(Closed) Genital Warts anyone?

posted 6 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - ceremony at a gazebo outside, reception at neighboring restaurant on a lake

Genital warts can occur anywhere in the genital area regardless of if you have regular or anal intercourse.  Have you ever had more than one outbreak?  From what I have heard, many people that have only 1 outbreak and no second outbreak have fought off the virus. 

There are hundreds of strains of the HPV virus, some cause genital warts, some increase risk of cervical cancer.  The way this virus and herpes (HSV) works is that the virus can be in an “active” contagious state without showing any visible symptoms.  So it is possible to pass it someone else through sex even when you are not seemingly in an outbreak. 

If you and your fiance have been having vaginal sex and he hasn’t gotten genital warts, then you either don’t have it anymore (if you haven’t had more than the one outbreak) or he is immune to the specific strain you have, OR he does have it and it is in a dormant phase and he hasn’t had a break out yet.  Just because your warts were originally on your anal area doesn’t mean that only anal sex will transfer the virus. 

Regardless, I think you should let your fiance know.  Good luck!! 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

but do explain that hpv is super common so he doesn’t freak out. Like Shera said, loads of people have some form of it, and never know! Condoms can help but don’t necessarily prevent it. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - ceremony at a gazebo outside, reception at neighboring restaurant on a lake

Saucy is right – the stats are something like 2/3rds of people over age 35 have at least 1 strain of HPV. 

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

With you two being sexually active, it’s a high chance he already is carrying the herpes virus. You don’t have to have an active breakout to pass it on to someone.

If it is due to HPV, there has not been strong evidence that HPV really affects men. It has been more connected to women and possible cervical cancer. Also there are lots of different strains of HPV. I believe there are only 4 that are strongly connected to cancer and 2 connected to warts. But in most women, the HPV can disappear with your immune system and it depends on which strain you have. 

If it’s HSV, then this stays with you forever. But majority of people never have flare ups. 

I think you should be honest with your fiance. Most people already carry either HSV or HPV and don’t know it. And you never know, your fiance may have contracted it from any of his past partners. On most free STD tests, they don’t check for herpes virus because one it costs more bc you need a blood sample and it undergoes a complicated lab procedure, and because most people do have herpes. I really think if he loves you, this issue should not be a concern

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

If he’s already your Fiance he probably won’t freak out as much as you imagine he will… good luck. A close friend of mine had to deal with the exact same thing with her Fiance, and he was surprisingly cool about it.

 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - ceremony at a gazebo outside, reception at neighboring restaurant on a lake

A lot of people have HPV, many less have HSV (herpes).  Herpes can be fought off by the immune system as well as HPV.  There are 100s of strains of HPV, many cause warts and many cause cancer and many are benign. 

 

@Ms_Oct_2014:  I think there are several types connected to both cancer and genital warts.  You may be getting the 4 and 2 numbers from the vaccine that are out.  The vaccine Gardasil protects against 4 strains of HPV, 2 that cause 75% of cervical CA and 2 that cause 90% of genital warts.  There are several other strains linked to CA and warts but they cause a much smaller percentage. 

There are links between HPV and penile cancer, but penile cancer is VERY rare.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - ceremony at a gazebo outside, reception at neighboring restaurant on a lake

I also had a close friend that had to tell her fiance, and he was great about it!  He will likely be very understanding.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

When I was younger, a former boyfriend had a cold sore. Now, I would often get, and still do, have cold sores when I get extremely stressed out. My former boyfriend preformed oral sex when he had the cold sore, and it crossed over to me. (sorry if TMI). I never had another outbreak after that until recently. 3 years after the first experience, I was pregnant and had a small outbreak that was going to postpone inducing my labor. I sat on the couch and cried knowing what it was without even seeing the doctor. I finially told Fiance what it was and how I got it. He was COMPLETELY understanding and told me that he would be with me for the rest of his life no matter what was wrong with me. After seeing my dr, I was given a prescription and it went away, and so far, have not had another outbreak. *crosses fingers*

So happy he took it well! 🙂

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@remainanonymous:  If you got it after sleeping or just having genital contact with the guy, he probably did give it to you…if you had genital contact before, the other(s) could have given it to you… there doesn’t have to be penetration.  but it’s just so common there’s no real way of knowing who gave it to you unless that’s the only sexual contact you had ever had.

Guys are carriers of HPV, too. Sometimes guys can also get warts!

Go to HPV.com 

Glad your man is being supportive! As long as you go for your annual pap you should be alright!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - ceremony at a gazebo outside, reception at neighboring restaurant on a lake

@SaucyMcgee:  Great point! 

@remainanonymous:  

Make sure to get your annual pap.  They analyze if the cervical cells are multiplying at abnormal rates/detect HPV cancerous cells

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Why didn’t you tell him earlier? Glad to hear it took it well though.

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

When Fiance and I first met, we dated for about a month, split up and each had a relationship with someone else before reconnecting and getting back together about 5 months later. A few months after getting back together we both started noticing bumps and realized we were both having an outbreak of genital warts. Neither of us had ever had them before so we’ll never be able to tell if we contracted them years ago or one of us picked it up in our previous relationship and then passed it along to the other…we just choose not to point blame since it wouldn’t solve anything anyway and we can’t be sure who’s “fault” it is. We went to the Planned Parenthood and had them removed (mine were worse and took more sessions to remove them all). I haven’t had an outbreak since, and the gyno had told me that because of my age it might be easier for me to fight off the virus. Fiance is much older than I am and still occasionally gets a wart here and there but they don’t really bother us since I haven’t gotten them back and they’re tiny anyway. I’ve just come to terms with the fact that it’s becoming more common and as long as you’re open and honest about it, that’s all that’s important.

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