Post # 1
Happy story, just wanted some input!
SO and I have been dating five years, living together for four, no engagement yet. I am very close to his parents, they always tell me they already consider me family, we spend many holidays with the and I love having them around!
now, they have three sons, one of which is getting married in Mexico in January 2014, and the inlaws are covering quite a large amount if the wedding costs. Well they recently surprised myself, my SO, and the youngest son by paying for all of our trips in full, about 2 thousand dollars per person! I am just stunned. They are not rich by any stretch, I mean, they are recently retired, but they do just fine, oil wells on their land give them quite the financial boost.
SO and I are fine financially, so there would have been no difficulty for us or for his other brother to book our own trips.
now to get some opinions :), I feel like I should do something for them, I’ve thanked them in person and told them how much it means to me, but I feel like bringing them to dinner or just a thank you card is not enough! Any ideas of what would be an appropriate way of Showing my appreciation?
Post # 3
@totalchaos58: It sounds like family is really important to them so maybe make them dinner in your house instead as a thank you. I think a personally cooked meal is a better than you than dinner in a restaurant because of the time and effort that goes into it.
Post # 4
@totalchaos58: pop out some babies start making them grandkids muahahahaha
Post # 5
@totalchaos58: that is such a lovely thing for them to do! I would be speechless. I think you should make them a nice home cooked meal/invite them to stay for a day or two and buy them a nice bottle of wine or something a bit more decadent than their usual.
Post # 6
@j_jaye: that is a great plan! they always have us over for holidays and his mom does so much cooking and work for us, and i know she always enjoys it when she doesn’t have to lift a finger when we have them over for dinner at our place :). that woman is always on the go and helping everyone, same with dad, so that sounds perfect!
@Dogsbody92: lmao! oh we have been getting the grandkids talks for awhile now, lol! once, when SO asked his mom what she wanted for christmas, she gave him a Sears flyer with all the kids and babies circled!!! i just about died laughing so hard….subtle she is not! haha, we just ask her if she wants “quality or quantity”, plus she has to get her slow-poke son to propose first! 🙂
@elliptical2013: i think that that is the plan of action i will take! great meal, some relax time at our house. i love having them over and they are always on the go, so it will be nice to spend more than just a quick two hours at our place where they don’t have something they are on a mission for!
thanks for the input everyone! keep em coming if you think of anything else 🙂
Post # 7
@elliptical2013: +1 for poppin’ out some kids.
Post # 8
Lots of great advice!
I also have very generous future In Laws and have been looking for more ways to show my appreciation (besides more grandkids lol).
Love the idea of having them over for a nice dinner!
I also have been making them feel a part of the wedding planning and I’m looking for ways to incorporate something special for them into the ceremony, will talk to the officiant to see if he has any ideas as well.
Another good tip is to get them their wedding pictures right away. That’s one thing I heard from my future In Laws is that they never got an album for their daughters wedding which was 6 years ago (if it’s important to them).
Post # 9
I agree with PP’s suggestions on having them over for a home cooked meal but what about a more tangible thank you gift? Maybe a nice framed photo of the family taken during the trip? (Obviously this would have to be gifted once home) I know my mom and Mother-In-Law love having photos of us around the house. And it would be extra coming from you.
Post # 10
@MrsBananas: i love the idea of the framed photo! i used to do picture and art framing for a living, so i could make something pretty fancy with my own hands at the shop i used to work at 🙂
@something_orange: we will have to make sure they get a nice album of the photos, they will love that!
Post # 11
Yep! Dinner now, and unlimited access to grandbabies in the future!
Post # 12
@BrandNewBride: haha unlimited access to grandbabies is right! they live on a farm in the middle of nowhere right now, and since they have retired, they are looking to move to a city, they are between the city that we live in , and the one of the brother getting married in January, lol they said whoever has kids first is the city they are moving to! so i guess if we want them here we better get on that 😉 haha!