- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Okay, this is a general rant about planning my wedding. I feel that with the exception of my venue, we keep getting shafted and get 2nd or 3rd choice options for our vendors because everything books up so early. Wedding date? It’s a Sunday b/c all Saturdays have been booked for more than a year. Hotel blocks? Everything is booked up, so I’m at 3rd & 4th choice hotels. The straw that broke the camel’s back? Rehearsal dinner restaurant. There’s a great one 5 min from the hotels and venue that I have been raving about to my fiance for about a month. I call this week, and it’s booked for a Saturday night rehearsal dinner! And to make matters worse it was booked last week. 🙁 I knew there were other Sat weddings in town, but didn’t think there were other Sunday weddings in the same town as well.
We got engaged Christmas (popular, I’m sure) so in January, many places were booked for October weddings, and had been booked for months! So we settled for a Sunday. I should have booked hotel blocks when I booked my venue, but since this is my first time planning a wedding, I didn’t know that! So by March, all good hotels are booked too. Now this Rehearsal Dinner fiasco. The other option is another restaurant that is 45 min away from hotels and venue (my fiance’s choice). I just feel like 45 min is a real inconvenience for our guests, not to mention downtown parking. Ugh. I don’t want to make things more difficult for my guests; I feel like it’s already difficult since it’s a Sunday wedding and most out of towners will have to take Monday off to travel.
I feel like at almost every step of the way we keep settling b/c things are “already taken.” But I just don’t want to postpone the wedding for like a year and a half.
Why does the WIC (wedding industrial complex) force brides to book things out a year or more in advance? If I had to do it all over again, I would have scoped out venues and dates well before we got engaged. Heck, I would have thrown down deposit money just to get my date choice (that’s what I tell my long term relationship friends, start looking NOW, don’t wait for the ring).
And to make matters worse, my fiance thinks I’m crazy for being so proactive & focusing on this so much. I shop around for best prices on dj, flowers, photog, and try to book them early so that we can get that date and he thinks I’m nuts! It’s almost April & the wedding is in October! But I have to; if I left things up to him, he’d try to throw everything together in August or September for an October wedding. Ack! (sidenote on this: my fiance is in charge of finding the dj b/c the music is “so important” to him, his words not mine. well, it’s been 3 months and he’s received 1 phone number of a dj a friend knows, whom he hasn’t even called. My Dad just booked a dj as a backup to get it done. Ugh. Thanks Dad.)
I’m sorry, I don’t expect anyone to fix this or offer advice, I just needed to vent and get it out. Thanks.