(Closed) gender disappointment… ugh

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You’re not crazy, I’ve always thought when I have children if I don’t have a girl first I’ll go nuts. I’m sure you’ll adjust fine to your little guy though.

Post # 4
4980 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You are not alone,  I felt let down a bit when we found out we were having a boy. I thought for sure we were having a girl.

I can tell you though once you hold that little boy in your arms for the first time, or the first time he smiles at you it won’t make a difference.

My son he is my life, he is the best thing that has ever happened.  He will be one in two weeks and I can’t wait…

Post # 5
314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Don’t feel bad, I know a lot of women and even men who have expierenced this. The only thing I can say is be happy and hopefull that you will have a healthy baby, regardless of gender, because without being healthy, nothing else really matters… not to get you even more upset though! I just know that a lot of people go into thinking as long as the baby is healthy, i don’t care what the gender is 

Post # 6
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yes, I went through this, as well. Now, my LO is 3, and I can’t even picture myself being the mother of a little girl- he’s such a sweet, loving little mama’s boy. I know it’s hard to picture now, but I promise you that you will love your little boy.

Post # 7
583 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have a feeling that I’ll end up having a girl and be disappointed.  We’re only going to try for one baby and I just feel like it’ll be a girl when we both prefer a boy.  Something I’m already trying to prepare for!  Boys love their mommas so you’re gonna be just fine.  But I totally understand.

Post # 9
1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

TOTALLY get what youre feeling, I went through the same when I found out I was having a boy too. 

You already know you’ll get over it, so I won’t waste my breath. πŸ™‚

Post # 11
5995 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My sister has 3 boys. She was disappointed in a sense, when she found out #3 was a boy, but she loves them soooooo much.

Post # 12
1182 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Aw, I think everybody kind of secretly hopes for one or the other. You’re going to love your son though, no matter what. 

Post # 13
1034 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I am so sorry you are feeling this way. It is 100% NORMAL! We are here for you πŸ™‚ 

Post # 14
5092 posts
Bee Keeper

I had a boy first, and I am totally girly, and then a girl, and she was totally NOT girly–you will love your baby no matter what they are.  (Now I have 2 granddaughters-one girly and one not so much). lol.  I kind of like that mine were a surprise each time.  

Post # 15
7960 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@stephanie63087:  been there. 

i didn’t know the sex until i gave birth but i still remember my gf coming by the hospital to see me and my new son and her saying “he’s beautiful”.  with all hormones racing, i burst into tears and claimed “i wanted a girl”.

i am so glad that i had a boy.  he’s wonderful.  i wouldn’t change it for the world.  girls are great but nothing beats a mother / son relationship.  he’s now 27.

Post # 16
1074 posts
Bumble bee

This is basically why I am never going to let myself find out the gender ahead of time. I feel like if I know it’s a boy before I can see/hug/kiss/stare at him, I’ll let myself wallow in disappointment. And there’s a very good chance we’ll have boys. DH has three brothers and three nephews and there’s not a girl anywhere to be seen. So I’m working on being okay with boys and knowing that once I have him in my arms, it won’t matter. Hopefully.

To tide you over until he can woo you with his baby face, read this: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/tell-me-why-baby-boys-are-the-best

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