Genuinely Interested if Anyone Has Heard of This? Trapping Husband?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

I mean, I’m sure it is a thing because there are some insane people in the world. But I don’t think any moral, well adjusted women actually do this.

Post # 3
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Busy bee

Well apparently it does as evidenced by your friend’s sister telling you that she has done it. It seems awfully short-sighted though, considering the financial responsibility for each child lasts well beyond the day care years. 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’m pretty sure this is what happened to a family member. He was getting ready to break it off, they were rocky for a while and then she turns up pregnant. He suspects she stopped taking her BCP. Obviously he should have used condoms or just not had sex with someone he was going to break up with, but yeah lol. They’re still together and the kid is 2 now. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

sarathemermaid :  Do I think it’s cool what your friend’s sister did? No. Do I think it’s any of your friend’s business? Also no. What is she going to talk to her sister about. This doodle can’t be undid. They already have the third child.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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sarathemermaid :  I’ve heard of this happening to a couple my friend knows, although I do not know them myself. Unfortunately, it’s not shocking that this happens, it’s pretty disgusting though.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Take what she said with a grain of salt, as she was drunk and so happy to be out of the house. having 2 under 2 is really difficult and makes sense that she stays at home if daycare costs are so high. Btw she didn’t “trap” him. He’s her husband and doesn’t seem he wanted to leave before the baby according to your post. 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’ve heard of people getting pregnant to force a marriage but to get pregnant with a third to stay home when you couldn’t afford to stay home with two? It’s hard enough to handle three kids that young, but with the added stress of not enough money it sounds like a recipe for misery. 

What exactly does your friend hope to gain by talking to her sister? The ship has already sailed, hasn’t it?

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I posted a few months ago about this. Women who get accidentally pregnant on purpose.  It’s definitely a thing! 

Those surprise babies generally arent a surprise. Well to the guy they are. So bad.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

No… but im not friends with insane women either

This is nuts and just an awful way to bring a baby into the world.

Also your friends sister must be a bit dumb because this is definately financially worse long term.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
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sarathemermaid :  I listened to my sil whine and complain for two years about how she wasn’t going to have another baby, how she will never get the girl that she always wanted etc. she even told us that she didn’t need bil in order to have another baby, that she could use a donor.

Then, she expected all of us to be so completely shocked at the oopsie baby that happened as a result of one drunken night together.

It was insulting how stupid she thought we were, but to her credit, my bil was completely shocked and blown away.

We had to hear about the dangers of drunken one night encounters for a few months.

Then when I said that I wasn’t sure if we could have another baby, my bil said “yeah well you never know, I thought I was done too!!” I was like…. yeaaahhhhh…. that will be a joint decision bud.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

I have a family member who did this. She has a perfectly good degree and was making solid, middle-class money before marriage. Their first was planned and they agreed to no more after that pregnancy, as the husband had a child from a previous relationship already and they felt 2 was a good number. Well, the husband was pressuring his wife to go back to work and she didn’t want to. She wanted to be a Stay-At-Home Mom, so magically they had baby #2 on the way and she’s never gone back to work.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i’ve heard of women buying positive pregnancy tests on ebay to trap their boyfriends into marrying them. 

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