Post # 1
Does anyone else have a problem with this? I get sad and lonely fairly often. I used to really enjoy work and loved having our small talk conversations there, but slowly everyone has left for one reason or another and it’s just a couple of us now, and not nearly so fun, which is fine. It’s work.
SO obviously has other things to do.
I don’t really have a lot of friends. I have two or so, one I don’t see often enough due to schedule, and one being a bit of a distance away.
I end up talking to my mom on the phone a LOT. More or less every night, especially while walking my canine. Now mom’s work hours have changed, so that’s dwindled as well.
In addition I just lost a friend who I talked to a lot, and actually talke to about me and my feelings on things. That was a first in years. They are gone now though, and that’s making things harder.
I know I just need to ‘get myself out there’ or something, but honestly between work and school I don’t have much motivation. I have a very hard time making friends with women, especially after being betrayed by a couple, and I don’t want to hang out with men, as I don’t find it appropriate. Additionally, people in my age group generally are out to party, and I really am not. I like dinner with drinks, but not a night at the club.
I don’t know, there isn’t too much of a point to this, other than to just put it out there and to see if anyone else ever feels this way!
Post # 3
I could’ve written this myself! I am the exact same way, I totally understand. I don’t get sad and lonely too often but I do wish that I went out more and had more friends sometimes. It used to be easy for me to make friends and now it’s anything but.
If you figure out the secret please share lol
Post # 4
I’m the same way, although it’s mostly my fault as Im not really the go out and do stuff type of gal.
Post # 5
if we lived closer I’d totally be your friend. I find it really difficult to make friends outside of school because there’s very few women in my line of work. 🙁 and all my friends from school are so far away now, since I moved to a different country…
Post # 6
Me too although I have some good friends at work who get me through the day. I don’t really have any advice sorry.
Post # 7
Me too. I work from home and am in a long distance relationship. I feel very lonely. I’m actually considering getting a part time job just to be out of the house. Also volunteering. I don’t know how people make friends these days…
Post # 8
I’m glad I’m not alone!
I’ve been invited to things here and there, but I don’t really want to go hang out with people I don’t like just to have something. I just want to have someone to chat with about things and go to lunch with sometimes, or maybe take our dogs out. A dinner party occasionally would be lovely.
It’s just so much harder with a full schedule! When I work 40 hours a week and my one other friend does too, with different days off… yikes! I also have my evenings taken up by school.
Another part is that I rarely ever get prettied up because of this! I mean, I make an effort for work and so on, but they aren’t my own clothes really. Boy I do love my clothes, too!
Post # 9
You are not alone. I completely get where you are coming from. I work full time, and my BFF works full time, and we rarely see eachother. It makes it very hard to get together and visit.
I sometimes feel the same way about “getting myself out there”. I’ve thought about joining a local book club. I love to read, and don’t make time for it anymore.
Chin up dear! 😉
Post # 10
You are not alone….
I have only three friends and a bunch of acquaintances.
I lost a close friend during the wedding process (bridesmaid horror story) which saddened my wedding day…..
I thought that I would become friends with the DH’s friends wives but that has not really been the case (they are all moms and when we do get together all they talk about is their children)…….
I have tried to pick up some new hobbies and that has kept me entertained….
I have also joined some meet up groups,,,, hopefully this works……..
Post # 11
@Baimee: It is definitely harder to make friends when you’re grown and out of school. If you enjoy reading, have you thought about finding a book club? I’ve made most of my “grown up” friends through my job, classes at my gym, and through joining a book club with people I barely knew – basically, getting out there and finding people with common interests. If you like animals, you could also consider volunteering at your local Humane Society.
I know you already know this, but not all women are the traitorous kind – I’ve been backstabbed a few times, but I’ve also been lucky enough to find a small group of girlfriends who have been nothing but loyal and supportive. It was definitely hard to put myself back out there after being hurt, just like in a dating relationship… but I am glad I did.
Post # 12
@MsCaptainCanada: A book club isn’t a bad idea. I do like reading quite a bit and haven’t made myself do it for various reasons
I know all women aren’t traitors. I am just still a bit sore. One girl I was becoming friends with (I held her while she cried over things! Whaaaaat) actually stole my things, had people harass me, and tried to pretty much destroy me. Why? She thought I was trying to steal her menfolk. Girl be cray.
Post # 13
I’m the same way too! I’m a student teacher, and the semester hasn’t started back up quite yet. FH had the day off work today, but he spent it with his best friend, so I spent the day lying around the house, watching Say Yes To The Dress. I have two girl friends, but one works a lot and lives about 30 minutes away, and the other is 37 weeks pregnant, on bedrest, and always sleeping.
I don’t really know what to do about it either. Once my student teaching starts back, I’ll barely have enough time for FH, much less doing things with friends or “putting myself out there”.
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Aw, hugs to you! Sounds like a lot of girls here would be your friend 🙂
I agree with getting yourself out there – join a local library book club, a running or other sports club, volunteer at a food bank or animal shelter, etc. Some of my best friends in my current town I met through doing those things.
Post # 15
On occasion I feel alone, but I’m surrounded by lovely people so those occasions are few and far between.
Post # 16
@Baimee: Seriously?! What a basket case. I understand your hesitation completely. I just wrote a post on this yesterday, I wish I could be more friendly with my co-worker she’s just so damn negative, and mean! Agh, let me know if you join a book club, maybe I’ll actually do it this year, instead of talking about it, haha.