Gendered Baby Clothes

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Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

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echomomm :  same! She has earrings, was in a NEON pink coat and I got the “he’s so cute!”. Lol. He sure is!

Post # 17
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Worker bee

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Jazzylove :  hmmm, personally I do love little suspenders and little bows and dresses. But when I become a mother, I’ve already thought of doing that, but not all the time. Mostly having them in gender neutral clothes. Blue or green or yellow or grey onesies or clothes that fit either gender. 🙂 

plus if I have another child, I don’t spend money on a new wardrobe if they’re a different gender…I would already have gender neutral clothing 😀

Post # 18
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Helper bee

The correct answer is dinosaur clothes. With funny neon hats. 

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My son’s earliest clothes were pretty neutral, but as he got older more people have bought him more boy specific stuff. We have tried to keep outerwear neutral and I would put a girl in any of his shoes/coats etc. If I have a girl next I might feel the need to get a few girly things, but I don’t tend to like the super pink glittery stuff anyway, more like little tunics and leggings. I love florals, got my son a hoodie with awesome floral sleeves. 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I know I’m having a boy and I’ve registered for pretty gender specific clothing. Lots of blue, grey, dark green, yellow, orange, etc. I love the onesies that say things like ‘adventurer.’ But I hate anything that sounds womanizing and will not put him in that. But I actually really like boy clothes and I see him as kinda a mini version of his father.

If I were having a girl, I’d go the girly, sparkly route with cute headbands because I am pretty feminine myself. So I guess my taste is pretty traditional.

I have gone gender neutral with big buys like the stroller, crib, etc with the expectation that I will use these for child #2 who may be a girl. 

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Honestly, everyone will have an opinion on your parenting style you cannot please everyone. From feeding to sleeping to disciple. The brand of diapers you buy. If you formula feed, what kind of formula you use. If you nurse, how long you nurse for. When you potty train. People will criticize you for whatever you do. If you want to dress your babies in all the gender-specific baby clothes do it.

I always say babies are cute or adorable. And I generally comment on their eyelashes. The only time I have commented on a baby being strong was when my niece rolled over at 9 days old. Or actual feats of strength like pulling themselves up to stand.

I think kids’ clothes should be comfy. I’m not a big fan of infant jeans. But that’s just me. Buy the adorable ruffle butt leggings and frilly romper. She might be a girly girl when she grows up or that may be the last time she wears pink or ruffles. My sister and I were dressed the same as babies, as I grew up I loved hot pink and all the girly things and she loved green and zoo animals and sports and we no longer dressed the same.

You dressing a baby boy in “masculine” clothes is not going to make an artist-musician type into a football-playing beer-drinking man, just as dressing your infant daughter in rompers and bows is not going to make her be a girly girl who loves mimosas and brunch.. Her favorite color might be orange and she may love hockey and none of that will have anything to do with the pink bow she wore to her first birthday party. But that’s just my opinion.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I didn’t know what I was having with either baby. That meant I had to buy neutral newborn stuff at least.

then on a totally practical level I tried to buy as much neutral as I could do that I could use it for a second baby. 

My eldest is a boy, youngest girl and she wore loads of her brother’s clothes. He had some super cute neutral outfits that I gave her.

i have found as they have got older it’s harder to get actual neutral clothes and my son is tall for his age and very slim whereas my daughter is a chunk. His clothes therefore don’t really fit her anymore. 

im not a huge fan of pink frills so she doesn’t have much, but I do love her in dresses and tights.

 

on a different note – I’m British and here suspenders are what woman use to hold their stockings up. The idea of little baby boys wearing suspenders as a sign of their gender is super funny 

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

The beauty of our judgemental society is that no matter what, you will be doing it wrong. Therefore you can do whatever you want.

Yes, clothes will effect the assumption of child’s sex and that will effect how people treat them. But id focus more to other parts. Like buy the chemistry set for a girl. Take the boy to dance class if they enjoy dancing. Get the pink dress or suspenders. maybe see if the text in the shirt sends wrong message. I don’t think there is nothing with gendered clothing, it’s the bias and toxicity that we have to deal with.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

tell the P C gender police to F____ off and do what you want 

Post # 25
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

My 4 year old son wears his Elsa dress and his Elsa braid hair extension all the time. 
my daughter’s first week of life was only in her brother’s hand me downs, bc that was all I had.

one day my daughter was in a purple frilly shirt and people were still calling her a boy, my son has gorgeous hair and eyes and as a baby people called him a girl all the time. 

dress your kids how you want and don’t worry about what others think. 

 

Post # 26
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

My 4 year old son wears his Elsa dress and his Elsa braid hair extension all the time. my daughter’s first week of life was only in her brother’s hand me downs, bc that was all I had. one day my daughter was in a purple frilly shirt and people were still calling her a boy, my son has gorgeous hair and eyes and as a baby people called him a girl all the time.  dress your kids how you want and don’t worry about what others think.   

Post # 27
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Bumble Beekeeper

dress your baby however you want! My daughter has piercing blue eyes (literally strangers have stopped me to comment on them as they walk past) and her wardrobe has a lot of blue because she looks great in it. Sure people thought she was a boy a lot but I just told them her name, they realized their mistake, and we all moved on. Now she’s a toddler and has chosen some pink in the mix too and that’s fine. Her clothes are equal mix from the boy and girl departments because we don’t care what she wears so long as it is weather appropriate and makes her feel awesome. 

Post # 28
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I honestly just don’t get worries like these. Not saying your feelings aren’t justified but I don’t give a F what people think about how I dress my kid. I can’t even imagine caring what other people think. Frankly, I find that peopl who fall over themsevles to make sure everything their kid has is gender nutral to be silly. Some boys like pink, some girls like blue. Some girls love all things frilly while some boys love dance. Some boys love trucks and dirt while some girls would die at the sight of a bug. Seriously……it.does.not.matter. Dress your kid how you want. Personally I think dressing tiny kids is the best because at some point they’re all going to grow up and wear whatever the hell they want anyway despite what you choose for them. 

For the record I have a two year old boy and dress him “girly” to some people – because we wear a lot of classic southern kids clothes like bubbles, jon jons, diaper sets, and smocked outfits.  He has all kinds of toys in every shape and size from a doll and play kitchen to ball pit and monster truck. He is the most rowdy wild thing every and is OBSESSED with trucks more than anything in the world. We didn’t condition him with “boy toys” because IMO most early development baby toys are already gender neutral. He just naturally loves “boy toys” despite me dressing him in smocked bubbles. 😉 

 

Post # 29
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Bumble Beekeeper

also I’m pregnant with a boy now and the first comment out of everyone’s mouth is “awww, too bad you can’t reuse clothes!” um…yea I can. IDGAF what color newborn onesie he shits up the back of! Plus his sister likes trucks and dinosaurs so we have plenty of that stuff too when he’s older and has an opinion (if that’s his opinion – he can wear her Elsa t-shirts too if he prefers). The only clothes I plan on buying him are special occasion outfits and really that’s just because babies dressed like little old men are super cute lol. 

Post # 30
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I have a girl and I usually dress her for function and comfort. When she was very small she wore a lot of “boy” clothes because it was winter and the girl clothes were all thin material and dresses and the boy clothes just looked warmer and more comfortable to me. I mean, I wasn’t picking super masculine stuff but I feel like things like dinosaurs and Batman are gender neutral even if they are marketed to boys. 

In the summer she tends to wear more “girly” clothes because again, I’m dressing her for comfort and tempature so she can wear cute little shorts and t-shirts. She pretty much never wears dresses though, at first because I didn’t feel like she needed to wear a dress just to hang around the house and play and now because I get the feeling she doesn’t like them. She tends to pull on the skirts and whine if we make her sit down in a chair or her car seat in a dress so I take it to mean she’s uncomfortable. She also despise headbands, bows and hats and will rip them out of her hair. My aunt tried to get me to start using hair glue and gluing bows in her hair which I refused. I finally started telling people that she is a PERSON not a doll for them to play dress up with. 

FWIW, my family hates it. They think I buy her too many boy things and don’t dress her cutesy enough. As she’s gotten older it’s gotten better but when she was small they couldn’t stand me putting her in Spider-Man outfits all the time. My go to response now is “She isn’t a babydoll, she’s a human being.” She likes playing with cars and baby dolls, neither is wrong.

I say dress your kid how you want.

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