- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I’m a bundle of nerves right now!
I work at a flower shop and an organic market and enjoy both jobs. I originally started working at the market to save up extra money for our wedding and have grown to really love working there. I like the manual labor and I enjoy talking with customers. It’s a really great job for me.
My general manager, however, has been bullying me lately and it had almost driven me to give the owners my two weeks notice.
A few weeks ago, I was scheduled to go into work at 10:30am, when I got a phone call from my general manager (let’s called her Mary) while I was in the shower. When I got out of the shower and listened to the voicemail, she had asked me to come in 15 minutes early. I rushed through getting ready and got there exactly at 10:10. When I got there, she told me that because her kids had a school delay that day, she needed to leave work at 10:30 to take them to school. She then said, “I didn’t really need you to come in 15 minutes early, I just couldn’t have you coming in late today.”
I have never shown up late to work, quite the contrary actually. I’m always 5-10 minutes early for my scheduled shift to start. Also, she intentionally said this loud enough for the nearby customers to hear, with a big smile on her face, almost like she was trying to embarrass me. She then didn’t leave until 10:40 to take her kids to school.
This past Wednesday, at the end of my shift, Mary called me into her office and asked me if I liked working there.
I told her, with a smile, “Yes, I love working here.”
She replied, “Really? You don’t act like it.”
I said, “What? Really? That’s a huge problem then.” I had no idea what to say.
She said, “You’re good with the customers and you get your work done, but I don’t know, sometimes it just seems like you hate working here. I can read people really well…so I know.”
I said, “Well, that’s really concerning to me because I really like working here. It a lot of hard work, and I’m trying to get back into the swing of hard labor again. Do you mean because my face is red and I’m all sweaty?”
She said, “No.”
I said, “Oh, well, I’m also getting used to working 10 hour shifts. When I was hired in, we agreed that I’d work a few hours here and there when people called in sick or you couldn’t get anyone to work a shift and now I’ve been working 20 hours a week. I’m a little tired at the end of the day, if that’s what you mean.”
And then she said, “No. That’s not what I mean either. And also, I need you to work these shifts because no one else will. If you decide to quit, it’s no skin off my back.”
I couldn’t believe she said that. It really hurt to hear that I wasn’t a valued employee.
I talked about how hurt I was with my Fiance later that night and decided that since I didn’t actually need the job, as I was just working there for extra money, I was just going to put my two weeks in and leave it at that.
Two days later I was scheduled to work with the assistant manager and I ended up telling her bits and pieces of what had happened. She urged me to talk to the owners about it and said that this isn’t the first time she’s bullied someone. She also told me that every other employee there has had a problem with Mary and it seems to be getting worse.
So, I scheduled an appointment to talk to the owners tomorrow at 3pm…And I’m nervous as hell. I’m so scared that I’m going to forget everything I want to say or that I’m going to come across as over-sensitive or something. I don’t even know.
Also, about 10 minutes ago, the assistant manager texted me saying that the owner called her and asked her if she knew why I had scheduled a meeting with him. She said that she told him a little bit about it, but “just be honest with him and don’t be nervous. It will be alright! You’re an awesome employee, please don’t quit!” Which was super reassuring and very kind of her.
I found the courage to schedule the meeting…now I need to find the courage not to forget everything I want to say.
Thanks for reading this…it’s quite possibly the longest post I’ve ever seen on these boards.
Have any of you guys ever dealt with anything like this? Do you have any suggestions for me?