(Closed) Gender Reveal Party Etiquette question

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2716 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Since there is usually a baby shower for baby-related gifts, I would probably just bring some sort of food or drink.  Maybe you could offer to make a fun cake or cupcakes?

Post # 4
7211 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@badabing88:  A hostess gift is fine. I’ve only been to a couple gender reveals and no one brought anything to either of them. We basically all just sat around eating until they decided to open the box/cut the cake for the reveal. 

Post # 5
1844 posts
Buzzing bee

This isn’t a gift giving event.  You can take a hostess gift if you feel the need, but it isn’t necessary.

I’m sorry, but I just don’t get these…

Post # 6
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@hermom:  +1

I don’t like showing up empty-handed to any occasion where food + drinks are provided so I would do a small hostess gift. If you can find a gender-neutral baby-related gift that is the same price as a hostess gift, that would be fine too. You certainly are not obligated to do a full, lavish shower gift at this event.

Post # 7
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I wouldn’t be bringing anything excect maybe a bag of chips. I certainly wouldn’t be giving a gift!

Post # 8
3267 posts
Sugar bee

@badabing88:  Just a hostess gift. There will be plenty of gift giving oportunities to honour the new baby.

Post # 9
10589 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I would bring a nicer drink that the mom to be could drink.

Post # 10
958 posts
Busy bee

I just threw one for my cousin, and one guest brought 2 little gifts. One in a blue bag, and one in a pink bag. She just gave the appropriate one after the cake was cut and saved the other for someone else. 

Each gift was just a onsie, bib, and some swaddling blankets I believe. 

Post # 11
917 posts
Busy bee

Wow, I’ve never heard of a gender reveal party! It does kind of sound like another way to get more gifts out of people, so I’d suggest taking something for the party like a plate of cupcakes? 

Post # 12
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi @badabing88:  Etiquette Snob here…

Gender Reveals are pretty much a new trend… and so Etiquette really hasn’t caught up with them quite yet.

Just the same, here is what I’d do…

Many Gals use them as a change to announce the Pregnancy … especially if they are done online

And one of my faves on-line would be WBee’s own Blogging Bee Mrs Lyre and this post = http://www.weddingbee.com/2013/03/14/pregnant-bride-before-wedding/#axzz2Pv5Q0YJP

Others, having already covered that aspect… decide to hold a “Gender Reveal Party”… to just confirm to their Friends & Family Members the Gender of the baby.  In which case that is more of Head’s Up that anything else (“Yeah, we are having a Baby Boy”)

As you are a very polite and conscientious guest, you are planning of course to bring a Hostess Gift (and for that I commend you)

Now what shall it be ?

My first choice would be to use this opportunity for what it is “The Announcement”… and therefore let the Mom have her moment in the spotlight… she gets to say Boy or Girl… Blue or Pink

Therefore it would be more fitting if your Gift was for her the Mom-2B… especially so if you haven’t given her anything prior to this to mark her Pregnancy (the normal follow up to a Pregnancy Announcement would have been to send her a card, when you first heard the news)

Therefore… I’d be looking for a “Hostess Gift” that is something for her that she can use in the months to come… something pampering… or for her to prepare for the Baby’s Arrival (a good book on Pregnancy / Baby Care / Baby Names etc) comes to mind.

Baby Gifts can be given at an Upcoming Shower, or after the Birth.

Hope this helps,


Post # 13
6355 posts
Bee Keeper

If you’re determined to bring something, bring whatever you like. It’s not a gift-giving occasion but if you give it to the expectant mother discreetly it shouldn’t make other guests feel awkward.


Post # 14
218 posts
Helper bee

Wow, I’ve never heard of this at all, maybe it’s a US thing. I’m the same as you, I would never turn up empty handed to someone elses event so I second PP that you take something suitable for the mum to be, maybe a scented candle that’s relaxing for a expectant mother or some pampering treats for her.

Post # 15
1805 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I think its lovely that you’re going to take her a gift, I always think a gift is appropriate haha! I think a hostess gift would be appropriate in this situation unless this is somehow a gender reveal/baby shower? Some sort of bath gift set or a gift card to their favorite restaurant for a little date night before the baby comes!

Post # 16
814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

No. You’ll be expected to give a gift at the baby shower and when the baby is born… that’s more than enough. Bring some non alcoholic wine or some nice drink to share, but not a baby-related gift.

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