(Closed) General manager is bullying me at work…

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

She sounds awful! I think that you’re right to stand up to her. There’s no reason to quit a job that you like! Don’t worry about tomorrow. The worst that can happen is you doing the same thing you were going to do anyway….to give your two weeks notice. I doubt that will be necessary unless the owner is an asshole too! 

Post # 4
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would write down everything you want to say, that way you don’t have to worry about forgetting anything.  I definitely think you need to discuss this with the owners, or else they don’t know what is going on.  Sounds like Mary needs to get the boot…or get laidSurprised

Post # 5
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4824 posts
Honey bee

I think you are doing the right thing.

Make a list of the high points you want to list and a list of the incidents so you dont forget anything.

Start of with the general problems and when/if they question you further you can go into the individual cicumstances/situations.

I think starting broad will show them that its not just one problem or time. Its the confluence of a lot of situations. If you start off with the examples its harder for them to see the “theme” or over-arching problem.

You will do great! It is nerve wracking, but you could make it much better for yourself as well as for the other employees. 

Post # 6
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3166 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

you’re so awesome and courageous – just take your time in the meeting and maybe keep a notecard with bullet points in your purse so you don’t forget key bits! even though this is the internet and i don’t know you, i’m seriously really proud of you for not letting the manager bully you! i would definitely mention that the asst. manager told you that you’re not her only ‘victim’. you’ve done everything right and are going about this in the right way. good luck tomorrow, you’ll be awesome!

Post # 7
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Honey bee

@MrsSl82be: hehehe.

My mom says dont automatically get mad at the pissy cashier. You dont know her problems. Maybe she is going through a divorce and hasnt been laid in 5 years 🙂

Post # 8
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3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I have had to deal with this in the past. It is very helpful if you can give specific instances like you did here. Bring in notes that you can refer to and turn over if request. Write down dates/times and what she has done to make you feel uncomfortable. Tell the owners that you reported it to the assitant manager and she suggested you contact them. Depending on how receptive they are, I would also inform them that you have been told that other staff has had issues with her but don’t feel comfortable reporting things second hand and maybe they could talk to the assistant manager to find out which employees have issues and why. Keep repeating that you really like and enjoy your job and are eager to learn new things and take on more responsibility but that you also expect to be treated with respect.

Post # 9
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755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I had a manager somewhat like this. She was just rude. And I was going to go talk to the owners and before I could schedule a meeting, I called to get my hours for the upcoming week and the girl working that day said “oh, I heard you got fired.” And so I just said whatever, and about two days later the manager called me and said, “Uh, Clarissa,” and before she finished I said, “I know you fired me, it’s okay, I’ve already talked to the owners and they are going to have a talk with you later about your mistreatment of me and the other employees and the way you went about firing me.”

She wasn’t too happy after that haha.

Post # 12
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3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

In my situation, the manager got fired and I was promoted. I wasn’t aiming for that, it was just an awesome side effect of a very crappy situation. You spend a lot of time at work- it is important that you like who you work with, or at the very least, are treated with respect. That is not asking for a lot!

Post # 13
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755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@LindsayMaree: It’s okay. It was a craphole job anyway haha!

Post # 15
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853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I had A VERY similar situation, and did end up quitting. The owners of the store knew all along what had been going on, but didn’t have enough DOCUMENTATION to do anything about it. Fellow employees encouraged me to contact the district manager since it had been going on for awhile. She told me to document everything (and she was doing the same) and she will keep presenting information to the owners. As far as I know, that wretched woman is still there, and I wrote a scathing letter to the owners when I quit, but it did make a difference after talking to my District Manager; my manager was walking on egg shells after each time my DM had to call her in.

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