(Closed) Gender Reveal Parties: Yay or Nay?

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: What do you think about gender reveal parties?
    So cute! I think they are a great idea. : (173 votes)
    34 %
    They are just another example of narcissistic over-sharing of today's generation. : (332 votes)
    66 %
  • Post # 92
    4656 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think it’s adorable (even as someone who doesn’t want kids) and would TOTALLY go to one so long as it wasn’t too far away and it wasn’t a gift grab type of thing. I love those gender reveal cakes! I’m almost sad about never having kids, I have to think of SOMETHING in my life someday that I will get to reveal through cake, how awesome is that. 

    It should be a small thing though… not like an expected-to-attend event or something big/ornate. 

    Post # 93
    3199 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think if someone were to throw a nice party and have everyone to dinner and games and hang out/whatever and then tell everyone at the party, that would be fine. But to make a party revolving solely around this? No thanks. In my mind, I think “you’re having a baby, good for you and I’m excited, but it is your baby and I’m not going to care 1/100000th about these things as you do and building events around it just makes you seem like you want attention”. 

    Post # 94
    181 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think any excuse to throw a party is a good one! That being said we probably won’t have a party specifically to reveal the gender, we’ll probably just throw a party for no reason and surprise everyone with the gender reveal.


    Also, I would be thrilled to be invited to one of these! Even if it was a gift giving occasion!

    Post # 95
    4371 posts
    Honey bee

    Sorry, to me it’s narcissistic. Not every single event or piece of news needs a party. It just seems so, “Me! Me! Look at me!”  Hopefully I will never see the trends of “we’ve decided to start ttc!” or “baby passed his first solid bowel movement” parties. 

    Post # 96
    1172 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I think if you’re making a big deal about it and epecting a lot of people to show up/care it’s a little annoying.  I think for the most part friends don’t really care what you’re having.  They’re excited that you’re having a baby, but to them it really doesn’t matter what it is.  I’m just planning on having our parents over for pizza and I was thinking about making a cake that’s either pink or blue inside, just something fun for the people who care 🙂

    Post # 97
    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @maggierose:  To actually organise a party to reveal the gender is just presumptuos…

    I mean honestly appart from you and your partner who else cares what gender you’re having??? 

    Usually no one.

    I don’t get why is it even that important to make an announcement? Most of the people I know sent an email and many others told the gender only if asked.

    If I were pregnant I would keep it to myself unless someone asked with the exception of my best friend, sister and parents. and even with them I’dprobably just shoot them a text/ email because let’s face it they have better things to do in their spare time than come to  a party so I can announce what the baby is. If I happened to be meeting up with them shortly after I found out then I’d tell them when I saw them.

    But I find that the casual approach in these situations is always best, I generally dislike people who feel the needto have: an engagement party, a hen do, a bridal shower, a rehersal dinner, a brunch after the wedding, a baby announcement party, a gender announcement party, a baby shower, a welcome baby shower ecc… 

    I just feel like it’s a constant request for attention. 

    having said that nothing wrong with for ex. an engagement party or a baby shower but I think trying to make everything an event is a real overkill.


    Post # 98
    1844 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

      My Brother-In-Law and SIL turned Easter into their gender reveal party. They got a bear from Build-a-Bear and had it dressed in gender specific clothes. Then, they opened the box in front of everyone…at each gathering…so Darling Husband and I saw the reveal 3 times. To me, that was a little too much. Actually…by the last party, one of them accidentally gave it away before they opened the box and DH’s uncle called them out on it.

      I think if Darling Husband and I would do one, we would have our parents and siblings over for dinner and then share it with everyone at once. I don’t think we’d even tell them that it was a gender reveal party…just let them know when they get there.

    Post # 99
    2269 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think it’s a bit silly. You have baby showers so why have a separate party to reveal the gender? It’s like people forget that pregnancy has happened trillions and trillions of times. 

    Post # 100
    3586 posts
    Sugar bee

    Cool for other people, but I wouldn’t do one.

    We were Team Green with Baby Bear, so we aren’t fans of learning the gender before birth anyway.LOL

    Post # 101
    1610 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think they are cute, but in my family and group of friends, we have parties and gatherings all the time.  It is just an excuse to hang out, eat, and drink.  I am not pregnant, so I don’t know if I would have one or not… I haven’t put much thought into it, but I would love to go to one if a close friend of mine or family member had one.  But then again, gatherings are normal for us and the couple would most like not make the whole thing centered around them, it would be for everyone with the reval just thrown in, and there would definitely be no gifts given!

    Post # 102
    291 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I think it’s a really cute idea. I don’t know what the heck kind of gift you would be expected to bring… I always just thought you bring yourself. Presents come at the baby shower!

    Post # 103
    9098 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I voted nay, but not for the reason listed on the poll.

    Nobody cares about your baby’s gender. Seriously. Just tell people what gender it is so they can buy gifts for that gender, if applicable.

    I would never go to a gender reveal party. It’s not a big deal. Here’s a hint: Your baby is either going to be male, or female.  Nothing special, unusual or magical. I don’t want this long drawn out party where I need to pretend like I’m excited to be there just to say, “My baby is a <whatever.>”

    It could be a llama and I’d still be disinterested.

    Post # 104
    2104 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    They are just another example of narcissistic over-sharing of today’s generation.

    Post # 105
    5 posts
    • Wedding: April 2013

    My FH and I have been engaged for over a year and the wedding is in april. We found out in december we were pregant! ANd of course we are happy and excited. My family all live in different states and don’t get to see us as much as his family does. WE’re doing a gender reveal at the wedding at the very end as a little surprise for mostly my family. I’m the only grandchild in my family and this will be the first great grandchild. And its the first time in YEARS they will all be together. I see nothing wrong with this. And honestly I’m alittle irritated when we people found out we were pregnant they felt obligated to know. No one needs to know except us. and we didnt find out, only my sister did who is putting together the surprise. SO we will be surprised together.

    I don;t see it being a problem when its just thrown into a wedding that has been planned for over a year. And i get calls everyday about where I’m registered for the baby. But its not about the gifts for us. And we’ve pissed everyone off because now they can’t bring baby gifts to the wedding hahaha SO ultimately no, I think its a great cute thing but i would never have a seperate party nor ask pelople for gifts. I just want to share this with my family since its a first for many things.

    Post # 106
    1459 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

    I voted for narcissistic.


    I do think it depends on the approach though. When my old housemate found out the gender of her baby we all made sure we were in the lounge waiting for her when she came back with her mother and boyfriend. Then she made the announcement and showed us the clothes they had picked up on the way back. Everyone cheered and it was super cute (and kind of like a mini party) 😀

    Then when she had her baby shower a few weeks later we were able to buy gender specific clothes and gifts.

    The topic ‘Gender Reveal Parties: Yay or Nay?’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors