I don’t think there’d be anything wrong with that!  It’s very responsible to choose what you can actually afford instead of going into debt over a piece of jewelry!  Even if you can afford a more expensive ring, there’s also nothing wrong with saving the money for other things!  I have a sapphire myself and my husband had some reservations about buying it for me instead of the other more expensive diamond set that we were also looking at (because like your mother, he suspected that I was only settling for the sapphire to try to save him some money), but the sapphire Claddagh ring was the one I truly wanted!  As soon as I saw my engagement ring, I knew it was just PERFECT for me and that I HAD to have it.  The fact that it cost less than a diamond was just icing on the cake!  Well, it cost less than a diamond center stone anyway.  I do have tiny pave diamonds as well. 🙂

By the way, JobberWocky, I absolutely LOVE your comment! lol 

Post # 40
Bee
615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride\'s residence

It’s funny, I have a really obvious non-diamond ring (it’s an amethyst) and I’ve never really heard any judgement on it. One lady was like “where’s your diamond?!” but she was a total stranger. For the most part people grab my hand and tell me it’s lovely, out of the blue.

We did go for a gemstone for affordability — that wasn’t the entire reason (I live near where a lot of “ethical” Canadian diamonds are mined and I’m not sure how I feel about it, but my wedding band and my engagement ring do have some Canadian diamonds) but it was a big part of it. If you love your ring, ignore the rude comments. 🙂

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

My Skye blue topaz ring gets called ” interesting ” all the time. one person flat out even said that it doesn’t look like an engagement ring. Screw them! We picked out the ring I love. You can’t let people tell you what to do when it comes to he ring you will wear for the rest of your life.

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