Post # 1
We found a dog we would like to adopt. But we are going to start TTC next month. I am not sure if this the right time, or is there ever a perfect time? We are not sure because, we know they requiere a lot of work and attention. We like the freedom of not having anything/anyone that depends on us. But a baby would change all that and maybe a dog would prepare us a little bit. Plus we both love dogs.
Advice! Thanks bees 🙂
Post # 3
I don’t think theres ever really a good time, but I would imagine once you have a baby you might not want to train a new dog. We got our dog early on as we won’t be TTC for 6 months to a year. Do you have anyone near by that would be able to help? We have FI’s mom and my MOH live very close and can come play with him for a bit if we go to the beach or something for the day so I think that helps- but we do have to work around their schedules to make sure someone will be around or we can only do a half day type of deal.
Post # 4
Personally, I would wait. Dogs are a ton of work, especially puppies (I’m not sure which you’re looking at). They’re a huge time commitment. Adding a baby to that would be a lot of changes, and the dog and the baby may not work well together.
Post # 5
I think it would deff help for in the future when you have a LO. I would say go with it. Is it a dog at a shelter? If so it could already be trained so it woud be easier for you.
Post # 6
If you don’t get a dog now then it’ll be years before you get a dog. Usually the best age I have seen with family and friends is when the youngest is around 4. I have seen people try to get dogs when their kids are still much younger and it seems to be very overwhelming and they don’t have time to spend on training. Is your DH completely on board with this idea and would he help with training? The reason I ask is because if you have a hard pregnancy or are constantly sick you will not be able to take care of a dog even if they are completely trained, nevermind one that needs training. Also, have you thought about your work schedule after you have the baby? If you are working full time it will be very difficult to take care of the baby when you pick him/her up from day care and also take care of the dog. The dog is going to require a walk and attention and if you are working all day you may want to spend that time with your LO and feed them and put them to bed. This is when dogs become difficult after having children, because if you don’t have the time they will feel like they are being replaced.
Post # 7
My vote is to wait. We are currently experience dog/puppy training issues and I could not imagine adding a baby into that mix! Dogs need a lot of attention, and so do newborns ( obviously haha).
Post # 8
I would wait. Some shelters may not even approve you if you tell them you plan on having children in the near future, because they know how hard it is for some people to adapt.
Post # 9
I also wanted to add that shelter dogs can be a mixed bag– you never know their past and you need to be available to deal with all of their issues. I’m not ” telling” you this as much as I am just relaying this info to you! DH and I are in the process now of training our shelter dog and it’s been tough, to say the least.
Post # 10
I think the most important thing is to have time that you can exclusively spend on training the dog and accomodating him into your family. If you are just TTC, having an actual baby in the house could still be a year away, and I think that would be enough time for a relatively well-adjusted dog.
It depends on the dogs temperament and trainability though–I would do a lot of research to make sure you’re not taking on a high-needs dog to whom you may not be able to devote the same level of attention in the future. Many shelters or rescue groups can offer information about if the dog is good with children, too.
Post # 11
I would get the dog before the baby unless you’re planning on waiting a long time after baby to get the dog.
We have our dog and he was a lot of work to train. I simply cannot imagine trying to train a dog while pregnant or with a small child. I just wouldn’t have the time to properly train it!
If the shelter dog you’re getting does not require a ton of training, I would get the dog now.
Post # 12
I agree with many of the PP’s. FI and I rescued a puppy a little over a month ago, and he is a ton of work to train. We love him and he is a great dog, but he still needs to learn a lot as he has the typical puppy tendencies. I’ve said multiple times to him that I don’t know how people train puppies and have babies/small children.
Also, make sure you look into the temperment of the dog and see if your lifestyle will fit well with the dog. For example, labs tend to have tons of energy and need a lot of exercise to release it. If dogs like that don’t get the adequate attention/exercise/training/etc., they tend to become horror stories for the families.
My words of wisdom would be to either get the dog now, before babies, or wait until your little one is around 5ish.
Post # 13
I would get the dog now. Helping a dog adjust to a new home is work, but it’s not that much work. Plus, having a dog in the house will reduce your stress level, which is a good thing, always.
I agree with some PP that if you wait, it could be years before you’re ready again. TTC is not going to conflict with housetraining a dog as much as taking care of an infant will.
Plus, there’s this:
Post # 14
MaraBeth and urchin: That is the same thing my DH and I were thinking. We are just one of those people that make decisions really carefully.
Post # 15
I don’t think I would get a puppy right now, but if you are looking at a slightly older dog, who is maybe closer to a year or older, I think it would work out pretty well. Like others said, if not now, it could be a long time from now. The other plus on an older dog is you will be able to see more of his temperment and gage if he will be good with kids. That would be my fear- what if you get this dog and love him, but it turns out he isn’t good around a baby? But you would have roughly a year to deal with any issues, so I would probably go for it.
We have an older dog now (I got him when he was about a year old from a rescue group) and he’s pretty good with babies. Our plan is to not get another dog until our kids are old enoguh to beg for one.
Post # 16
@loveknows: It’s good that you’re putting a lot of thought and consideration into it! If only more people would do that!