Post # 1
let me just say that i feel like a total b**tch for even thinking this way… but i really was hoping for a baby girl. i always imagined myself with a girl. i am completely girly. my mom and i have an amazing relationship and i wanted a little girl to share all that with…
i am having a boy… i know i shouldnt feel sad… but i feel like i am mourning the loss of a little girl i will never have… or something… its just hard to explain.
everyone keeps telling me how boys are easier… i will love having a boy… etc… and i just feel. blah. dh and i have talked about only having one baby and i just feel like even if we tried again i would have another boy and be disappointed… and more than 2 kids is just out of the question for us.
anyways… i just needed to vent… i feel like i have been keeping all these crazy emotions to myself because i feel so awful feeling this way… esp since it took us 8 months to concieve. i already love my little man… dont get me wrong… i do not regret my baby at all. i know when he is born i will probably forget all of these feelings… but right now they are just so overwhelming and i just feel so bad 🙁
has anyone been there? please tell me i will be fine lol…. no but seriously. i just need to hear that i am not completely crazy and emotional.
Post # 3
You’re not crazy, I’ve always thought when I have children if I don’t have a girl first I’ll go nuts. I’m sure you’ll adjust fine to your little guy though.
Post # 4
You are not alone, I felt let down a bit when we found out we were having a boy. I thought for sure we were having a girl.
I can tell you though once you hold that little boy in your arms for the first time, or the first time he smiles at you it won’t make a difference.
My son he is my life, he is the best thing that has ever happened. He will be one in two weeks and I can’t wait…
Post # 5
Don’t feel bad, I know a lot of women and even men who have expierenced this. The only thing I can say is be happy and hopefull that you will have a healthy baby, regardless of gender, because without being healthy, nothing else really matters… not to get you even more upset though! I just know that a lot of people go into thinking as long as the baby is healthy, i don’t care what the gender is
Post # 6
Yes, I went through this, as well. Now, my LO is 3, and I can’t even picture myself being the mother of a little girl- he’s such a sweet, loving little mama’s boy. I know it’s hard to picture now, but I promise you that you will love your little boy.
Post # 7
I have a feeling that I’ll end up having a girl and be disappointed. We’re only going to try for one baby and I just feel like it’ll be a girl when we both prefer a boy. Something I’m already trying to prepare for! Boys love their mommas so you’re gonna be just fine. But I totally understand.
Post # 8
@Sassygrn: awww yea… i know when i hold him i will forget ever thinking about wanting a girl
@Lacelibs: yea. he is definately healthy 🙂 at least so far everything looks perfect so i am thankful for that of course 🙂 lets just hope he isnt a 10 pounder like my husband was….
Post # 9
TOTALLY get what youre feeling, I went through the same when I found out I was having a boy too.
You already know you’ll get over it, so I won’t waste my breath. 🙂
Post # 10
im so glad i have you ladies… i think the guilt of feeling this way has been taking over… my husband is so confused at why i would be sad to have a boy… as he is elated lol.
my mom actually told me she had wished i was a boy… but now shes glad she got me instead. ….. uhhh thanks mom lol 🙂
Post # 11
My sister has 3 boys. She was disappointed in a sense, when she found out #3 was a boy, but she loves them soooooo much.
Post # 12
Aw, I think everybody kind of secretly hopes for one or the other. You’re going to love your son though, no matter what.
Post # 13
I am so sorry you are feeling this way. It is 100% NORMAL! We are here for you 🙂
Post # 14
I had a boy first, and I am totally girly, and then a girl, and she was totally NOT girly–you will love your baby no matter what they are. (Now I have 2 granddaughters-one girly and one not so much). lol. I kind of like that mine were a surprise each time.
Post # 15
@stephanie63087: been there.
i didn’t know the sex until i gave birth but i still remember my gf coming by the hospital to see me and my new son and her saying “he’s beautiful”. with all hormones racing, i burst into tears and claimed “i wanted a girl”.
i am so glad that i had a boy. he’s wonderful. i wouldn’t change it for the world. girls are great but nothing beats a mother / son relationship. he’s now 27.
Post # 16
This is basically why I am never going to let myself find out the gender ahead of time. I feel like if I know it’s a boy before I can see/hug/kiss/stare at him, I’ll let myself wallow in disappointment. And there’s a very good chance we’ll have boys. Darling Husband has three brothers and three nephews and there’s not a girl anywhere to be seen. So I’m working on being okay with boys and knowing that once I have him in my arms, it won’t matter. Hopefully.
To tide you over until he can woo you with his baby face, read this: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/tell-me-why-baby-boys-are-the-best