(Closed) German Wedding, What to wear??

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

I’ve been to a handful of German weddings over the past 2 years so I’ll share my experience in hopes that it helps you. First you should find out the location, if it is a churh, castle, etc., the dress is more formal than an outdoor wedding. I’ve seen people in floor length gowns at a church wedding but usually they are the family and close friends of the bride and groom. Since they don’t have bridesmaids I get the feeling the close friends dress more formally to stand out and the brides sister (if there is one) usually wears a gown. That being said, you should be fine with an LBD in any location as you are not really close to the couple. I’ve always worn cocktail type dresses (black, silver, black, lt. pink) and heels and never felt out of place. I went to one wedding at a castle where most of the women wore long dresses. Just be comfortable and prepared to party as the reception rarely ends before 4am. Good luck and PM me if you have any other questions.

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Also take into consideration that traditionally the night before the wedding, Germans celebrate the Polterabend which is like a huge drink fest that goes very late into the evening.  My brother married a German girl that he met while stationed there, and we all flew over for the wedding.  So you’ll want to have outfits for both the Polterabend and the wedding day. 

Post # 6
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3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I just have to say I think German weddings sound WAY too fun! hehe.

Hm. Too bad I want the Fiance to be completely on point on our wedding day or I might look into the Polterabend since he is half German.

Thanks for bringing this up though….I think since we are including CHinese elements into the wedding we should include some German elements for him too! On to Google!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yeah, I think the only reason that the Polterbend went over well is that the guests at this German wedding had high tolerances for alcohol already.  My parents and I were the only Americans there, and we were DRAGGING on the morning of the wedding.  We basically flew in, arrived on Friday, immediately started drinking, got 4 hours of sleep, got up and spent all day with friends and family, went to the wedding, went to the reception where everyone drank AGAIN.  🙂  It was crazy fun, but I don’t think I’d want my Fiance to take part as his tolerance is NOT built up!  🙂

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My FH’s brother’s first wife was from Germany, and they got married there. While it was way before I was in the picture, I did see some old photos and I didn’t see anyone dressed too formally or too casual. I agree with the LBD suggestion!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

We are planning to do the Polterabend 2 nights before in order to incorporate German tradition and be sure everyone (including us) is in top shape for the actual wedding. Not all Germans can handle so much drinking I went to one wedding where the groom found himself puking in the morning and hung over all day and we do NOT want that to happen to anyone.

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