Gender specific toys

posted 11 months ago in Secular
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

I think it’s dumb to “gender” toys. It’s a toy. Boys can like dolls and girls can like trucks. Let kids be kids and play with whatever toys they want.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I don’t mind it.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I cannot stand that outdated idea! My future step-mother-in-law is from that generation that believes in gendered toys. She once apologised to a friend of ours for only having “boy toys” when the friend and her daughter was over at her place. Women are going to drive cars; let them play with cars! Men are going to learn to cook; let them play with kitchen sets!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

I find it obnoxious. It makes sense to group toys on shelves in ways that kids with similar interests will find similar toys in one area, but gendering the toys is dumb. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’ll let my kid play with whatever he’s interested in. He loves trucks, but he also brings his Moana doll everywhere. There’s no such thing as a girl or boy toy in my opinion. It’s an inanimate object. 

I know parents who go too far in the other direction: not letting their daughters play with Princess toys bc they’re so gendered, and I disagree with that philosophy. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I played with cars and trucks with my boy cousins. I also loved Barbies. Tbh i never cared if a toy I wanted was in the boy aisle bc no toys were off limits for us. Children should be allowed to be children. Not everything has to have a gender tied to it, and that goes both ways. I met a woman who wouldnt allow her daughters to wear anything “girly” or play with any “girly” toys. It was sad how obsessed she was with not “gendering” her children that she was inhibiting their self expression all together. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

soexcited123 :  I’m down the middle for this.  I do think it’s over the top how manufacturers gender toys, but I think some people are making this a bigger deal than it is, in the effort to prove how woke they are.

In the early 90’s I had a big British Petroleum truck and matchbox cars I played with, in addition to my barbies.  I also had the pretty neutral stuff, like Lego.  My guy friends often played Barbies with me. Most people had siblings or family members/friends who were a different gender, so most kids didn’t only have toys that were typically associated with their gender.  No parent ever made a big deal about a child playing with something that was the wrong gender for them, and we were working class in a semi-rural area. 

My understanding is the latest “big thing” according to my little sister, is slime.  Not gendered slime, just slime. 

If a parent is buying all gendered stuff for their kids, then that’s the parents fault, not society’s.  I don’t like this whole trying to force companies into being a certain way either.  Companies mould their products into what sells the most.  If no one buys the overly gendered stuff, they will change their method.  

My “woke” second cousin wrote a big Facebook thing complaining to a charity a few weeks ago, because they sent her a booklet asking to donate and on one page, it had a girl playing with a doll and a separate image of a boy playing with a truck.  I just think that’s stupid.  This isn’t a case study, you don’t know if those kids didn’t swap toys later, they probably just used whatever stock images they had. 

I do think gendering behaviour is a separate issue (ie. crying, throwing like a girl, not playing or playing certain sports etc) that should gain more focus. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I think it’s so ridiculous. A family friend had a little boy, I saw him several times a week so I knew him well.  One time when he was 2, I took him to the store and let him pick out a stuffed animal he wanted. I didn’t say a word, or try to suggest different ones to him, I just let him do his thing. He ended up choosing a stuffed rabbit, and he loved it. He carried that thing around for two weeks straight, until his mom made him give it back to me so it could “live at my house”. He cried as he did it, and she told me afterwards it was because she was uncomfortable that he was getting attached to a *pink* stuffed animal. I was livid. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

evilqueenkarly :  I would have been PISSED at that mom. That’s just spiteful ignorance.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

Toys are toys, and should be available to all children to enjoy. I had hotwheels, legos, and barbies. My sister hated barbies but love Jurassic park, lion king, and zoids toys. My mom never had restrictions on our toys and let us play with all of them. I plan to do the same for my children.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

chelbell23 :  I was so mad. She wasn’t upset that he had a stuffed animal, or that it was a rabbit (instead of a t-rex or something), she was upset because it was light pink.  I mean, her kid so her rules, so I respected her parenting decision but I sure as hell didn’t agree with it!

Post # 13
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Busy bee

I do actually think it’s a big deal to gender toys. It’s not some little thing. Pushing and promoting boys towards playing with blocks and trucks teaches them spacial reasoning skills and pushing girls towards kitchen sets and dolls teaches them nurturing emotions. Just an example, but it definitely effects their development. I’m not saying boys shouldn’t play with blocks and girls with dolls but the gender split on toys go beyond just toys

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think it’s important to provide a variety of toys and let kids decide for themselves. Today my toddler played with her Thomas the train set and her toy kitchen. She is known to stuff her Hotwheels in her purse.  If you only have “girl” toys for girls etc. you are being lame and limiting your kids. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

I think it’s foolish and can be damaging to kids in the long run because, let’s be honest, the concern is usually about boys playing with girl things and what that could potentially imply and that contributes to the toxic misogynistic culture we live in. It’s how boys start learning that it’s not okay to be “like a girl” or that being like a girl is something bad to be and that boys who do “act like a girl” are a problem and a cause for discomfort.

Also, when adults are wasting time indoctrinating their kids into fucked up societal norms, they can miss out on a chance to learn more about their kids that may have nothing to do with their sexuality and identity. When my son was a toddler, he decided he wanted a hot pink purse that I had on my shelf. Because I don’t care about my kid carrying a purse just because he happens to have a twig and berries, I handed it over and watched him port his favorite cars around in it and toddle from room to room gathering his favorite items, figuring out a way to pack as many of them as possible into the space available in the purse. He was really happy to have a purse “like mama” for a few days and I was fine with him loving it. Also, being like his badass, awesome mother is a great life goal, imo. The only reason I eventually ended up taking it away was because I caught him swinging it at the cat like a baby demon and I didn’t my cat terrorized or my purse torn up.

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