Gender specific toys

posted 10 months ago in Secular
Post # 46
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

evilqueenkarly :  Lol – I did classics so am the same if anything about the Greeks or Romans is on TV. I have been banned from watching Troy because I complain too much during it.

 

 

Post # 48
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Bumble Beekeeper

missviolet92 :  but if your daughter hates headbands will you force it? And if your son begs to take ballet class will you let him? Little kids don’t start out picking their own toys so of course you’ll choose what they first play with, but once they’re older and have opinions will you let them try those toys/activities deemed the oppposite gender?

Post # 49
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

I played with both growing up because i had brothers and up until a certain age all there were were boys around the neighborhood. So i tended to play with boy things. Including some bugs and mud  along with my barbies when I played alone. After the boys moved though I branched out and played with other girls.  So as far as I am concerned my daughter can play with whatever she wants as long as it’s not dangerous. It’s not going to hurt her to play with cars or whatever. Same if I have a son. If he wants to play with dolls or kitchen. Cool. 

Post # 50
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

It’s funny that people think playing with trucks/ cars is “innately” a male child behavior.  For most of human history, those things didn’t even exist!  

Look at any of the threads on housework.  Do you think those men who dirty every pot and pan, can’t find the hamper and “don’t see” dirt were given toy brooms and kitchen sets?  Or are have they been tinkering with tools since before they could walk? 

Kids learn language through watching adults. That’s also how they learn gender roles.  Dad drives everywhere, most police officers and firefighters are men = boys + cars/ trucks.  Moms are at school/ nursing/ holding babies = girls + babies. 

 

Post # 51
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

cassandra7 :  It’s so sad to see infant girls, bald as eggs, with bows strapped around their heads to proclaim their femaleness to the world

This drives me NUTS. Headbands give me a headache, especially ones with any sort of decoration on them. It’s gotta be uncomfortable, plus it looks dumb and serves no purpose! If you need to put a large flower or bow on your babys head, put it on a hat. At least that does something.

Post # 52
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I let my son play with whatever he feels drawn to. He does have more “boy” types of toys because that’s what he likes. But he also has a play kitchen, tons of stuffed animals, he loves the movie frozen and has a elsa doll. I’ve painted his nails. I let him be himself and play with the things he wants. 

Post # 53
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

youngbrokebride :  Thissssssssss. I’m down the middle too. Both sides are just ridiculous.

Post # 54
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

There’s a study that shows that people with babies in their laps tend to hold a boy facing the room but a girl facing the person holding them. And the study noted that boys tend to relate more to the outside world and girls to other people.

Gender-training begins very early and is very powerful–and often limiting, if not downright destructive.

Post # 55
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

cassandra7 :  Weird! I always hold my daughter facing out but that’s because she likes to observe.

Post # 56
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Here’s a great video. 

“BBC Stories- The Experiment: Are you sure you don’t gender-stereotype children in the toys you choose for them?”

Post # 57
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

slomotion :  me too! I find I do about 75 percent her facing out. If I’m calming her or carrying her she faces me but otherwise she faces out when I’m holding her because my daughter likes to observe alot too. And I think that’s awesome. 😀

Post # 58
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I only read a few comments but here’s my take- I don’t have a problem with toys for girls and boys. What I do have a problem with is when someone won’t allow their child to play with whatever interests them. Ex- if a boy wants a pink bicycle or a girl wants a tonka truck, and trying to force them to like something they clearly don’t have an interest in. But I have seen this in reverse, where people will get their sons dolls they aren’t interested in and try to get them to play with them, or enroll them in dance classes when they want to play soccer. Or forbid their daughter from having a Barbie and try to get them to play a sport they have no interest in. I think the attitude behind it is more important than the labeling. 

Post # 59
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - County courthouse

My husband, daughters, and myself just see them as toys. Not specific to any gender. My oldest leans towards “boy” toys and my youngest to “girl” toys. But at the end of the day, they enjoy both. I’m not into this whole sexist thing. I’m not gonna let the marketing ploy prevent me from buying them for my girls and in not going to get my panties in a bunch when I see boy or girl labeled anything. If my girls like it….clothes, toys, bedsheets, posters, I don’t care if they are traditionally for boys. I’m still going to get them because its what my kids enjoy.

Post # 60
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

My 1 year old son is super interested in “boy toys”. He is always on the go and loves things that move. We have purposefully bought him some dolls and “girl toys” to help him slow down and start working on imaginary play. I think part of the reason why he is so uninterested in “girl toys” is that he doesn’t know how to interact with them. 

FWIW toys are toys. different types of toys lend themselves to different skill developments and any kid who misses out on half the toys out there is missing out on good learning opportunities.

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