(Closed) Get a dog before having kids?

posted 4 years ago in Pets
Post # 16
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Blushing bee

How awesome, me and my SO literally just did this! We took in a 2 month old German Shepherd puppy a couple weeks ago. We thought it’d be a good way to test our “parenting” skills. And I’ll admit, it has been challanging at times trying to do our normal routine before and after work AND caring for the furry young one. But we’re def making progress adjusting and it’s been fun. We also plan to have kids within another year or two, so by then, the dog should be well trained and old enough that him and the kids can be around each other and play nicely.

I do not have much info on greyhounds though. Sorry.

Here’s a visual of our new fur baby. 

Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Dogs are not practice kids. Unless you’re prepared to devote yourself to its care for the rest of your life, do not get one. 

Post # 18
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Maybe you could see if they have any of the dogs screened for behavior with kids. It’s very important to me to have a dog that is good with kids, I would not put my child in harms way because a dog isn’t good with kids. We rescued a lab and she is amazing with our Dirty Delete. Also, I hate to break it to you, but having a dog is like a drop in the bucket to having a baby. I don’t even think they’re comparable at all.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have friends who rescued a greyhound. He has so many anxiety issues! Poor thing. He’s pretty typical otherwise – he’s mostly just a couch potato. But he can be quite a handful sometimes. And they can’t leave him alone for very long at all. Sometimes they end up boarding him if they want to just go out for the night like seeing a show or a sporting event.

Certainly don’t get a dog for practice. Get it because you want a dog.

Post # 20
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Busy bee

Your plan sounds awesome, and since you’re already a pet parent you will understand how to be. Just be sure that when your baby comes along you don’t neglect the dog. My current rescue was from a home that had a baby and he wasn’t getting the attention he needed to acting out (not being aggressive, but he would get into the garbage and chew on shoes). As long as you will still work with the dog and make sure it knows he’s not being replaced, it’s awesome 🙂

And my friend has a retired racing hound – he says that the dog is so chill but can go for a long walk if you want to go!

Post # 23
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I have a friend with Italian greyhounds.  She calls them “the world’s laziest dog breed”…total cuddle bugs that love couch time!

Will your rescue be a puppy?  If not, you will probably adopt a dog that’s already housebroken.

When I think back on when my dog was a puppy this is what I remember being darastically different from now:

Taking an extra hour to get out the door in the morning due to potty time, play time, and a morning walk 

Having to fly home from work to let the puppy out of his exercise pen for potty training

Spending one evening a week in a puppy training class

Not travelling because it was too soon to leave him with a sitter (even my Dad!)

Worrying and fretting whenver his poop looked unusual 

Getting less sleep due to late night potty runs

Finances – my dog has insurance (worth it!),food, toys, routine vet visits, license, apartment rent increase,  and training classes cost quite a bit, too

 

Now, I haven’t had a baby yet, but I can definetely say that being responsible for a dog is a big commitement.  If you compare my life and routine to that of my friends that don’t have any pets, you would see darastic differences.  They can just pick up and go away for the weekend without a moment’s notice, where as I am hesitant to be away even for just a day trip…I seriously try to take my dog everywhere! 

I also wanted to add that I think it is a good idea to get the dog a couple years before you plan to have a baby simply because it would be A LOT of adjustment to do all the puppy stuff while you are pregnant or have an infant.  Women that can handle all of that are super heroes.  

Post # 24
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I wanted to add that my dog still requires much of what he did as a puppy (expenses, time, exercise, health check ups), but it has gotten so much easier now because he uses a dog door and is really good about going out to his potty.  He is a self-regulating eater, so I can leave dry food out for him and he will only eat what he wants.

One thing I do to entertain him while I am at work is leave him three puzzle toys each morning.  It takes a few minutes to prepare those each day, but it is so worth it.  I tried doggie day camp, but I seemed more anxious there than he is just relaxing at home with his toys until I come back.  As a puppy, he had a harder time with me being at work.

Post # 25
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Personally, I’d wait until your kids are a few years old before getting a dog, based on my two close friends that had dogs and then a baby.

The first family had two golden retrievers from a rescue. They specifically picked the breed because they’re supposed to be great family dogs. Both dogs were very sweet and the parents spent a huge investment of time and money to train them. Despite their best efforts, they’re big dogs and they still got very excited when new people were in the house. When their first was a baby, it was fine, but once she started crawling, they had to keep the dogs locked out of the living room where they spent most of their time. The dogs were never aggressive toward the baby, but if she was on the floor, they’d want to sniff her and once she started standing they’d knock her down accidentaly. So they got locked out of the living room for almost a year, which was really hard on them because they wanted to be in the room with the family. When they got pregnant with their second, they realized that they weren’t being fair to their dogs since they were being separated from the family and would be through the second child, so they adopted them out. It was hard on them and I know my friend felt like a pet mom failure. It really was what was best, given the circumstances, but it was hard.

Second family, has a small terrier mix who they’ve had for years and was definitely their “child” and very well behaved. He did fine when the baby was small, despite wanting desperately to lick the baby. When the kid was around a year, she started pulling up on furniture. The dog was laying on the couch and the baby was sitting on the floor when she pulled up on the couch and reached for the dog. The dog wasn’t expecting it and bit her in the face. Her mom was sitting two feet away but it just happened so quickly. The kid got a couple stitches and is totally fine, but it really stressed out the parents. They very seriously considered giving the dog up for adoption. They finally decided to have a pet trainer come out and work with the dog and the family. They basically just taught the dog to run away from the kid, which ended up working out fine. But they’re now very careful about the dog and baby being anywhere near each other, which is hard on everyone. 

My personal stories are just that. Plenty of people have no issues with introducing new baby to dog. But it just seems easier to wait until a kid is old enough to know not to pull tails or get in a dog’s face before getting a dog.

As for greyhounds, my dad had a Whippet for 13 years when I was growing up. Absolutely wonderful breed. Very quiet and calm and chill. More shy than super social, but they bond closely with family. Foxie didn’t really like long walks. We couldn’t run as fast as he’d like to and so I think he found it annoying to go at our speed. So he was mostly a house dog with short walks to go to the bathroom then we’d take him once or twice a week for a big run off leash. Also, they’re naturally skinny dogs, so you can just keep food out all the time for them. But they don’t do well with separation. Our dog had a hard time learning to cope when dad was gone at work all day. Eventually he got comfortable with his crate and he was fine, but it took some trial and error. I recommend both Greyhounds and Whippets to tons of people, especially if you don’t like barking! 

Post # 26
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Blushing bee

Not really relevant to your situation, but my when my mom had my younger sister someone gave her a puppy as a baby shower present. Worst timing ever… 

On a more relevant note, I think your plan is great. I just recently adopted a greyhound puppy, but she was never a racer. We did foster a couple of retired racers and they were both great dogs. The greyhound rescue group around me is amazing at matching up dogs to families. They know what to look for in testing for cat friendlyness and with children as well, just make sure they know you’ll be ttc in the next couple of years. Make sure if you do go through with it that you make sure you socialize your dog with lots of people including kids so that they continue to like them. Good luck!

Post # 27
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Bee Keeper

Another thumbs up her for greyhounds. They are amazing and if you’re going though the greyhound charity people they will give you a lot of advice and support I’m sure. 

 

In in terms of planning for a family, info about new baby and dogs is out there and bit of prep prior to baby arriving will go a long way. This is from Dogs Trust, the largest dog welfare organisation in the UK. https://www.dogstrust.org.uk/help-advice/factsheets-downloads/factsheetnewbabynov13.pdf

 

 

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Greyhounds are beautiful animals, the laziest animals you will ever meet. Adopting one is great, and they are tested and proven on their bbehaviour. BUT I have seen it go sour, I have seen perfectly behaved, trained greyhounds turn in older age, I have seen approved greyhounds attack small dogs, cats that run and kids. It’s not the breed bexause they are beautiful gentle giant.  It’s the training they have been Given. I Would be cautiouso and probably muzzle if needed when going to parks ect. There are also training groups that can help the transition when you have a baby, you will need to train the dog agai,  teach it to accept the baby and understand that the baby comes first. With some dogs this is hard to do especially if they have been alone for a while. I’m.not saying you shouldn’t at all. Adopting a dog is one of the best things you can do. As a vet tech I see a lot of stuff, I just wanted to tell you what I know.

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