(Closed) Get brother involved

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Is your brother upset about it? I’ve never understood the implied requirement to have your siblings in your bridal party. My sister didn’t have my brother as a groomsman, and neither am I. No feelings have been/ are being hurt.

If bro’s feelings are hurt as well, could he be an usher or maybe do a reading of some sort?

 

Post # 4
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586 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

He could be an usher or do a reading for the ceremony

Post # 5
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Kari 2012: I agree. He’d still be dressed very similar to groomsmen (usually) if he was an usher. He could also do a special reading.

I don’t think that you’re required to have siblings in the Bridal Party, and sometimes they’re equally not interested in joining the Bridal Party. I’d just let the comments roll off your back, and tell your mom that you don’t want to hear it. Anyone that concerned can ask you directly 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@indibee:  I agree with this and Kari. It is NOT REQUIRED for a sibling to be in the wedding party. My brother didnt even want to participate in my wedding, but is happy to just be a guest. I would just ask your brother how he feels about this and if he does want to be included in your wedding, he could be an usher or do a reading.

Post # 7
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85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Uh huh, got it, your mom’s friends are concerned that your brother’s feelings are hurt…yeah, right.

Give him some job, usher, reader, parking cars, keeping you hydrated…so he wont be crying himself to sleep every night.  Breathe!  

Post # 8
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5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

My brothers were not asked to be Groomsmen, and they certainly aren’t up in arms about it.  Does your brother even want to be involved, or are a bunch of biddies speaking on his behalf?

Post # 9
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5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Talk to your brother and see how he feels about participating in your wedding.

Post # 10
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2067 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

One of my brothers was a Groomsmen and the other one was an usher – No biggie! 🙂

Post # 12
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@awillie: Well then asking him to be a groomsman would be difficult as well, all that standing. Moms can lose their minds sometimes when it comes to weddings. I think being a reader or even a host/greeter would be a great position for him. He can have a chair near the ceremony entrance to hand out programs to folks, welcome them, and chat with them until an usher is ready to seat them. Would he like something like that?

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