(Closed) General loneliness

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
3053 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I could’ve written this myself! I am the exact same way, I totally understand. I don’t get sad and lonely too often but I do wish that I went out more and had more friends sometimes. It used to be easy for me to make friends and now it’s anything but.

If you figure out the secret please share lol

Post # 4
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m the same way, although it’s mostly my fault as Im not really the go out and do stuff type of gal.

Post # 5
862 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

if we lived closer I’d totally be your friend. I find it really difficult to make friends outside of school because there’s very few women in my line of work. 🙁 and all my friends from school are so far away now, since I moved to a different country…

Post # 6
313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Me too although I have some good friends at work who get me through the day. I don’t really have any advice sorry.

Post # 7
241 posts
Helper bee

Me too. I work from home and am in a long distance relationship. I feel very lonely. I’m actually considering getting a part time job just to be out of the house. Also volunteering. I don’t know how people make friends these days…

Post # 9
47 posts

You are not alone.  I completely get where you are coming from.  I work full time, and my BFF works full time, and we rarely see eachother.  It makes it very hard to get together and visit. 

I sometimes feel the same way about “getting myself out there”. I’ve thought about joining a local book club.  I love to read, and don’t make time for it anymore.

Chin up dear!  😉

Post # 10
910 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You are not alone….

I have only three friends and a bunch of acquaintances.

I lost a close friend during the wedding process (bridesmaid horror story) which saddened my wedding day…..

I thought that I would become friends with the DH’s friends wives but that has not really been the case (they are all moms and when we do get together all they talk about is their children)……. 

I have tried to pick up some new hobbies and that has kept me entertained….

I have also joined some meet up groups,,,, hopefully this works……..

Post # 11
1886 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Baimee:  It is definitely harder to make friends when you’re grown and out of school.  If you enjoy reading, have you thought about finding a book club? I’ve made most of my “grown up” friends through my job, classes at my gym, and through joining a book club with people I barely knew – basically, getting out there and finding people with common interests. If you like animals, you could also consider volunteering at your local Humane Society.

I know you already know this, but not all women are the traitorous kind – I’ve been backstabbed a few times, but I’ve also been lucky enough to find a small group of girlfriends who have been nothing but loyal and supportive. It was definitely hard to put myself back out there after being hurt, just like in a dating relationship… but I am glad I did.

Post # 13
4930 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I’m the same way too! I’m a student teacher, and the semester hasn’t started back up quite yet. FH had the day off work today, but he spent it with his best friend, so I spent the day lying around the house, watching Say Yes To The Dress. I have two girl friends, but one works a lot and lives about 30 minutes away, and the other is 37 weeks pregnant, on bedrest, and always sleeping.

I don’t really know what to do about it either. Once my student teaching starts back, I’ll barely have enough time for FH, much less doing things with friends or “putting myself out there”.  

Post # 14
9181 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Aw, hugs to you! Sounds like a lot of girls here would be your friend 🙂

I agree with getting yourself out there – join a local library book club, a running or other sports club, volunteer at a food bank or animal shelter, etc. Some of my best friends in my current town I met through doing those things. 

Post # 15
1956 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

On occasion I feel alone, but I’m surrounded by lovely people so those occasions are few and far between.

Post # 16
47 posts

@Baimee:  Seriously?!  What a basket case. I understand your hesitation completely.  I just wrote a post on this yesterday, I wish I could be more friendly with my co-worker she’s just so damn negative, and mean!  Agh, let me know if you join a book club, maybe I’ll actually do it this year, instead of talking about it, haha.   

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