(Closed) Gender Neutral Child

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: Would you do this?
    Yes, my child has the right to choose it's gender. : (22 votes)
    17 %
    No, it's not gender neutral if it has gender specific parts. : (100 votes)
    79 %
    I am undecided. : (5 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Umm yeah, sorry, but unless you have gender dismorphic disorder, you are born with a gender that won’t be changed. I can’t understand this logic at all

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I don’t really know that I like the way they’re going about doing this, but I do really like the idea of minimizing the importance of a child’s gender.  Granted, I don’t plan to have children so it’s only a hypothetical question, but if I did have a child, I would want to raise it to not feel restricted to gender roles or constructs.

    What I think is a little off here is the big deal the parents are making of it – I feel like they’re creating a sensation around the secret and putting the child in the spotlight by going on the news about it.  At some point, some babysitter or neighborhood child is going to find out and suddenly the child’s sex is going to be a Big Deal.

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    i think that what these parents are doing is more harmful in the long run to the child than not hiding its sex.  a more helpful (and effective) parenting technique would be to teach your children that while physically they are a specific sex, that they do not need to fall into traditional gender roles and gender-specific activities, and that they can do and be whatever they want to do.

    i guess i just don’t see the benefit of this, and don’t understand doing this instead of teaching your child to make their own choices, regardless of sex/gender.

     

    Post # 5
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    @Entangled: Totally agree with this, they are setting themselves up for disaster

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Gender technically refers to the social norms that we as a society expect from either males or females. The biological sex of a person refers to their reproductive organs.

    To me I guess raising a child gender neutral would not be to tell them that they are not male or female but it would to not tell them things like “only girls wear pink and only girls like dolls” (which are societal expectations and norms).

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’d think that that would give the kid a lot of problems growing up.  He/she will have so many more issues with identity and with his/her peers.  I feel bad for the poor thing. 

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i definately dont think there is such thing as “gender neutral”… and the way the are going about this is just going to confuse and embarrass the kid. i can understand minimizing the importance of gender… by telling your child they can do anything… or letting them wear any color…. but by hiding their gender…. yea. no. what happens when the kid has to go potty? yea were all gonna find out eventually….

    Post # 12
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    3142 posts
    Sugar bee

    What bathroom would they use in Kindergarden?

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @PrncssDva:  Yeah, the siblings and even the kid itself once it gets a couple years older, don’t really understand the implications and you’re putting a weirdly large burden on them to keep the secret.

    I think a better approach would be that instead of answering strangers when they ask if the child is a girl or boy, ask them why it matters.  It seems like that would create an opening to challenge people’s assumptions without putting the burden of secrecy on the child and his/her siblings.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    They would have to raise their child in a total bubble – no day care, movies, TV, play dates with non-gender neutral kids, etc. in order to preserve the gender neutral atmosphere.  I think if parents are willing to do this, they’re already messing up their kids enough.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    My child will have the choice to be whoever he or she wants to be, but their gender is not something that I think can really be chosen. They are born with certain (ahem) parts, that make them such.

    If they chose to change that later on in life, thats their decision to make after proper consideration

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