Post # 1
I just found out that my mom is very upset that my fiance didn’t ask my brother to be a groomsman. She said everyone (aunts, cousins, etc) is asking her about it (to which I said if they have concerns they can ask me!!!). Anyone have any ideas about how we can get my brother involved in a special way?
Post # 3
Is your brother upset about it? I’ve never understood the implied requirement to have your siblings in your bridal party. My sister didn’t have my brother as a groomsman, and neither am I. No feelings have been/ are being hurt.
If bro’s feelings are hurt as well, could he be an usher or maybe do a reading of some sort?
Post # 4
He could be an usher or do a reading for the ceremony
Post # 5
@Kari 2012: I agree. He’d still be dressed very similar to groomsmen (usually) if he was an usher. He could also do a special reading.
I don’t think that you’re required to have siblings in the Bridal Party, and sometimes they’re equally not interested in joining the Bridal Party. I’d just let the comments roll off your back, and tell your mom that you don’t want to hear it. Anyone that concerned can ask you directly 🙂
Post # 6
@indibee: I agree with this and Kari. It is NOT REQUIRED for a sibling to be in the wedding party. My brother didnt even want to participate in my wedding, but is happy to just be a guest. I would just ask your brother how he feels about this and if he does want to be included in your wedding, he could be an usher or do a reading.
Post # 7
Uh huh, got it, your mom’s friends are concerned that your brother’s feelings are hurt…yeah, right.
Give him some job, usher, reader, parking cars, keeping you hydrated…so he wont be crying himself to sleep every night. Breathe!
Post # 8
My brothers were not asked to be Groomsmen, and they certainly aren’t up in arms about it. Does your brother even want to be involved, or are a bunch of biddies speaking on his behalf?
Post # 9
Talk to your brother and see how he feels about participating in your wedding.
Post # 10
One of my brothers was a Groomsmen and the other one was an usher – No biggie! 🙂
Post # 11
thanks for the comments everyone. sometimes my mom just drives me crazy!!! i talked to my bro and he said his feelings are not hurt. the problem with having him be an usher is that he has some physical disabilities and sometimes walking and standing alot ca be quite tough for him.
Post # 12
@awillie: Well then asking him to be a groomsman would be difficult as well, all that standing. Moms can lose their minds sometimes when it comes to weddings. I think being a reader or even a host/greeter would be a great position for him. He can have a chair near the ceremony entrance to hand out programs to folks, welcome them, and chat with them until an usher is ready to seat them. Would he like something like that?