Member- Minaaakim
- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Hi all—
I wanted to write a general Tip advice since I noticed there were other tip/advice posts for specific things like photography, nails, and bridal showers. Its now 18 days away from my wedding and while I have not experienced the fruits of my labor (you will have to bear with me, English phrases are not my specialty since its not my first language!), I have, however, experienced the hair pulling, nail biting, and war games called “wedding planning”.
Below are my simple advice for the “hot right off the market” brides/grooms!
-Eliminate the middle man/lady. It doesn’t mean do not have a planner, but with my eager mother wanting to help, she designated herself some tasks. One of them being the main contact for the hotel. With the invites all sent out with accommodation cards, she failed to mention that we would need a headcount for those who would like to join us the next morning for breakfast (also at the hotel). Eliminating the middle person allows you to obtain all the information you need without losing important information that you may need to hear before. If you really would like a middle man/lady, I recommend designating the less important tasks to them instead.
-Follow up with vendors after meeting. This might be a no brainer to most people, but with tons of clients, these vendors can accidently mixup/forget what you wanted. We’re all human and for extra security, follow up with an email!
-Use visual tools in meetings. Its always a plus and if you think you look crazy ( I had that fear for some reason of looking cheese balls), just remember its better safe than sorry and visual tools is what vendors prefer to understand what look you want. You also wont look crazy unless if you start acting crazy.
-Stay simple in decorating…last thing you want your wedding to look like is a high school prom night or color run marathon. Add little things to accent the room—mother was always right in saying “less is more”.
-Think about yourself 20 years from now with your hubby…do you want to look back and think “I wish I did that or I wish I didn’t?”. Sure your hair maybe out of style or your dress may be “old school” to your children, but im referring to décor and activities. (ie: one of my coworkers had a “NJ Shore” theme wedding—don’t ask— and rented that electric riding bull thing that makes you fall off…not sure how its NJ shore related as Im from Atlantic City and never seen one, but whatever.) Might be fun but I can say for sure it wasn’t a smart thing to ride for some women’s dress choices.
What are some tips you would add to future brides and/or to your just-engaged self?
